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Ironing out them issues  

partygald 41F
3082 posts
11/4/2015 9:33 pm
Ironing out them issues


Oh wow. It has been a long while since my last post. I apologise for pulling this disappearing act, but as you can imagine, planning your own wedding CAN take up most of your waking hours. Sleeping hours too, if you ask me. I've woken up hyperventilating at night a few times But that's another story.

So it's finally here. In just about a month's time, I'll be married. (YIKES!!) The flight's are booked, venue, people, etc etc etc. All finally done. Still a heck of a lot to do but, the bulk of it is done. We're having it done in Bali, fyi. It should be fun. In the last month we've fought, made up, fought, made up...like a gazillion times. But I guess it happens. Never thought it'd come, but it has. Anyways, what drama shall I write about? The has been a whole shitload, that's for sure.

For starters, I've had "the talk" with him (the fiance). What talk, you ask? Cos he has had many issues with regards to the planning of our wedding. For one, Bali. He didn't want it in Bali. He has come to associate it with my annual meet up fucklest with my group of friends. After much discussion, we found a place run by some of our friends. So that's settled. Is it his ex wife, who is attending? No. Aside from the fact that him and I was having an affair waaay before they had separated, and the fact that I had known her during that time, which makes it a little (ok, a LOT) uneasy for me? No. That has been hashed out too. I met her a few times since. That, too, I'll leave for another time.

The "talk" that we had, actually was a talk we didn't have. It was one I had with his instead. About 7 years ago, when the fiance was still married, and we were in the early stages of our...thing. I attended a party at his house. I was waay younger then, and had a few too many drinks. I met a young man (19years at the time) at this party and had a little sexual escapade<b> quickie </font></b>in one of the rooms. Turns out, to my absolute fucking horror at finding out a few weeks later, that that young man was, and still is, my current fiance's . Fuck me, right? So a few months back, I met him at a dinner and he recognised me and we pulled to a side that evening and we talked about it and decided, that was a freak thing and we would keep that our secret. Considering. It's...still a lot difficult to digest but I'm glad we dealt with it like adults and settled that. Yeah. The fucking horror. File under family secret.

On a similar note, my on-again/off-again girlfriend has been a tremendous help of late. We were dating for a few months before I told her I was actually already engaged (it's an old story ). She didn't take it well, naturally. But as time went on, we've met up more than a few times and as such things are, it's more on than off. She and the fiance have never seen eye-to-eye, and in the past, have always steer clear of each other's presence. It has always been so and I've had to juggle between the two, which was fine. I've come to like them separate. Over the last two months, cos of the planning, they've had more contact with each other and actually, have been getting along. You'd think it was good news, but I actually am getting uncomfortable with it. LOL

Yeah, I have issues.

The gf isn't into guys, and the fiance has been hoping for a threesome. Add that to the fact that their characters are such that they don't get along. I was happy with keeping them apart. Now they are getting along so much so we've had dinner together and one is dropping me off cos I am meeting the other. It's...a lil weird. LOL Ah well, we'll see how this pans out.

This has been quite self-indulgent. Then again, it IS my blog...

Thanks for reading. Will try to post again soon.

ABBC12356 41M
2268 posts
3/13/2016 2:04 pm

GOOD


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