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Blogs > IttyBittyKiki > Now what...?

Just 'cause  

IttyBittyKiki 52F
9 posts
5/14/2006 3:35 pm

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5/16/2006 4:50 am
Just 'cause

I've decided to blog this in hopes of getting some interesting feedback & perspective on the matter.

First, allow me to fill you in a little...

I am an intelligent, outgoing, free-spirited, person with an insatiable appetite for sex. I'm honest (almost to a fault), tolerant, non-judgmental, & kind (I'll admit, I brake for squirrels - though that may be just stupidity).

I've been married & have one awesome little girl. I'm not married anymore because he was mentally, emotionally, & physically abusive. He lied about everything; even things as small as when he took the garbage out last. We only had sex about 3-4 times per year. Let's just say I masturbated A LOT (I don't cheat)!

We've been divorced since 12/13/99. Since then I've had a "gamut full of assholes" (according to a friend of mine). I've had some "nice guys", but they're usually the ones that are push overs. I don't like "yes-men". So, they're either spineless or assholes! Tell me there is something in the middle 'cause I'm about to just say FUCK IT ALL!! LOL *sigh*

I've tried the online dating thing before & nothing ever pans out. I've had great sex & met some really cool people - but no soul mates (and I'm just barely holding on to that philosophy). I don't even want to get married anymore. I just want one man in my life that I can depend on who isn't related to me by blood.

Okay... Toss some shit out there. Since none of you know me, you can help me get a different perspective on this. I'm obviously too close to the situation & my friends might as well be, too. Maybe I'm missing something...?

concupiscentKid 47M
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5/14/2006 4:33 pm

 Travel, if possible.
Taking a trip can be one way of helping you put things into perspective. If you're too close to the situation, get out of
the situation if even for a short time.


mustang196966 57M

5/14/2006 8:25 pm

 Hi, i really do believe that there are alot of more "asshole men" out there than anything. I also do really believe that there is somebody out there for everybody. Keep trying you'll find the one, don't give up, i'm in the same boat you are in. I would've sent you an e-mail but i don't match your cupid settings and the system won't let me....we live too far from each other according to FriendFinder-x system (32 miles) Keep your head up high and you do have the right too be choosey, it will happen.


mustang196966 57M

5/15/2006 3:41 am

 Sorry it says 41, but anyways back to your question...no i don't think it makes you a slut, i think going out on dates is the way you get to meet people and decide. One does not have to sleep with everybody they go out on a date with though. I don't know, maybe some other help on that one would help. I think it would probably more to how that makes you feel, do you feel like a slut if you do that, if you are alright with it, if dosen't matter what other people think.


HotToddy1974 50M
331 posts
5/15/2006 9:28 am

 Having been in your shoes not too long ago, I found the worst places to find what I wanted was bars and the Internet. For some people, those markets may work just fine. But for me I found the ratio of "bad" to "good" choices weighed heavily in favor of "bad." It worked for helping fill any sexual void I had, but the substance of a real relationship was difficult to find in those marketplace environments.

So I stopped actively looking in any of those places and starting doing things I liked for myself, going to music shows and concerts, catching theater events, reading and writing in the park, riding bike around town, playing in volleyball leagues, etc. This was a much better approach for me in two ways. One, by doing things I enjoyed I was socializing with and meeting people who have the same interests as me. Two, by not actively looking for "the one" there was less pressure and a more-relaxed opportunity to meet people, develop friendships and then let things progress into something more if possible without being forced. It worked for me, but as always your mileage may vary.

Good luck!


Prof10001 63M  
4094 posts
5/28/2006 6:23 am

 Thanks for the perspective. One tends to get wrapped up in what isn't right in one's own life and think that is the only important issue. Your blog reminds me that where I'm at isn't where I want to be. But at the same time it isn't all bad and the road has safer than for some.

G.


77hwzt2 61M
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5/29/2006 12:44 pm

 Sounded like my life. (para 2 and part of 3) I've put my life on hold for my children,(take care of them with out assistance). Past up some real fun times though. Been to picky. Now getting my life in motion again, taking it slow. Take carde it will come to you. Don't look so hard. Feel


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