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What to do when you are introverted like myself
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What to do when you are introverted like myself Well it seems my blog is becoming a bit more popular again, and I happened to catch the eye of Starthorns, who happened to see my previous blogpost. And no, he didn't send me a dick pict or ask to suck my dick. However he did offer me some advice on what I could do to help myself find someone. And with his permission to post his advice, I thought I would share this with you people who read my blog. However it's not easy advice to take for many of us who are introverted, like myself. While dating website are popular for people like us introverts, because we don't have to socialize with people, that is the problem we have in this society today...no one wants to socialize with people! So in order to get around that...we need to go to places, get out of our houses and away from the keyboards and cellphones, and literally get outside! Scary advice, huh? For some of us, it is. But in all honesty, we need to be social. We need to make friends. Seek new connections. Find people that share our common values. So the 64 thousand dollar question is...how to go about it? Well Starthorns suggested several ideas. The first is to volunteer. Volunteering at an animal shelter, your local food bank or charity that you want to support. By getting out and volunteering, you open the doors to meeting tons of new people. And while you are donating your time, keep an eye out for the sexy people or people you find attractive, and talk to them. Who knows what might happen? Second, are there any hobbies you like to do? Having a hobby is important because it keeps your mind off of the loneliness you might feel. If you like to cook, take a cooking class (tons of women at these cooking classes). If you like movies, Google for groups in your area that meet up for movie events like TCM Backlot that discuss older films. Or if you are a nerd, like myself, go to your local gaming store and see if they know people who are hosting RPG games, like Dungeons and Dragons, and maybe you might find a sexy nerd girlfriend (or boyfriend) that catches your eye. The point is hobbies can lead to new doorways and new people to meet. Third, and this is a big one for me. You got to be ACTIVE. Being active means being fit. And I hate exercise. The only time you'll catch me running is when I'm being chased, and if it's aliens running after you, my overweight butt will likely be one of the first caught. (I am working on that however...I was at 275, now I'm at 252, I'm trying!) So get out and join a . Pull out that bicycle and go for a ride! Go golfing (I hate golfing, but I do like to miniature golf!) Go for a walk or a<b> hike </font></b>in the woods at the forest preserve or near the lake. There are tons of activities to get out and do things outside, even if it isn't exercise, and as long as you are active, it will help you keep moving and drop a pound or two with walking or performing an activity you do like. Finally...the most important part...force yourself, no matter how hard it is, that when you find yourself someone you find attractive, to ask them out for a date. Is it possible you will be rejected? Possibly. But if you never take that leap of faith to do ask that person out, you will always be alone. The worst they can do is say no and reject you. And when that happens....move on, don't waste any more time asking them, and never take it personal. If they don't want to be with you, then it was never meant to be. Put your energy forward to finding someone that DOES want to be with you, and never waste energy on someone who DOES NOT want to be with you. Well that's it. Thanks to Starthorns for giving me this idea for a post and the advice. It helps me, because after the divorce, for the longest time, you feel less sexy, less like a person and you focus your energy elsewhere, like or family. But the problem is, I got caught in the trap of becoming too focused on them, and not on me. We have a habit that divorced people fall into of focusing our energies on more important things, but we don't think of ourselves as important, especially when we are introverts. It's a difficult challenge, but if we can remember that we are still human. While rejection sucks, we need to conquer and overcome those feelings and move on and past the pain and hurt to focus on the future of what will be. And if we can do that, both you and I can accomplish great things. Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent  |
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te entiendo , me pasa lo mismo aunque yo hago mis blog muy austeros
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keep trying, never give up.
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As always, thanks for reading! Peace! Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
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