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Blogs > whoisagentj > The Dossier of Agent J

READ A PERSON'S PROFILE BEFORE SENDING A MESSAGE  

whoisagentj 54M
661 posts
5/19/2019 5:37 pm

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5/20/2019 6:38 am
READ A PERSON'S PROFILE BEFORE SENDING A MESSAGE

I wasn't going to post today. I needed a bit of some time alone today to recuperate. To sort of take care of myself today and just gather back my thoughts and some mental and emotional strength today, with Sunday being the day of rest that God gives us.

Instead I got a message today, from someone local who's a gold member. I thought it would be a good message. And...I got this instead:

Hello and how are you? would you be my sex slut, sex slave, sex sub and roleplay partner. Lets explore reasonable boundaries, try new things, be sexually adventurous and have fun. If you are interested in what I seek, feel free to write back .
5/19/2019 6:32 pm

Here's what I sent her:
Honestly...?

See,here's the thing...I would rather have an equal partner that loves me as much as I would love them. I'm ok with being a sub sometimes. But I also want to be dominant as much as a sub. Take turns. Share each other. Get to know each other. Have fun together and maybe fall in love with each other.
It sounds like you want a cuck. That's not me. I want someone willing to both give and receive love, and I don't think that's what you want. Besides, I'm 49 years old. I'm somewhat overweight. I want a woman to want me for who I am.

Did you read my profile? My blogs? Do you know who I am? Or did you just think that because I look like I do, I'd just fall in line just to get a sample of your goods? I might be hard up. I might not of had a girlfriend in a couple of years. But it doesn't mean I'm desperate.

Now...what do you say to that?

When I went to check, she never even looked at my profile. It was just, BAM!---here's my message, do you want to be my slave?

Folks...please...use the brain God gave you. Or for those that don't believe in God, that's fine, use the common sense that's you've been given and learned throughout the years...and READ THAT PERSON'S PROFILE before sending a message! For crying out loud people!

Look, I just had to erase several lines about people's intelligence levels here, because I don't want to come off as sounding arrogantly smarter than other people here. And even that line...that was arrogant to say, so<b> forgive </font></b>me for saying it. And here's the thing...I know there are people, MUCH SMARTER than I, but it irks me to say I feel some people just do not use the common sense given to them.

It really bothers me when someone sends me a message and they've never looked at my profile. I mean, how do you know I'm the right guy? I mean, I might like putting pickles in women's vagina's as a sexual fetish! (Ladies, I don't like putting pickles in a woman's vagina as a fetish, I made that up as a hypothetical) Seriously, I could be highly mentally disturbed. Least that's what my ex wife thinks. If you just send a message to someone not knowing what I like, how do you know I'm the right guy for you? And the same thing goes for gay men. I get a ton of messages and IM's from gay men asking me to suck my dick, or me suck their dick, or something involved with dick. No offense to the LGBTQ people reading this, but I like women. If you read my profile, it says that. And I have no issues with any of my readers who are from the LGBTQ community, but some of them are thinking with their little head and not with their big head because I still keep getting messages from gay men, or trans people asking me to be with them. And I'm sorry, but that's not my cup of tea. I just like women. Who can read my profile.

In short...make sure you read a person's profile first. Trust me, I've read scores of profiles from lesbian women, some I would really like to get with, but because they like women and they say that they only like women in their profile, I don't send them messages. With the exception of maybe asking if they could help me be a wing mate and help me find a woman, in which they laugh, because we're in direct competition sort of...

Just be respectful. If you see a photo of someone you like, click on that profile, if you can that is, and read that person's profile. If you can't, see if that person has a blog, so you can talk to them there if you are a standard member. If you are a standard member, reading blogs is a great way to get to know some people here. If you see them in a chat room, talk to them first before asking them out. But there is no excuse if you are a gold member or a VIP member. Read that person's profile.

That's all. Thanks for reading.
Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...

Agent


Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
5/20/2019 5:39 am

 I would bet money its just a message from a scammer. Its a lot better getting those messages ( we all get them) in a virtual world then if someone were to come up and say those things to you at the grocery store...lol


whoisagentj replies on 5/20/2019 6:38 am:
I think I would be freaked out of someone asked me to be a sex slave in a grocery store. LOL! And to be honest, this is too creepy to be considered a scammer, but you know, it's possible. You never know.

Bettibenobo 68F
423 posts
5/19/2019 9:25 pm

 I agree. It's not asking too much to read a profile before sending a message.

But they rarely do. It really is annoying when they are gold and can see your profile but don't pay it any attention. They must get off on being rejected.
Depending on my mood I may reply in unpleasant way.

One thing that helps is setting up an auto-reply on your email. That way they can't complain about "No response". Even though no response IS a response.


whoisagentj replies on 5/20/2019 6:33 am:
Yeah, it's hard not to get on someone for sending a message without reading your profile first.
I was thinking of doing an auto-reply, but I'm the type of guy that normally doesn't do that. I'd rather at least reply in person and let a person know what I think.

Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
5/19/2019 7:02 pm

 You like drama?
You're a sensitive guy. I get that.
But you're really not prepared to play this game.
Every time a woman trips you out, with her honest pov, u go sad.
Hey.. Get a thicker skin.
wtf bro? Just ignore it! No? 🤔
It's all bullshit... Why are you tripping?


whoisagentj replies on 5/19/2019 7:21 pm:
Paul,

Maybe I'm not prepared to play games like that, as those games are for kids.
And yeah, some of the women that I've dealt with here under some negative circumstances has bothered me. People shouldn't act like this. But they do, and I understand it. Doesn't mean I have to like it, but I understand it.
And trust me, Paul, the skin I have, after dealing with my ex, is harder than a rhino's hide.
But there are some that don't tolerate bullshit. I've had my fill of it. I had to deal with that with my ex wife, which is why I'm tripping because I don't want any more of it in my life. So with all do respect to you, I'd rather not have to deal with it, and I'd rather call it like I see it with honesty.
Am I the mouse trying to push a bolder up Mount Everest in some regards? Yeah, it might be futile, but I'd rather call it out and educate others rather than have it accepted as normal.

kissing_softly 109F  
216 posts
5/19/2019 6:28 pm

 Get used to it.


whoisagentj replies on 5/19/2019 6:40 pm:
Heh, not likely. I'd rather educate in helping others realize when they are wrong rather than participate in the stupidity.
I know it's common here, people who just dive in rather than reading a profile and thinking they can sway others into doing their bidding so that people can get laid. But you can't force a gay person into straight sex. Or vise versa. Or expect a persons who wants a loving, normal relationship into just having a ONS. It doesn't work that way. But yeah, I do see that it's prevalent here that people just don't care about reading profiles. It's still wrong though, and I'm still going to call the bullshit when I see bullshit.

Sorry, didn't mean to jump on you like that. Thanks for stopping by and posting. I appreciate it.

whoisagentj 54M
6060 posts
5/19/2019 6:28 pm

 Blog update, she sent me this as well:

I want to meet a submissive and a roleplay partner i can remold into my personal sex slave to share intense sex scenes with. not looking to change your situation but keep the relationship as discreet as possible, i want a special friend to explore boundaries with, try all sort of role plays such as Cop and criminal role play , Maid/butler secret rendezvous, Pirate and captive role play , Porn stars role play and a sex worker role play , playing a doctor and a patient , and meeting a stranger role play and much more, body worship, nipple play, oral sex, impact play, ass play, pegging, edgeplay, basically whatever excites us. a committed and loyal man is what i seek for pleasure. if what i describe sounds interesting to you, we should talk more.
5/19/2019 8:06 pm

To which I replied:

Yeah, but no. I am no one's secret. Sorry, but that's a hard no. See, you want what you want, but give no consideration to what I want, which is an actual relationship. And I don't want to me remolded into what you want. I could do all of that, but what you want is someone to be at your beck and whim and on top of that, be your dirty little secret, and that's the thing that burns my ass most...I will never be someone's dirty secret, so you can whisper it to your friends that I'm your sex slave and they look at me like some chump.
Sorry, hard no, find someone else. And please don't message me anymore. I'm sure there are plenty of others who would jump through your little doggie hoops just to do what you want. Not me.
Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...

Agent


bitchkitty2017 71F

5/19/2019 6:27 pm

 i agree, not a lot of people read anyone's profile and its easy to see if they did...and don't feel as if you are arrogantly smarter than other people...that's not it..... preference for someone to actually read and see what a person wants likes or expects from the other person isn't asking too much...I find since this last week i been getting some really strange messages and i am convinced its another bunch of scammers ...sad...Glad i am wise enough to tell the difference ...keep on trucking...


whoisagentj replies on 5/19/2019 6:34 pm:
Unfortunately, I think you are right. It's kind of a sad state of affairs to see people who just send messages, with no consideration or manners whatsoever.

gentlelovrjust4u 66M  
195 posts
5/19/2019 6:26 pm

 Amen. I get that all the time. Women who have one picture in their profile and are in their lat 20's and early 30's looking for their sole mate when my profile clearly states that I am married. I have gotten pretty good at spotting scammers and usually don't even respond to them. Good luck with your search.


whoisagentj replies on 5/19/2019 6:33 pm:
Thanks gentle. I see the same thing here as well. However, even when a person is real, they STILL don't read a person's profile! It's crazy.

kinkynsa2day 58M
Ask me for a photo

5/19/2019 6:25 pm

 LMAO....hahahahahahaha..


whoisagentj replies on 5/19/2019 6:42 pm:
Well, it's not really funny, but I appreciate you stopping by and posting. It's more annoying when people just message you and don't read your profile.

whoisagentj 54M
6060 posts
5/19/2019 5:38 pm

 Please folks, one of my pet peeves here...read a person's profile.
Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...

Agent


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