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Polyamory by Wikipedia. What i would love to have in a relationship
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Polyamory by Wikipedia. What i would love to have in a relationship Polyamory is a descriptive term which contrasts with monogamy, for the practice or lifestyle of a person being open to more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time, with full knowledge and consent by others involved in their life. A polyamorous outlook thus rejects sexual or emotional exclusivity as a necessity within a long-term loving relationship. The term is sometimes socially abbreviated to poly, especially as a form of self-description, and also at times described as consensual non-monogamy. It is distinct from polygamy, being rooted in concepts such as choice and individuality, and the two in practice have little or no overlap. Due to its fluid nature, there is no clear agreement on exactly how broadly the term can be applied. People who consider themselves open to or emotionally suited for a poly lifestyle may at times be single, or in monogamous relationships, or involved with more than one long term or loving relationship; as a result polyamory is usually taken as a description of a lifestyle or relational choice and philosophy, rather than their actual relationship status at a given moment. Such people may identify as polyamorous, or may characterize themselves by an alternative viewpoint, their lack of desire or need for monogamy. Polyamorous relationships are of necessity highly varied and individualized, they are therefore (as an ideal) more commonly built upon values of trust, loyalty, negotiation, and compersion, as well as rejection of jealousy and possessiveness, rather than traditional culturally understood bonds which are seen as somewhat forcible and controlling. Such relationships are also often expected to be more fluid and changeable than the traditional 'dating and marriage' model of long-term relationships, and may not have a preconception as to duration. There is little scientific research into the durability of polyamorous relationships, but the research which does exists suggests that provided both partners are emotionally capable of the outlook required by polyamory, such relationships do not appear to show strong evidence of being less capable of duration than classical monogamous partnerships. Despite this, there is significant social discomfort and distrust about consensual non-monogamy<b> lifestyles </font></b>in general, in many societies where the social norm is a single partner. |
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1/5/2007 12:37 pm |
so where do u stand on the subject...BTW cute face
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Thank you. I think monogamy is for people that don't know how to share..lol
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1/20/2007 10:46 pm |
Question.... How do you keep STDs in check if such lifestyle? By using protection all the time? I am not saying I am against such lifestyle. Just I think it does feel better without protection.
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of course you should use protection but... quite frankly even using protection you can catch an std... the only 100% sure way to not catch an std is to not have sex..
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2/16/2007 1:15 pm |
Not having sex?!?!?! Dammit, I would go nuts as it is without sex. I mean that I went without it for over 18 years and now do not want to stop. I feel if your selection of partners are clean and they all maintain a circle of friends that all remain clean then it can be a good thing and new lovers will be slowly involved in the group based upon personality and actions. I for one believe that you can have polyamorous relationships as it all depends upon how you view each relationship and the individuals involved. Of course there is the possibility that one of the poly relationships could be a devoted "main squeeze", which I don't think that is such a bad thing.
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I agree with you comments on the poly stuff.. but lets talk about std's for a minute.. people can have an std and not even know it. go check out planned parenthood's website. Many std's can be in a person and spreadable without their knowledge...and some of them there is either no reliable test or they don't show up right away... Having sex with anyone is risky. You can reduce your risk by wearing a condom and being choosy in your partners but there is still a risk.
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Oh i never said don't have sex..lol just don't have sex with blinders on...be educated and know what you are doing.. I find nothing more iritating then people saying they would never knowingly have sex with someone with an std. But when you point out the statistics on the number of people that have std's let alone the number that don't know they have them and the fact that anyone having sex is most likely going to unkowingly have sex with someone that has an std.. they are ok with that.. That is just silly. What they are really saying is i want the sex just not the responsiblity and the knowledge that should go with it...
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Wow... You've been on here for awhile. I thought I'd done a search for polyamory more recently than that. Oh, well. How did you get into the lifestyle? Are you practicing? I didn't think there were that many people in the rochester area that are poly. I've the male of a polyamorous couple in the rochester area. Have you had much luck on the search for other people?
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I love wikipedia.. when i found this on there it just struck a cord with me. To me it is more about the relationship then the sex. but the posters went down the sex road..lol. btw bipolybabe has an excellent blog on herpes and std's. although i do like this quote and think it has merit: "When you learn to separate love and sex and take them for what they really are, emotional feeling and physical pleasure, you eliminate the reason why most relationships don't work out." Alot of people think this quote is an excuse to have casual sex but i think this quote really says that if you love your partner and they love you, you shouldn't feel threatened by their other activities.
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i totally agree with hithard 4you....it is about building the foundation and then going from there...once the trust is there everything else falls into place........as long as that trust is not abused, EVERYONE a responsible , good time.
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very interesting
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