Reset Password
Reset Link Sent
| Blogs > whoisagentj > The Dossier of Agent J |
Conversation is like Tennis
|
Conversation is like Tennis You get a double blog for today! How lucky are you people? LOL! I've been having a lot of weird conversations here lately, so I thought I would help people who read this blog better understand how to actually have a conversation. You see, I say hello. You reply hello back. I then ask a couple of questions to get to know you better, seeing as we are just starting off the conversation and having me, get to know you more. You don't reply back. I then say "Hello? Is everything ok?" You then ignore what I originally asked, and then you ask me to talk offline somewhere else. That is not how conversation works. Conversation is like tennis folks. I serve the ball over the net to you, and you are supposed to smack the ball back. I then repeat the process until the conversation is ended to a point to where there is understanding and knowledge between each other to the point of a conclusion. If I ask some questions, that is me wanting an answer to those questions so I can get to know you better. If you fail to answer those questions, and pretend like I never asked them to begin with, then we have a disconnect. Which is the equivalent of me saying, "Do you want to tennis?" "Yes." "Ok, I'll serve the ball first." I then serve the ball and you stand there like an idiot and let the ball fly by. I then ask "Hey, are we going to tennis?" and you reply back "Hey, I want to get tacos. Do you want to go with me to this place to go get tacos and we can talk there?" No...  This also goes for conversations here as well as on Tinder, Bumble, or any other dating site. You just don't do that. Or for that matter, if I were to say hello, you say hi back, then I ask some questions to get to know you, and then you ghost me and disappear like a fart in wind. It still stinks. The moment you engage in a conversation and reply back, IN ANY MANNER, you are obligated to reply back to a person's questions back. Now you have the right to go ahead and say "You know, I thought I wanted to talk to you, but I just don't like think this is going to work out." Ok, I can then ask why, but even if you don't want to talk to me and say "Sorry, I just don't feel like talking." That's fair. I still have the right to reply back and say "Well thanks for wasting my time. Don't let the door hit you on the way out!" I don't have to be civil to you for wasting my time, but at that point, I'm done talking to you as well. But to up and decide you don't want to talk to me at all and disappear....that's a complete dick move on your part. Or for you to say "Let's talk somewhere else. Install XYZ app so we can talk there." Why? We can't talk here? You can't answer my original questions here? For what reason? Once again... If you are going to carry a conversation with someone, be prepared to dive in fully. Don't be wishy-washy about it, don't ignore someone's questions, and don't ghost people. It's not right to do that. Now, if something happens...like you are engaged in a conversation, and an actual real life event happens from keeping you from talking to me in the conversation while talking on chat, or Tinder, or Bumble or wherever it may be, like your just rolled down the stairs like a bouncy ball and starts crying, you have to take him to the hospital, and you completely forget, and the next day, the person you are talking to says in chat "Hey, is everything ok?" Be honest and tell them a real life event happened which prevented you from talking and most importantly...apologize for breaking off the conversation abruptly. I think normal people would completely understand and easily<b> forgive </font></b>you and ask "Are you ok? Is everything ok?" with normal concern. Most people that are normal that is. Some people are morons and they won't understand at all, that's a given in life. The bottom line is...conversation is like tennis. You have to participate, and you can't just up and disappear, or change the conversation to fit your needs. It requires attention and back and forth dialog so both people can understand each other. And if you are not ready for that, you shouldn't be on a dating app, or here for that matter until you are READY to actually participate. (jumps off my soapbox) Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent  |
|||
|
[Image] Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
|
Become a member to create a blog
