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Why Georgia Why?
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Why Georgia Why? Why Georgia Why? by John Mayer is running through my head. I’ve been on this site for over 7 years. I’ve been blogging for most of those. My current blog is over 5 years old and I lost the original blog I had before that. I have blogged through exploring my bi-sexuality, swinging, open marriages, 2 college degrees, having a , riding accidents, 2 major surgeries, numerous family deaths, personal tragedies, 2 marriages, 2 separations and divorces. I blog about personal, emotional deep issues for me and share all kinds of details about my life. My blog is my place to express myself. I have always asserted that I do not write for my readers or anyone else but myself. I have always believed that like TV channels if you don’t like something here there are plenty of other channels to watch without spewing hatred, narrow minded, judgmental negative energy. I have never understood the bloggers, watchers and commenters that feel the need to do this. As with life, this is what we choose to make of it and miserable, unhappy people will always try to make others feel as terrible as they do. I urge you as readers and bloggers to spread the positive and refrain from the negative. Open your minds to at least examine ideas other than your own. Encourage the people you like and ignore those you don’t. We are all on our own challenging life’s journey respect other people’s choices and journey. If you don’t have something constructive to say then go somewhere that you do. We all appreciate open discussion and sharing differing opinions. That discussion requires a maturity that is sometimes missing around here lately. I’m so very thankful for my readers. I rarely if ever have a negative comment and that is a wonderful thing. I don’t have the kind of numbers that bring more negative attention and I’m grateful for that. So to my readers, commenters and supporters I thank you! Through the years I’ve been friends with a couple of very popular bloggers, most of them left for various reasons. Some simply left to pursue real life, families, marriages, and all the challenges of real life. Generally the exodus was because of the negative sometimes hateful attention they received as a result of their popularity. I remain grateful that I am not and probably never will be that popular. It’s seems foreign to me that people waste their energy judging others. This site in particular should be a playground of adult open minded people sharing their views on sex, sexuality and relationships. There is a serious lack of acceptance in our society for relationships outside the narrow box of the norm of monogamous heterosexuality. Here in this forum we should be able to discuss the merits, struggles and rewards of the alternative lifestyle. No two alternative<b> lifestyles </font></b>are the same and the beauty is in learning from our differences. I have blogged through my 1st marriage, discovering and exploring my own sexuality, how to open that marriage, the ending of the marriage and moving on. I do remember there being turmoil among our blog readers when SS & I split. We blogged throughout the separation and divorce. I don’t ever remember anyone telling me that I shouldn’t blog about it. We did have people taking sides and telling me that I should be saving my marriage rather than blogging or swinging. Even then I remember wondering why perfect strangers thought they could somehow magically save our marriage with their opinions or advice. There were people who felt I wasn’t being fair. I lost lots of readers when I ended the marriage. It made no difference, I blogged the way I wanted and for myself. I blogged about my love affair with MM from start to finish and so many people saw the dangers that I blinded myself from. As with most things we have to learn our lessons in our own ways and time. My readers were almost universally supportive throughout that roller coaster heartache all the way to the celebratory end this weekend when I finally got my divorce from MM. I have made so many amazing friends from this site over the years. Many aren’t in my life anymore but that doesn’t mean their friendship was any less important to me. I have met some amazing men here. I didn’t meet my 1st husband here but he and I started our journey here. He is still here. We are still friends and great co-parents. I think we would both agree that our marriage was a good marriage; that we didn’t fail but learned to be more from the time we shared. I met numerous FWB’s, my 2nd husband and even the few great GF’s I’ve been lucky enough to find here. There are great people on this site. There’s been a lot of discussion about whether ending a relationship means failure. I feel strongly that it doesn’t have to be that way. I do not regret loving anyone in my life. Every love, every relationship taught me things and helped make me the woman that is ready, willing and able to embrace a relationship like no other. I could not give myself completely to the man I’m in love with or this relationship if I had not worked through past relationships. That is not the mark of failure that is what learning is about. Once again I’ve been blogging from the start about my amazing journey of love with my Viking. I don’t just blog about the good stuff, I also blog about the issues, the difficulties and the hard times because those are as important as the good times and great sex. I know many people don’t understand why I blog about my life in such explicit detail. For me it’s a learning experience and a way for me to explore myself and my relationships. Having my blog to go back and read even years later allows me to never forget the lessons I need to learn and sometimes relearn. Time has a way of altering how we see things by having my feelings from that time and being able to go back and read them I don’t forget what it was really like. No doubt I’ll look back in years to come and marvel at how far we’ve gone. One thing is for sure in my life, with him by my side, there is never a dull moment. It’s already been and will continue to be one hell of a ride! Kisses, LeeAnn  Kisses, LA    |
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damn hot photo, made me hard. Kisses
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You can't keep a good woman down! And hey, if you weren't here using the blog therapy couch from time to time, I would never have met you! Ur.Grrl.CC 
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10/11/2011 4:08 pm |
Good blog LeeAnn, really enjoyed reading this. It's funny how people continue the spitefullness they deal out in life onto the internet. I am not really an experienced FriendFinder-x member but realise that the chat rooms are full of cliques that are difficult to break into and people who don't like new comers and swiftly turn on anyone who goes against them.
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I find your blog just wonderful. I really like that 99% of the time you are positive and encouraging to others, though maube not enough for yourself. I think you are one of the best people on here and I really wish I could have met you this summer, but, that was not to be. Still I so enjoy your writing and absolutely LOVE your pictures (this one just sends me, by the way...sigh). Please do keep the faith and blog on. It may not be for me that you blog, but don't tell anyone that ok? 
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I did not know you then, so could not comment about that. But the pp that i've been reading writes from her heart. and you have a good heart. You are a good writer. You write with simplicity that reflects your great personality. As i read some of the abuses you went through, not once did it make me feel as if you are asking for sympathy. But most of all, no traces of bitterness or anger. Regret, sadness, yes. But you are so positive that you do not dwell on them for too long. You take life as they come, learn your lesson and enjoy as much as you can from the journey. hugs, Cath
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Before I comment on the post I have to say. Gee that is a great picture. Whoever took it must be one heck of a photographer.  Given two pretty enthusiastic models makes it easy. I haven't been here for your entire journey here. But I'm glad that I've been allowed to come on that portion I've caught so far. And proud that I can call you a friend. As far as failure goes. I may not have any business commenting on that where it pertains to marriage. Because let's face the facts. I've never been married. Heck I've never even gotten further then a second date. But I've always thought that if you learn from something, it isn't a total failure. If you learned from the experience and grew because of it then it sets the stage for future success.
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Amen to that my sweet! How about a hallelujah too?  Thoughts from the Garden...
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What a great post, LeeAnn! Thanks for letting us come on the journey with you. Love you!!! ***
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