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“Age and Amorousness”
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“Age and Amorousness” Blogger [blog humorguaranteed] posted a Writers Symposium Challenge for Sept 2nd to write about your take on Age and Amorousness, however strict or loose you choose to interpret it. I decided to hop on board  Going for the serious and literal side of it... a few years ago my best friend and I were talking about Love and Relationship. Rather: the notion of FALLING in love. We noted that as we got older the whole "fall in love" aspect seemed harder and harder to find. No more head over heals, butterfly crushes. No love at first site. Sure, we find men attractive. And we may even LIKE them. Or love, in a way... but it just wasn't the same. Never enough to really say YES... I love this man! Whether that has to do with age and wisdom. Or experience. Or perhaps our emotional heart muscles just got worn out. Or too beat up. Or all the above? In my case... it was later I discovered I was actually still IN love with somebody I believed myself only "Love but not IN love" with, so that may have been a contributing factor. Switching to amorous as interpreted for sexual desire ... at least in my case I find my urges getting stronger and stronger. One of these days I may even give in to one of my many offers of "hey, wanna hard, hot cock to fill you? Call me". Okay... still nowhere near desperate enough for that lol. I have a lot of wonderful offers from men that take their time flirting, teasing, and engaging my mind in non-sexual ways (yet make sure I know their interest without being so blatant about it) that tempt me. SERIOUSLY tempt me. A few years ago a man who wanted me to love him and fall in love with him... he felt I was unable to fall in love with anybody because I never let go of former loves. I admit the hurt makes it harder to trust and love again, at least for a little while. But in my past experience the heart does what it wants, regardless. In my World... If somebody is special enough for me to let him or her in, to open the doors to my inner self enough to fall In Love... to Love (even without the wild, giddy "in love" aspect)... to open myself that entirely... if "In Love" fails, and Romantic Relationship fails... since I always insist on "Friends First" I also believe and insist on "Friends After". Even if we part ways, and time dims our friendship to silence... I still care, I will still stand up for them. And in my experience that has been mutual. There is also the magical trick to love... love expands. The more you love, the more capacity you have to love. It's a growing and learning experience. My point? I guess I don't really have a point anymore Does the need for love or sex call stronger to you? Is it different from when you were younger? Both urges have been with me always... But I think Love with sex a secondary when I was younger, and now... well, it pretty much hasn't changed. I still need a deeper connection. |
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I'd rather be loved than fucked. Having both are nice if you can get it, and I have got it. But my wife is my best friend. My emotional life would be a train wreck without her, and she knows it, and never uses it as leverage. I think it's a bit unusual to have that kind of connection. It never could have happened if we each had been unwilling to give. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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If we don't keep expanding love in our lives it contracts. There is no standing still!
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There are people around me who(m) I am never going to fuck... and there have been people in the past with whom I enjoyed sex, but didn't love. When the two intersect, it can be wonderful, but having them be acknowledged as separate activities (being loved and having sex) isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's just an unconventional thing. As for hesitance to love... well, emotional scar tissue is very real. And like scar tissue, how you deal with it -- how much restriction of movement you allow it to do -- is in part (but, admittedly, not entirely) up to your recovery routine. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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DSK, I totally understand where you are coming from. I think I am older than you but just so you know, it is possible to fall in love again. Kk The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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