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Punish Me!
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Punish Me! I'm not into BDSM, or D/s, or any of that. No pain, no blood. I am a requested and sought after "Spanker" (if one person's opinion counts haha) but that's not my thing either, giving or receiving. An occasional swat at the right moment during sex, or the "hey, I like your ass!" swat while bent over in tight jeans... those are different. "Exclamations Points" ... a small adrenaline burst of surprise, a break in "routine", a shock. That is great. That said... I had an interesting conversation with a friend last night. Last year, while contemplating leaving this site, I deleted all but my favorite blog posts and those the ex posted in. Then I started clearing out my Friends list. Last night I discovered I'd erased one of my oldest friends (who recently became active on the site again), and sent him a friend invite and an explanation. In response: Him: "You erased me?! you honestly don't want to know how bad I want to punish you for that" Me: "And the marvelous thing is I would let you" It rather surprised me to realize that I actually, truly and deeply, meant the answer. It wasn't just a knee-jerk joking answer (actually that would have been "haha, you wish!"). He lives too far away to know if I'd ever actually go through with it, but we've talked of so many things, shared so much of our secret lives, pains, loves, and we know the others quirks, passions, oddities. And I actually do trust that he COULD "punish" me and not harm me in any way. And make sure I enjoyed it at the same time. It's probably a good thing he lives 3000+ miles away ... I'd be so tempted and get myself into SO much trouble. He almost came to visit me last year and I was in a near panic. "Faithful to the one I love (regardless of everything)" vs "There's no way I could keep my hands and body to myself". I was both dismayed and relieved that the airfare cost too much. There are parts of a person that a thousand people will never know, never see. Never in a million years even suspect... but one or a handful of special people can see past all the shadows, the curtains, the masks put in place for the world to see. With patience and caring they can find that protected center. With love it opens up. Trust emerges.  |
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Trust emerges, indeed!?*  lovely rose (pink are my favorite). Well... haha... I may be quite skeptical about a whip hahaa. 
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It is interesting how some people can release different ideas in your head about what you would and wouldn't like/do.
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I do believe that when care for someone we do things that we might not ordinarily do. When we do these things don't you feel it's because our mind is telling us we want to do them? Thus, your willingness to let him punish you? Do you think that is why you were in such a panic when he almost came to see you last year? We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious
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hahahaa... you wish  You're right, trust is everything.
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 Thanks.
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no whips just a good ole fashioned flogger while creatively bound to a piece of furniture in your house which I happen to know you are quite fond of o-o
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no whips just a good ole fashioned flogger while creatively bound to a piece of furniture in your house which I happen to know you are quite fond of o-o
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Sensual Dom... sounds wonderful
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no whips just a good ole fashioned flogger while creatively bound to a piece of furniture in your house which I happen to know you are quite fond of o-o  I kept looking at your email "Why is it gold? That's just weird" and finally noticed lol. Thank you
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I do believe that when care for someone we do things that we might not ordinarily do. When we do these things don't you feel it's because our mind is telling us we want to do them? Thus, your willingness to let him punish you? Do you think that is why you were in such a panic when he almost came to see you last year? As for me being in a panic: Ultimately I was trying to remain "faithful" for no reason to an ex I was still mentally and emotionally bonded with, imagining he'd be hurt and upset - which he would have but he also had at least 4 reasons he lost that right even if we were still together. Add to that my struggle to decide "am I going to follow my lustful side or my religious "good girl" side?" and I hadn't decided yet. Throw a 2nd man I'm mentally and emotionally connected with and in lust with as well... I just totally didn't trust myself with him. Him with me: Yes. Me with him: not so much lol. Desire is a hard thing to stand strong against, especially when you really don't want to.
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Thanks
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You hit on the head. The core of BDSM is TRUST! A BDSM relationship cannot work unless the Submissive absolutely trusts his Dominant partner. The Sub has the true power in this relationship for she voluntarily submits to the Dom. And the Sub can terminate this relationship at any time! I think any relationship depends on the commitment of trust from both parties! Have a happy 4th July! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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You hit on the head. The core of BDSM is TRUST! A BDSM relationship cannot work unless the Submissive absolutely trusts his Dominant partner. The Sub has the true power in this relationship for she voluntarily submits to the Dom. And the Sub can terminate this relationship at any time! I think any relationship depends on the commitment of trust from both parties! Have a happy 4th July! And a happy 4th to you, as well!
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LOL Well, that's an entirely different kind of opening up and just as elusive.
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Sometimes I think you and I are SOOO much alike! Though you're far hotter and braver with pics.
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