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Blogs > whoisagentj > The Dossier of Agent J

What really burns me about this site...  

whoisagentj 54M
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6/19/2019 1:50 pm

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6/23/2019 2:02 pm
What really burns me about this site...

Ok, i'm jumping on my soapbox here, so fair warning of me flyin' into bitch & complain mode here...

I don't know if I would myself a handsome guy. I know I'm not like those model types with 6 pack washboard abs and muscles. But I don't think I would myself homely either. I'm just an average joe, I guess. Which leads me into my self-deprecating humor style. I like to make fun of myself in order to keep others off guard and make other people laugh in order to like me. It's how I am.

Now...with that said...I don't understand all of these woman's profiles. I would think there would be a lot more women in more populated areas, women either looking for love/relationship material or just sex. Either way, the world, for every man in the world, there are supposed to be nearly of every women. Women populate the planet more than men. Which I'm surprised when more men are politicians than women, although I can see a rapid change that has happened. Which is good, because women need better representation, and I think women are smarter than men.

But getting back my gripe, I would have thought there would be more women on this site than men. However, the site has a 50 1 ratio when men dominate this server.

Even still...the amount of fakes, frauds, and scammers here on this site trying get men's info, trying get men buy them stuff, or give them in a vain attempt promise men pussy...My guess is that ratio goes up from 50 1 probably 0 1.

Then...if you add the women are lesbian, that takes percent roughly of all women here. Now we're at say 0 1. Add in the women are married or attached, and are looking for another woman here. I say lets give that another percent. So percent of 0 1, that's about 1:1 ratio approximately.

Finally, then there are the women are real. And they are looking for above-average men fuck. Or younger looking men fuck. Let's say conservatively that's another percent, guestimating here folks, I'm just trying get a rough estimate here.

At 1:1 ratio, Now you are looking at about 3.1 1 ratio.

So for normal guys, whether you are looking get laid or not, your odds are probably 3.1 1 of finding an actual real person here. Again these are just made up numbers, a lot of it guestimating. The odds could be even worse.

If I live in a heavily populated area, I STILL should find SOMEONE on this site. Given a 3 month period, I should have had some success.

Instead I've been messaged by a of women in which not of them, after seeing me, reading my profile, has decided want meet me. BUT, I get messaged from all over the world from women say "I wish I could meet you!" and yet they are 00's of miles away. Women from Japan, women from the UK, women from Canada, women from Australia, women from Dubai....

Ever here of the song "Whole Wide World" from Cage the Elephant? The lyrics haunt me. My fictional love could be on a beach in Tahiti crying her eyes wondering where I am, and then some jerk comes up and swoops her off her feet fuck her brains , yet I'm sitting here with nothing! NOTHING! How fair is jerk asshole fucking my future love and I'm lucky if a stiff breeze comes along get me hard? It's not fair!

This site sucks. The thing that doesn't suck is that there are a bunch of nice people here on the blogs at least reply back me, and I get talk with them. Most of them are supportive of me, and care what I think. That's of the best things about this site is the community here from the bloggers and other readers of my blog.

The rest...eh. It's not about sex. I would be happy find someone date and talk . Although if I go another summer without sex, my dick is going fall the fuck off my body, pack a suitcase, and say "Fuck you, I'm going on my own find some pussy!" It's about the extent of it. I'm not thirsty for pussy. I need an immediate IV of pussy due severe dehydration.

, a lot of what I said here...it's make you laugh. I can be patient. But honestly, I just want an actual, honest goodness hug. I need hold a good woman that would care about me. I need<b> physical . </font></b>I need someone tell me "It's gonna be alright...." like Kate Bush does Peter Gabriel in the video "Don't Give Up". I watch that video and that shit makes me a crying mess.

*sigh*

Ok, that's all I got. I'm off my soapbox now.
Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...

Agent


IVFalternative 53M
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6/21/2019 5:28 pm

 I'm wouldn't say I'm desperate and needy.

Really?

Which leads me into my self-deprecating humor style. I like to make fun of myself in order to keep others off guard and make other people laugh in order to like me. It's how I am.

I think women are smarter than men.

My fictional love could be on a beach in Tahiti crying her eyes wondering where I am, and then some jerk comes up and swoops her off her feet fuck her brains , yet I'm sitting here with nothing! NOTHING! How fair is jerk asshole fucking my future love and I'm lucky if a stiff breeze comes along get me hard? It's not fair!

Although if I go another summer without sex, my dick is going fall the fuck off my body, pack a suitcase, and say "Fuck you, I'm going on my own find some pussy!" It's about the extent of it. I'm not thirsty for pussy. I need an immediate IV of pussy due severe dehydration.

I need someone tell me "It's gonna be alright...." like Kate Bush does Peter Gabriel in the video "Don't Give Up". I watch that video and that shit makes me a crying mess.

I just want to find my ONE that will make me feel whole again. Is that so much to ask?

I don't know what language you're speaking but in English all that means desperate and needy.
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whoisagentj replies on 6/23/2019 2:02 pm:
Yeah, and you would be wrong. You've taken ONE blog post, and taken the parts you quoted to fit your narrative. You'd make a great journalist, because that's been spun wonderfully in your favor.

However. my humor is meant to make people laugh, so I can put them at ease, not to be desperate and needy. The jokes I posted were meant to entertain the reader. If I don't have sex this year, my dick is not going to fall off.

The posting about the Peter Gabriel/Kate Bush duo video, that's a great fucking video. Have I cried when I watch it? Yes. Does it make me desperate and needy? NO.

And asking to find someone that's the ONE, so I can stop searching and be happy with someone? That's not desperate. I would like someone be my special someone. Maybe that's a need or needy, I might give you that. But it's what I want and need.

I've humored you a bit to the point to where I've engaged in discussion with you to be civil and nice. Now I'm starting to see a trend here where you're here to make me look how YOU want to see me. And I'm going to say this...

I'm not here so you can attack me. I'm not here for you to have me fit your narrative or to tear me down and make me feel like shit, just so you can feel better about yourself and make it look like your candle is brighter than mine. I post what I want to post. It's my blog, not yours. I'm not here to justify myself to you. In short, if you don't like it? Fuck off and go somewhere else.

IVFalternative 53M
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6/20/2019 3:47 pm

 See you've read only this one blog post and based your assumption on that.

Yes, I'm a stranger on the internet offering free advice. If you don't agree with it I'll give you double your money back.

I'm not judging your character, just the impression you made with this one post. But you were the one who wrote a post telling us all how desperate and needy you feel, so I believed you and ran with it.
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whoisagentj replies on 6/21/2019 5:53 am:
Well 2x nothing is still nothing. LOL!

I can see that. I'm wouldn't say I'm desperate and needy. Thirsty yes, desperate and needy, no. I mean I'd loe to have sex, but to be honest, I'd rather it be with someone I care about than just someone I would meet and then fuck and leave.

IVFalternative 53M
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6/20/2019 7:42 am

 It's my assessment of the impression you're making based soley on this blog post, but if you think this way that will inevitably affect all your communications with women on this site. The women you chat to on here can see your blog too. You'd be better off going to another site when you feel like complaining, not the site you're hoping to pick up on.

And this coming from someone with no profile picture, in which you're hiding out, while I'm up front and honest about who I am.

I'm on here to blog, not pick up. It's easier to find a woman at a local bar IMO. If I was looking to meet someone here I'd adjust my profile accordingly.
Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 10:54 am:
That may be, but I'd say 90 percent of the women I've messaged here haven't seen my blog. Why, because 90 percent of the women here have been fake, scammers or frauds. The rest who read this blog, where I have for the most part posted positive blog posts in the past, have recognized that I've been an honest person.

See you've read only this one blog post and based your assumption on that. And no worries, when my account goes back from Gold to standard, I'll be looking elsewhere to find someone to either date or build a relationship. This site pretty much sucks when looking to find someone here.

Heathen_G 65M
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6/19/2019 7:14 pm

 I think you're on the wrong site for finding the type of woman you want.

The type of woman you want , IF she is on a social site at all, will be Match or Eharmony.... for a start. Absolutely not on this site.

Whom you might perceive as the jerk, only may be a more aggressive man than you. Next time you see a woman you think you may be attracted to, and want to meet her? Don't hesitate. When you second-think/doubt yourself, that's when you lose the prize.

The world is massively populated. Someone for most of us [but realistically not every person] , can be any where in the world, even possibly not yet born, but reality also limits one to a very small region , or limited chances, to find whom we seek.

You can't sit at home and expect to find the type of woman you want. She's also the type of woman who is highly sought after. She's very likely not sitting at home plunking a keyboard.

Also , "Don't give up" is a video... that pair is paid to sing and act like the embrace is real. Don't be a sucker for these visual and auditory emotion traps. They're not real.


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:37 am:
Heathen, I know we had this conversation before that I was on the wrong site. I guess I had to give this a fair shot to see if I could make this work or not. Now that my 3 months are almost up, I'm going to try one of those next and see if I can find something else.

As for sitting at home, I am working on that. I do need to get out more and start looking for someone in a physical setting, not being online and hope to find someone. I agree getting out more will definitely improve my chances.

And don't knock Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush. Yes I know they were acting for the video and it's an emotional trap! But I love that video and the song. And yeah, I'm a sucker for it. But I'd rather feel than not feel, Heathen. Not saying you don't feel, but it's ok to allow the emotions to run free from time to time as long as you keep them in check.

pocogato12 71F  
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6/19/2019 4:46 pm

 This plethora of unusual proportions is common on all the sites just as there are trolls, fakes, and scammers on all of them as well. I cant even begin to want to try the math so your figures must be reasonably close. I disliked other sites so much and since I had some fortune on here, I dropped the others and stayed despite the trash messages and rudeness. In spite of being in a decent size city the pickings here are not much better than where you are. Keep your sail up
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whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:31 am:
I'm going to try my best. It's all I can do.

IVFalternative 53M
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6/19/2019 4:42 pm

 Odds are irrelevant since women fuck you or not largely based on how you present yourself and your behaviour. There are not enough men with good game to satisfy the women.

Your odds are currently zero because complaining is a behaviour that turns women off sexually. So is desperation..

Realistically, changing your mentality enough to get laid with relative ease would be a 2 year process of personal development and learning about women. I recommend you get on that ASAP.
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whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:30 am:
Well I don't think that's a fair assessment of myself. See you're getting me complaining here...on my blog. If you were to read my profile, I don't see myself complaining, just stating the facts as to what I'm looking for.

So while I respect that's your opinion, I don't agree with it. And this coming from someone with no profile picture, in which you're hiding out, while I'm up front and honest about who I am.

Livin_my_Life14 53F

6/19/2019 3:38 pm

 There are a lot of fake, scammers, trolls, models and some people haves many different account names.

I’m not looking- but if I get lucky- great!!

Great blog babe💕


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:25 am:
Thank you Living. I do try to make my blog both entertaining and enjoyable, both for myself and my readers. And I hope you do get lucky!

redrockrascal 65M
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6/19/2019 2:51 pm
    Quoting whoisagentj:
    I just want to find my ONE that will make me feel whole again. Is that so much to ask?
And there is the problem.
When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:21 am:
Ain't that the truth brother.

SomewhereSE 66M
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6/19/2019 2:40 pm

 Not being critical but could it be that the women that decided not to meet you took the time to read your blog and decided you complain too much? Ask your female friends, they would tell you women don’t like complainers. The real ones will read thru your blog, those trying to scam you could care less if you had horns on your head and warts on your face, since they most likely aren’t women anyway.

I also think it would be safe to say that men outnumber women on any site, after all, there are plenty of single women that don’t need a dating site of any kind in order to engage men, while a lot of men have difficulties with the social skills required to do the same.


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:20 am:
Well...you are being critical. But it's somewhat honest. I won't claim that I don't complain a lot. It's hard when you see something that isn't fair, for me, it's a natural instinct to complain, probably because I care too much. When I see something that's wrong, I'm normally the first person to stand up and complain in an attempt to fix things for the better.

Anyway, I won't knock you for complaining that I complain too much. LOL!

bitchkitty2017 71F

6/19/2019 2:34 pm

 Unfortunately i think your stats are pretty much bang on..I never got into that much before but i am sure they are accurate..now from a womans point of view its very upsetting to most to get trashy and nasty messages from the men on here not just once or twice but numerous times throughout the day or little time most are on here , i can attest to that one out of 50 might start off as a respectful message but soon turns out to be " just another horny guy" testing the water...I can ignore the majority but dont ignore them all...some i really tell off ..lol person can only stand so much trash talk..still keep your face in the breeze brother..


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:17 am:
For all I've posted about the male side of things, the female side is much worse. Bombarded with messages from horny and rude guys, messages calling you insults and names if you politely say no, plus you deal with the same scammers and fakes we do...it's crazy.
And right now, there's no breeze. It's just cold.

1Hemiguy1 61M
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6/19/2019 2:08 pm

 There are lots of scammers that’s for sure. There’s lots who will never say hi which is crazy. But then again there’s some that are easy to chat with. I cannot say I’ve not had much luck but it does go in spurts. I’ve meet very nice people on here. Some i stiil see. Others I do not.


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:14 am:
Count yourself a lucky one then. I have to have met people from here but never to get any action out of it.

hornyman5650 73M

6/19/2019 2:05 pm

 I know the feeling about fakes on this website that is all i get are fakes wanting money . This website has become a haven for scammers . And if you report them nothing is ever done to remove them .


whoisagentj replies on 6/20/2019 6:13 am:
Well I noticed that if you know that they are scammers and you can prove it, report it. They will eventually get actioned on if enough people complain, and if you post in their photo pictures that they are fake and post a testimonial that they are fake, the more you harass a fake profile, it will get shut down eventually.

whoisagentj 54M
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6/19/2019 1:50 pm

 I just want to find my ONE that will make me feel whole again. Is that so much to ask?
Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...

Agent


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