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Blogs > demonicsexkitten > Life, or something like it

How Spontaneous are you?  

demonicsexkitten 48F
5178 posts
10/23/2013 9:16 pm

Last Read:
10/24/2013 6:59 pm
How Spontaneous are you?

There are different levels of spontaneity I think.

Example... myself and a lover going somewhere... one of us kisses the other and passion flares, and it's really not THAT important... that's a good kind.

Or same scenario but it's important we be there on time... either a<b> quickie </font></b>or teasing just enough to cause a long slow smolder all night.

Well... never mind all that.

I'm apparently going to Portland for the weekend. My cousin has offered her apartment in case I need it. One of my internet friends of 10+ years is there for work so bought me round trip tickets so we can meet. I wish I could back-track and tell him to give me 1 day to look over my schedule.

Going to Portland will require I break a promise to a friend, break plans with my Mom, and cancel last minute on 2 events I RSVP'd for. And I was really looking forward to all the above (I forgot the events were THIS weekend).

Spontaneous is great, but I plan my life in advance when possible. And I tend to keep myself somewhat busy.

Plus... I'm honestly only 75% comfortable meeting him. I'll leave out all my reasons. I will be safe, I know that. And if I'm uncomfortable or feel not safe, my cousin is a phone call away. But I'm stressing.

Plus... I really, really don't want to cancel all my original weekend plans.

_King_Cobb_ 61M
25441 posts
10/23/2013 9:25 pm

 Tough call. But it's kind of presumptuous of him to expect you be free with that short of a notice.

Is the 25% you don't feel comfortable with the fact that he "surprise pressured" you into it?

Since I really don't know you that well I could never give any sort of advice on this. And maybe you're like a lot of the female friends I have who actually don't want advice. They want someone to simply listen to what's on their mind.

Good luck with it whatever you decide!

insert exploding bomb image here


demonicsexkitten 48F
10694 posts
10/23/2013 10:35 pm

 Thanks, everyone. And backpocket:

Actually I usually jump with my first instinct, and despite logic and the rest of the world's proof to the contrary... what I do is right for me. I only ever regret if I stop to think about things.

Turns out he hasn't bought the tickets yet. So we're discussing options.


demonicsexkitten 48F
10694 posts
10/23/2013 11:12 pm

 Plan B: He's driving 4 hours to Kennewick, I'm driving 2 hours. We're meeting either for dinner Sat or picnic Sunday, laid back, relaxed, just meet, talk, visit, absolutely no pressure.

THIS I'm comfortable with


TicklePlease 56F  
13851 posts
10/24/2013 1:33 am

 Sounds like it all worked out in the end.... win win is always good! I'm like you, I like planning and even though I go with my first instinct, I'm most comfortable when I have a thought-through plan. Hope you have a great time!


demonicsexkitten 48F
10694 posts
10/24/2013 6:59 pm

 TicklePlease: I will! And best of all... I still get to keep all my prior weekend plans (with possible exception of fishing Sunday).


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