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Living with my mom and dad
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Living with my mom and dad One of the biggest problems I have when talking to women isn't that I don't have . I make a fair of . Or that not understanding. Or that I do not have the emotional range of a brick, like some men, who want to hide their feelings and emotions. Far from it, I wear my emotions on my<b> sleeve </font></b>for all to see. Some women like that, others don't. But the main issue that really turns off women from getting to know me...is that I live with my parents. A grown 49 year old man....living with his mom and dad. It's the equivalent to kryptonite to Superman or the color yellow to Green Lantern. When I tell people I live with my mom and dad, and the reason why, which is due to my mom having her stage 4 colon cancer, and I've chosen to help them at this time while she is battling this at them moment, they think I cannot take care of myself. Or I rely on them for everything. I do not. I rent. I my own food and assist with the cooking. The cleaning. Laundry (both mine and theirs), garbage, and a multitude of chores and things to keep the house kept up. And I do this to help them. Now not reliant on them, and if I left, they are not reliant on . During the time when I was going through my divorce, they helped me when I needed it. They gave a place to stay, and as soon as I came here, I helped them with paying rent and helping them when they needed it. Now they need . What I am doing is helping to repay the favor they gave to . It's my choice to do so. Can it be a bit of a burden? Yes, I will not deny that. But when you contact women here, and when you ask to meet them, and they read your profile and say "I don't need the burden of you living with your folks and I don't want that in my life", that's fine. But I've even been told here by some, who I guess don't understand and a "momma's " or that worthless. Oh yeah, I've gotten those messages by some here. The thing is, I can leave of here anytime I want. I could get a place within a month and move and get my own place if I had to. The thing is doing what is right. Being here to help my folks in a time of need, and right now the need is great. And here's the thing...I might have to move soon anyway, because my folks are considering the house to find a smaller, single-story ranch home so that they don't have to climb stairs or worry about a large home. Add to it the drive from home to work is an 70 minute drive one way with traffic. So going to have down the road find a place of my own soon, and probably by the end of the year or early next year, move regardless. I just recently talked to a woman here. She said she didn't even want to talk to and wanted nothing to do with . As if I was some diseased contagious leper. Even when I asked her to least give a chance, she refused. Which is fine. If that's what you want, not going to force anyone to be with . But to down on as if I was less of a man because I live with my folks and not even hearing ? No, sorry...bye Felicia, next. I think I can be very understanding, because if I have my issues, I know other people have issues as well. We all have problems, issues to deal with. But to down on others because they have issues and you don't want to deal with them? That's wrong. And to make others feel smaller than you because they are dealing with problems or issues, that's wrong as well. If you want nothing to do with because I have chosen to step up and help my parents during their time of need, I don't need you in my life. You want to judge me...fine. But don't expect me to beg. Don't expect me to try to impose your will on me and try to make me feel bad for taking care of my parents when they need me. Or make it like a deadbeat because I live with my parents. I know who I am. One day I hope we can past basic appearances and not judge people like the cover of a . But unfortunately, it still seems there are many people there who can't. And that is a sad state of affairs for people today, in which many are either too numb to care, or don't wish to bother to help others in need. sorry, it's preaching to a choir of people who probably don't care. I'll get off of my soapbox now. Thanks for reading. Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent  |
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The women that were unkind in their remarks to you are NOT worth a farthing. You keep doing what you are doing , it is right and it is just and your should be proud that you are able to help in nay way possible. The right woman will totally agree that your kindness knows no bounds (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Anyone who can not understand what you are doing is not worth your time. Be thankful you find out sooner rather later. Should another crisis happen later on in a relationship with them they would leave you high and dry.
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I agree with the lady above. It shows great compassion and loyalty to care for aging/sick parents. This is something to be proud of, and not embarrassed about!
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yup....i can see where that may be a red flag for some women. But as you said...u know your truth, ur speaking ur own narrative....and the kinda woman who has an issue with you or your situation....u dont need. There are all kindsa everything here.... You will find what you need in time ~~
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Sorry folks, I'm a bit steamed today. Had to get this off of my chest and clear my thoughts. Thanks for reading. Peace. Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
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