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Who Cums First?
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Who Cums First?  SkierChick   |
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When I first read this mans comment I was outraged. Then I thought, okay, well maybe he's only been with non-multi-oragasmic women and I calmed down. I know that I can have many orgasms and still have lots of energy left over to ensure that my partner is totally and completely satisfied (and I usually have more than enough stamina left over for a few more orgasms) Men just aren't buildt that way. Yes I know there are those of you that stay hard after orgasming and there are those of you that have a "quick recharge time", but it's just not the same! SkierChick
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11/4/2007 7:47 pm |
I always do my best to give a lady a big smiling O, before its my turn... but it doesn't always turn out that way. Some woman are more interested in penetration than anything else, and some aren't. Some are just tough customers  Since you are a multi O lady Skier, I think that you would always cum first in my book  Check out blog whatsurpleasur. it won't hurt... much!
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I've been with multi-orgasmic ones, and some that couldnt cum from penetration AT ALL. Its very frustrating with the latter. I always try to make sure she cums before I do, sometimes I can't help it, but on those occasions I try and make sure she cums after I'm done, somehow. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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In general; Ladies first. I'd have said always, but I have been blessed on occasion, to be thrown down, jumped on, and thrashed. There is no holding out at times like that, and I don't think that is what she had in mind anyway.
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11/4/2007 9:13 pm |
Is it possible for the girl not to come first? The only reason I could think of is if shes not into it or her partner just sucks =/.
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I always like to have a woman cum three or four times before I do.
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Usually a little (or in some cases a lot) of oral touching of her clit while gently stroking her g spot with a finger has a wonderful result. Especially if she is able to squirt. Love to feel her stomach muscles tighten just before she squirts and the pleased look on her face afterward.
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I think it totally depends on the two people involved. But yes of course if a woman is multi-orgasmic it is great to get her coming first and then I can relax and concentrate on my own pleasure as well as hers. But also it depends a lot on whether we are talking about one-off sex or a regular relationship. If it is my first time with someone new, then of course I will always try to help her to come before I let myself get anywhere near close! But in a regular relationship, when plenty of time is available for sex, then sometimes it can be good for a man to come first, after which he can give a woman all that she wants - he will usually be able to get hard fairly soon, but will be able to last much longer if she needs him to. The best sex I ever had was with a woman who loved to make me come first, but really in the end, we were so in tune, neither of us cared who came when, we just had great sex!
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Damn... I had forgot how hot your butt is... That's how long it's been since I've stopped by... (That's truly my loss there!!!) Have any ski plans yet? I saw snow in the Rockies on my flight to LAX and the report is the U.P. will get between 6" and a foot tonight!!! Have a Great Day!!! I'm glad I am back!!! Hoosier.  +  = 
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11/5/2007 8:32 am |
I voted that the woman should always come first, because it is my preferance to always please my partner first. It turns me on more. Besides, being the gentleman that I am, I always put her first. I can always have an orgasm, and stay hard for a while afterward, but I'm always thinking about her pleasure, and satisfaction.
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I said that a woman should cum first the majority of the time. There should always be allowances for impromptu pleasure where my orgasms don't matter. It gives me pleasure to know that all of the sexual focus is on my man and not on me at all. BUT this is all being said now that I'm multi-orgasmic. Before that happened I was (typically) a one shot gal. And after that orgasm I was useless. In that case, it's a really tough call. I could not orgasm from penetration and if I waited until after he had his orgasm then I wouldn't have much help for mine either. LOL It's a tough call. Everyone is different and really it's all about communication and making sure everyone is satisfied. If both parties involved are one hit wonders, then I guess the only fair thing would be to take turns.  LeaLatest Adventure: Travis, Travis and MORE Travis An amazing year thus far 100 things about Lea
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11/5/2007 1:54 pm |
Wow! didn't want to piss you off SC What I had meant in pleasing again and again,was multi orgasmic,and i have been with a few
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11/5/2007 3:37 pm |
You know - there is always the goal of cumming together! Check out blog whatsurpleasur. it won't hurt... much!
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11/6/2007 1:58 am |
Yes the woman should always cum first.
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11/6/2007 9:46 am |
Ladies first, we take longer
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I don't like absolutes. There are no rules that say who comes first. There are too many variables involved. If you can't bring a woman to orgasm AFTER you've climaxed, you have no imagination....and many times, the interval of rest and not worrying about coming too fast while you orally or manually please your partner allows your batteries to recharge giving you a second chance. As long as both parties enjoy themselves, why get hung up on chicken and egg? After all it's not a race!
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11/6/2007 10:56 am |
The lady always needs to cum first!
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11/6/2007 11:35 am |
Can't believe any guy wouldn't get the lady off first...whatever happened to foreplay? Geeeeeeeeeesh. Come on guys, you shouldn't even be putting it in without giving her a few cums first.
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11/6/2007 12:36 pm |
Absolutely, there is no other way to play it..a woman always cums first...that is the only way a Southern Gentleman would do it. Yes, most definitely.
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11/6/2007 12:45 pm |
Weeeelll, i must say he must be married for a long time to say this, and I can sort of understand where he's coming from. I have found that if I am not fully satisfied (cumming... i can be sexually satisfied without an orgasm) then I want sex more often. I like to play with my own sexuality like that... Come to the darkside... we have cookies!
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11/6/2007 12:46 pm |
Ohh the same goes for me too tho... If tease the hell out of your hubbies and let the cum maybe 50% of the time lol they'll be all over you all the time! Come to the darkside... we have cookies!
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11/6/2007 3:09 pm |
it is better if you cum together then there is no arguments
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11/6/2007 6:32 pm |
guess were living in a liberal society, so why shouldn't she cum first. Just so long as we don't get forgotten
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11/6/2007 7:19 pm |
SHE ALWAYS comes first!!! Typically, 2, 3, or even 4 times!!! My lady love is a smokin hot attorney, and a couple of fingers caressing her clit has her soaking wet and coming quickly, with the second right behind. If we're in bed or on the picnic table or a blanket (as opposed to the car...) my lips on her legs, lips, and then clit has her coming again soon... Nothing like a trifecta to really get ME ready!!!
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11/6/2007 7:45 pm |
I always desire to get the woman off first, especially if she is multi-orgasmic. There are occassions where she really wants a quicky and doesn't always cum. Usually that means additional fun a short time later!
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) You will get a chance to tell us exactly how you want to be pleased orally!
I deleted your comment so that others did not think I was responding to your comment. I liked your comment. Sorry for the confusion.
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