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RESPECT : WE all NEED to do Better..1st Year Anniversary
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RESPECT : WE all NEED to do Better..1st Year Anniversary  RESPECT: WE all NEED to do Better : 1st Yr Anniversary Hello Dear Readers, It is hard to believe but it has been nearly a year since I wrote the Respect blog. So many things have changed since that moment when I first talked to Andrew about the vicious attacks on members of our LBGTQ community. I did not know the member, Thalia, when the attack on her happened. I came to know her as a wonderful, intelligent & beautiful Lady and a terrific member & asset to our site. She is now a very dear & close friend and I am very lucky to be counted among her real & true friends. Obviously the one good thing that happened is the member & her men who were behind the attacks have been banned for life from all Various Inc Sites. The disgusting petition , the death threats against members & their families all stopped. Have the banned members attempted to return ? Sadly, Yes..Have they been kicked out again ? Yes, and every time they try it again they will be met with the same fate. I was pleased to see how members from all over the world came together to fight for all members rights. I have made some wonderful new friends and discovered some great blogs that are new to me. I have seen friendships made and lost. New blog wars fought over egos and jealousies..The very thing we hoped would stop we merely slowed down. New wars over blog numbers and fake profiles boosting blogs views/comments. People complained the blogs are either boring or over sexed..No one seems happy with folks being kind to one another...it seems that a lot of the top bloggers preferred the anger and the drama. I found myself a part of all of this because I am friends with Andrew the Owner/CEO of the site. Originally I went to him to discuss a sale of the site then let him know how bad the former owners were letting down the employees, the members & the site itself. I encouraged him to come back to the site and "save it." He did come back only to run into issues with those former owners..He took a step back and again I encouraged him to try once more. Why did I do this ? Because I felt the site , the members/employees deserved this. I was not asking for myself or anything for me. I am only here to lend a hand, chat with my friends, blog and publish my erotica. Over the years I have been asked by members all around the world for help and directed each one to the right dept so they could receive the help they needed from the right employee. You may very well ask what was my reward...Some wonderful new friends, some folks who turned out to NOT be a friend and lies. One well known blogger wrote to me once demanding to know how I knew Andrew, I wrote her back politely and left it at that...only to find out she wrote a blog all about me actually being Andrew, in drag or a fake profile. For what purpose ? As the owner of the site he could look at any blog or chat room or anything , anytime he wanted..Hard to believe that this blogger claimed to be smarter then most members on the site. Other bloggers who chose to side with the banned for life blogger chose to call us "Vultures" "Trolls" ..I was even called a lawyer for other members  On one friends blog posting I mentioned how wonderful it was to see so many members join together to put a stop to cyber bullying only to have another blogger announce that she was NOT a part of any group and handled the former member in " her own way." I would have thought members would like to be on the side against cyberbullying..I guess in this members case that was not to be so. Later I was told by a friend that I needed to write to this member as she had evidence that was so important to the site. I wrote to the member passing this info along that if the blogger has something to say, please turn it in to the abuse or fraud depts or email me what she feels is so important to tell me. What was this oh so important information ?? I have no idea because the member chose to block me instead. Some sadness came to me when someone I trusted turned out to have issues of her own and even though we asked everyone to stop with the baiting blogs or titles meant to cause harm...Only some bloggers wanted this cease fire/ peace ..( the idea was created by a friend of mine/fellow blogger and posted to another members blog )..and others had their friends write mean blogs with snarky titles..to think if everyone just ignored the members they do not like and treated everyone with respect...why just think of it !! NO more mean spirited bitchy blogs with idiotic titles meant to show how clever some bloggers think they are...NO more lies and ego battles..NO more childish drama at all. It is so simple to just treat others as you'd like to be treated. Have we learned nothing in this long year of fighting for members rights ?? Case in point I was advised that a popular blogger was a problem. I was constantly reminded about this from one blogger & her friends..Over and over again. I'd ask why hasn't someone tried to talk to her ? Oh NOOOOOOOOOOOO they all said..so I took it upon myself and wrote to the blogger..and I am damm glad I did because this wonderful blogger was the first member to sign up for the cease fire in the blog wars and has kept her word all this time. I was told other bloggers were afraid to agree to a cease fire for fear they'd " look guilty ." I agreed to it, other bloggers did too even though none of us had engaged in blog warfare and yet NONE of us looked guilty. I feel lucky that this wonderful blogger & I have become great & true friends. I took a chance and I am very glad I did. I may have lost fake friends from this site but I gained real & lifelong friends instead. I am lucky she took a chance on and with Me. Maybe if members gave each other some breathing room, the space to just be themselves, leave the egos & drama offline..if members could try just once to treat each other with respect then maybe this site would be the social network it was once created to be. Maybe on the 2nd anniversary of the Respect Blog I can write about how wonderful the site has become because members tried something new : Respect & Kindness. We are not asking people to force themselves to be friendly to all..Just treat ALL as you'd like to be treated. Happy 1st Yr of Respect, Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart  |
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[image] Thank you for reading HugsI done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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i don't consider myself a blogger but I do like to drop in from time to time and chip in a few words when it seems appropriate.with this being said,it seems to me the problem really comes from those who feel the blogs and a/l is their private club and instead of sharing,try to run people not in their little group off.i appreciate your and Andrews efforts,but as long as that group continues,it probably wont get better.hope I'm wrong,so will withhold judgement till that 2nd anniversary you spoke of.. woop woop
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I think what could help deal with some of this is if the site were to enable bloggers to "ignore" certain members like is done in the chat rooms. The current blocking system does not do this. It only blocks the person from seeing your blog. Their offensive blogs and posts are still visible to you. If you could not see these offensive persons in the first place some controversies could be avoided. AB No Bozos
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This is a marvelous summation for a year that was fraught with issues and no respect. It is also a wonderful comment on a blogger who is a good friend of mine. The truce will hold up if the two of us have any say in it. Respect on here should be a GIVEN not an "earned" as it often is in the real world. This is the internet and blog fighting and blog bashing and profile sneering has zero place here. We are real people and we do not act this way in our personal lives. Thank you for this post!! (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Hello Joy, Happy Tues. Thank you for taking the time to come here and share your thoughts with all of Us. You said it all so perfectly..It is our job to set an example whether for our Kids or friends, newbies to the site, etc. We can only control our own behavior and try to not make fun or or engage in cyber bullying towards others. I would rather make someone smile and laugh then watch them cringe in anger, pain or fear. Just as History has shown us when you single out one group for bullying it is only a matter of time until that bullying reaches beyond one group or members to shatter and intimidate ALL members. One clique to rule all. I've never been a " sheeple" or a follower. I refuse to give in or stop fighting for all. I know members do not like me based on lies from others but I will fight for them too. I do not pick or choose who I help. I can respect even those that dislike me. I am very Proud of you, Miss You are so right, We need to practice what we preach. Do right for all and it will be given to Us too.Hugs & Many Thanks, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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i don't consider myself a blogger but I do like to drop in from time to time and chip in a few words when it seems appropriate.with this being said,it seems to me the problem really comes from those who feel the blogs and a/l is their private club and instead of sharing,try to run people not in their little group off.i appreciate your and Andrews efforts,but as long as that group continues,it probably wont get better.hope I'm wrong,so will withhold judgement till that 2nd anniversary you spoke of.. Thank you for your comment & I do appreciate you taking the time to come here to my blog and share your feelings. We thought by removing a problem member with control issues that things would get back to normal and there would be an end to blog warfare & yes, I've seen the problems on Advice Line..My best advice is to as I did..I had members I trusted tell me over & over to not speak to a member...they refused to do so themselves..I finally did what I had been pleading with these members to do and found a new friend. Trust your friends here but trust your own instincts and if a member here, male or female..tries to get you to do something wrong, mean or bully a fellow member..or try to get you to hate someone because they do...find out for yourself what the member is all about and you might find a new friend. Avoid being around people who spread negativity...Positive People are more fun to be around. Happy Tues , Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Dear Nay, Welcome Back to A F F Happy to have you here with Us again. Thank you for your kind words & seeking my blog out to read. I appreciate it very much. I promise that even though we may meet with anger & resistance, we won't give up. This social networking site is made up of ALL of US not just a small group or angry members.Happy Tues Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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I think what could help deal with some of this is if the site were to enable bloggers to "ignore" certain members like is done in the chat rooms. The current blocking system does not do this. It only blocks the person from seeing your blog. Their offensive blogs and posts are still visible to you. If you could not see these offensive persons in the first place some controversies could be avoided. AB Welcome to My Blog. Thank you for your comment. I agree 100 % . For years I have been asking for an " all over block " as you just described. If the person you dislike or who dislikes you is blocked then YOU are 100 % invisible to them. No chat rooms, No groups, No blog, No blog comments, NO IMC..Nothing..then if they can't see you or read your words they will look pretty foolish complaining about someone they can not interact with at all..I will keep bringing this up and keep fighting for this among other things. Thank you so much, Happy Tues, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Dear Joy, Thank you for your beautiful & powerful words. We reached out and pulled Positive into the light and away from the darkness of negativity. This is what everyone should do ..but some are afraid so we'll keep plugging away and typing the truth until Light overcomes the dark for good. Happy Tues, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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This is a marvelous summation for a year that was fraught with issues and no respect. It is also a wonderful comment on a blogger who is a good friend of mine. The truce will hold up if the two of us have any say in it. Respect on here should be a GIVEN not an "earned" as it often is in the real world. This is the internet and blog fighting and blog bashing and profile sneering has zero place here. We are real people and we do not act this way in our personal lives. Thank you for this post!! Happy Tues How lovely to see you here again. Thank you for your kind words and for always standing up for what is right for all. I am happy to say as far as I know the truce/cease fire is still holding. I would think that when folks joined this site they did so for a variety of reasons and one of those was to interact with others and possibly meet..I would think that as more and more members see the blog negativity they will choose Positive over the nonsense.Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Throughout this year, many people who LIKED your first Respect post sure didn't follow their own advice. . We've seen baiting post titles , nasty posts aimed at people, attacks on people on their own posts, attacks on people that had nothing at all to do with that post... the list goes on and on. And many of these things were done by people who "said" they loved the Respect post. Sadly, I'm seeing that people only have respect for people that they like. . And only WHILE they still like that person. . And again, only if you agree with everything that they do and NEVER voice your own opinion, not even in private. Between the nasty people and the overly ambitious people and the people who have a need for power and control, I see no end for this in the future. On the computer, people can live out their fantasies. . Even their fantasies of power. I wish it wasn't so.
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War is over... if you want it. The problem is that there are some who don't want it over. On the contrary they relish the drama. Meanwhile there are many bloggers who don't have the faintest idea what you are talking about - I only have a vague idea myself. Trouble attracts trouble, and while blog warriors take sides and line up to do battle, most of us get along quite nicely Make love, not war 
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Hello my dear, I've missed you so. I was oblivious of the Cyber bullying, blog wars and all that. But.. I do appreciate all that you have done and tried to accomplish.
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Being popular is not a bad thing. Feeling threatened because another blogger is becoming popular and sending threats/spreading lies is not only an immature thing to do, it also shows the person's true color and unworthiness.
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Dear Alvin, Welcome to My Blog. Thank you for your comment. I agree 100 % . For years I have been asking for an " all over block " as you just described. If the person you dislike or who dislikes you is blocked then YOU are 100 % invisible to them. No chat rooms, No groups, No blog, No blog comments, NO IMC..Nothing..then if they can't see you or read your words they will look pretty foolish complaining about someone they can not interact with at all..I will keep bringing this up and keep fighting for this among other things. Thank you so much, Happy Tues, Ana6 Thanks for the reply. AB No Bozos
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[image] Hello, Thank you all for the comments here. Love hearing your thoughts & concerns and that is why I wrote this anniversary blog post a bit early. To the member who visited and left a comment about the " secret FB groups " created by members.. may I suggest you actually ask someone who is in those multiple groups about the groups and their activity ? I was in 1 group that I was told was a support group for dealing with the cyber bullying going on. I was among 4-6 people + who chose to leave when that turned out to be an inaccurate description of the group. Thank you so much for coming to my blog so early this Tues morn and sharing your comment about me & those top secret multiple groups on Fb.. with Me. Have a Fabulous Day & What a Fantastic profile Photo You have Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Throughout this year, many people who LIKED your first Respect post sure didn't follow their own advice. . We've seen baiting post titles , nasty posts aimed at people, attacks on people on their own posts, attacks on people that had nothing at all to do with that post... the list goes on and on. And many of these things were done by people who "said" they loved the Respect post. Sadly, I'm seeing that people only have respect for people that they like. . And only WHILE they still like that person. . And again, only if you agree with everything that they do and NEVER voice your own opinion, not even in private. Between the nasty people and the overly ambitious people and the people who have a need for power and control, I see no end for this in the future. On the computer, people can live out their fantasies. . Even their fantasies of power. I wish it wasn't so. Hello My Friend. Thank you so much for taking the time to come & post here. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts with us all. After all.. before I joined the fight on behalf of our bullied members you were already fighting the battle. I have noticed that some of the friends I had on one blog are no longer as active or even talking to me or others anymore. It is a shame but even in the face of lies & bullying we need to stand tall for ALL. The abuse and obscene comments hurled at our LBGTQ community of members was outrageous and should never have been tolerated in the first place. Attacks on one group of members makes it easier for the bullies to attack other members. I was sad to see the baiting blogs and snarky comments Here & there..but what can we do ? I was very happy to see some of our friends who had engaged in this stopped once we talked in private about it. It is true people will respect the people they care about first..That makes sense but what I am saying is..even the folks that have lied about me or told people to not come to this blog ..I would stand for them and have stood for them when attacks came their way. I have left the doors open on this blog..even to those who blocked me. We can not keep falling back on he said she said and if my friends hate them, then I need to do so too. NO, we don't. If members were to just leave others alone and let them blog and do what they like...Ignore those of us you do not like..Imagine all the foolish, childish games over..No need for control...Just have fun and enjoy the members who like you for YOU. Tis true that some people live their fantasies through power/control while they hide behind the computer screen. I wish them all the best and truly hope their dreams of power really fulfill them. I would rather interact with my friends and even if we disagree..we still stay friends. Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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War is over... if you want it. The problem is that there are some who don't want it over. On the contrary they relish the drama. Meanwhile there are many bloggers who don't have the faintest idea what you are talking about - I only have a vague idea myself. Trouble attracts trouble, and while blog warriors take sides and line up to do battle, most of us get along quite nicely Make love, not war Happy Tues & Thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to discover my blog & comment. Very kind of you. 100% accurate Sir..there are some members who wish to continue the baiting & blog wars..if they want to do that they will..it is up to the rest of Us to choose & decide to not participate in their power plays / blog fights. You might be surprised how many bloggers are aware of who is angry with you...seems there are members who are following in a banned members tradition of sending emails / messages telling members who to talk to and who to ignore. As the anniversary of the first Respect blog approached I thought of sharing my feelings and see who would send a reply and who would ignore a simple message of respect others & ignore the members you can not get along with. If members are curious I am sure they can check out the original Respect Blog ..( right on this page below this blog post is the original ) or look around the blog world to see who is writing what. I love to see the encouragement in your post. Make Love not war..Very well said. No war here...Just a remembrance of a yr ago when I was so proud of the members who stood up for members being bullied because of jealousy. Happy Tues, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Dear Joy, Thank you My Friend for your posts. I agree with you..We are all unique and different people..Not all of Us are going to see eye to eye or agree. I look at a lot of blogs and love to see folks sharing and even if I have nothing to add, I enjoy their words..( even if I end up getting blocked for daring to look at a blog..) As you have heard me say over & over..Positive beats Negative every single time. Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Hello Joy, This is so true Darling..and another reason your blog is so popular here..YOU share your real life/world and beautiful photos/videos. Blogging should be about all sorts of things..writing, sharing words, art and life. Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Hello my dear, I've missed you so. I was oblivious of the Cyber bullying, blog wars and all that. But.. I do appreciate all that you have done and tried to accomplish. How awesome to see You Thank you for stopping by. I am hoping by shining a light on the bullying and what the aftermath is ..members quitting , women leaving and members choosing to not blog or comment for fear of becoming the next target..Thus cutting us all off and depriving the site & members of a new & wonderful voice.Thank you for your lovely words. I am sooo blushing. It is such a Joy to see you here. xo, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Being popular is not a bad thing. Feeling threatened because another blogger is becoming popular and sending threats/spreading lies is not only an immature thing to do, it also shows the person's true color and unworthiness. Happy Thurs Thank you so much for your insightful words. Being popular is not a bad thing at all..unless the person who has suddenly catapulted into the limelight is not used to it and they get paranoid about being # 1. You know I have never cared about that or the cursed list. This intense need to be # 1 on any site is so strange to me. To work so hard to be Number 1 but reaching that height by fake profiles boosting your blogs with fake comments...so much work and for what ?? All you end up doing is making yourself a HUGE Target by the next wannabe Number # 1.Thank you Hugss, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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I was actually thinking the other way around. If I block someone then it is they that become invisible to me. Like they don't exist on this site. It works real good on the face place. Thanks for the reply. AB Happy Tues & You're welcome for my reply..If you block someone it should be a total block..for you, for them. They do not see you, quote you or insult you and You do not see them or their words at all. Thank you for coming back & for the comments, Happy Tues Night..and Wed to Be, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Darling RB, Thank you f or stopping by Lovely to see you. You are right ...there are some bloggers who skipped the mess , some bloggers who joined the fight for all members and some bloggers who either ignored all of it and went on their own way...or some who sided with the member banned for life. I am one of those women who fit in with all groups & have a wide variety of friends from ALL walks of life. I love how unique and fascinating my friends are...I am also one of those women who refuse to buckle down and follow a herd because it is safer then striking out on my own..I never longed for or fought for a spot on a list the site created..I do not gauge my worthiness by a position on a list of names..You are the same it seems You are so right if the banned member had her way Most of the female blogging population would be depleted and you and your Love might never have met. Thank you for proving those of Us who said it could be done are right !! .. YOU BOTH FOUND LOVE ON THIS SITE.. I had one member argue against the possibility of it ever happening for anyone here..I pointed out my sister is living with her fiance from here..other couples who met, married and engaged..but NO..this member had to know more then any of us and she basically said we were all liars..Needless to say I am thrilled for you both.Happy Wed Hugs & Thanks for stopping by ..Means a lot to me Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Ah McAna, a wonderful post once again. And once again we are in your debt for your tireless efforts on our behalf! Thankyou! Thank you my wonderful friend for taking the time to stop by my blog & share your lovely compliment & opinion. I have been thinking about you for months now..Netflix gave me a free month and I discovered some hysterical Scottish comedians & their sketch shows airing on it..I LOVE " Still Game " & " Chewin The Fat " ,..I wish you were here with us watching and explaining some of the in jokes to me. Lucky me, I found their work on Y Tube too. Thank you for always being so kind to me & generous with your time & words, XO, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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