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Heated Discussion!!!
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Heated Discussion!!! I do apologize. Didn't realize it had been half a year since I was last here. Not that it matters to most of you, but the holidays and work have really kept me busy. But I got back on the 19th and so we got together at my place and ate, drank and was merry as we caught up. Until, I opened my big mouth. When I left, Nicole, Michelle and Tim were all cheating on their respective partners. Now it seems, Nicole and Tim have confessed to their loved ones and are currently in<b> open relationships. </font></b>Perhaps I'm too much of an incurable hopeless romantic. Maybe I'm too old-fashioned. But isn't that an oxymoron? Really, the only thing open is legs. What is the point? When you get married, there is a part in the ceremony where the minister says, "forsaking all other." There is a reason for that. You chose this person to be with for the rest of your lives. So no matter how tempted you may be to explore something else, you are proving yourself and your love to your partner by staying faithful. Why would you even want to be in a relationship if you don't want to be with just one person. You can date the same person twenty-five years and sleep around and never call it a relationship. Never make any sort of commitment to them. That to me, makes much more sense. I waited all night for either of them to enlighten me. They never did. After everyone left, I wanted to get on the phone to their lovers. I didn't. Never would. But I wanted to know what makes a person who has seemingly been in a faithful, committed relationship decide to authorize adultery! Like that will fix something? Think about it! There was a reason why they went outside the relationship in the first place. How is that issue being addressed? It's not! All you've done is allowed someone else the opportunity to give them something you didn't. And if they find it elsewhere, particularly if the third party offers everything else you were providing, what guarantees their return? If whatever was missing was important enough to cheat on you for, does it not stand to follow it might be important enough to leave you for as well? At the end of the night I reached this conclusion: There is a natural build-up to relationships. Meeting, dating, dating exclusively or relationship and marriage or its equivalent for gays. During that dating period is when you figure out if you want to be with that person alone. Nothing says you can date more than one person at a time. But when one starts winning your heart, that's when you should evaluate the potential for a successful relationship. With the possible exception of an serious illness, I can think of no justification for devaluing the standards of a relationship. No longer compatible, get out! Sexual issues, talk and work them out together! Communication works for most issues in a relationship. In closing, there are certain expectations that come with a relationship; fidelity, honesty, trust, and love. So before you enter into a relationship, look at the person you are considering and ask yourself, "Can you offer these things over a prolonged period of time?" And if the answer is no, keep dating until something changes. I'm sure I've pissed a few more people off now, either with the content or the length of this thing. Making up for lost time I guess. Until next time, take care! |
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