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Dear Couple Looking for a Hot Young Chick---
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Dear Couple Looking for a Hot Young Chick--- Stop. just stop, OK. I mean, this is getting a little ridiculous. By now you know that roughly 90% of the couples on here are looking for a hot young chick to have a threesome with, and they are mostly failing. That should tell you something. What it tells me is that hot young chicks are probably a little smarter than you think they are. And have more self esteem. First off, the whole leading off the profile with your "no boys allowed" statement? I know you feel this is a requirement, otherwise you will have to talk to boys and catch cooties and all that, but you are really going about it the wrong way. That all caps NO SINGLE GUYS followed by 17 exclamation points? When you typed this on your profile, you probably thought it was the best way to keep pesky single guys (there are lots of them on this site) from approaching you. But think about this for a minute. Typing in all-caps? Tossing multiple exclamation points on the end of a sentence to make a point? Making a loud angry statement laying down your rules and expecting complete strangers to comply? There is a word that describes all of these activities----trolling. And in this case, you are the troll. Making the first sentence in your profile a declaration that you are an internet troll? Not attractive. Now, should people get past the fact that you have turned your profile into a troll's flame pit in the first sentence, there's the whole "we can fuck other girls, but other guys can't touch my wife" bit. You may not realize this but FriendFinder-x is a swinger site. Two things about people in this lifestyle: 1) they all feel jealousy and 2) they are all dealing with it. You aren't. Your coping method is to create a situation where the guy can experience a letter to Penthouse type night without being threatened by another male presence. Your first sentence didn't just announce you as a troll. It announced that you are a couple where the guy has serious jealousy issue's he hasn't dealt with, and is trying to enjoy fantasies while living in complete denial of the consequences of his actions. In other words, jealous, narcissistic, and immature all wrapped into one. And could set off at any moment due to all the issues that are being buried instead of coped with. Well gosh, who wouldn't want to wade hip deep into that situation while naked and exposed with complete strangers? Get past this and you are trying to get your wife to share your cock (which btw, she looks at as her cock and has since before you tied the knot) with another girl? A single girl? A young, cute one? If this is a woman who has ever gotten pissed at you because you took too long to reply to a text message while you were busy she might not be as happy about sharing as you thought. And don't forget for one second just how much more competitive women are than men. Some people think men are more competitive because of sports, but that's bullshit. Have 2 men play sports together, man 1 strikes out, man 2 hits a home run, man 1 thinks wow, what a great hit. Have two women go to the same party, woman 1 hates her dress and gets no attention, woman 2 wears a designer dress and makes a huge entrance woman 1 basically wants that bitch dead, now. So the 2 girl 1 guy threesome idea is contingent on the guy convincing his wife to pose naked with a hot young girl, then share his cock with the same girl while the guy compares them to each other. And the guy in this scenario is probably going in thinking whew, if it was another guy we'd have to worry about jealousy and anger, sure dodged a<b> bullet </font></b>there. There's a way around the jealousy bit, and that is to hire a , preferably while on vacation to ensure neither of you will see her again. The jealousy will be circumvented by the fact that she truly doesn't give a shit about either of you, and the competition bit by the fact that once she has her money she's gone. Everything else is going to be harder than you think it is, especially.... .....finding the girl. This sounds simple to people who have forgotten one little thing: hot don't really give a shit about you and your problem. Also, so many people come at them wanting to cuddle naked that they actually know your moves much better than you do, because they have practiced their lines in this little skit A LOT. They grew up online, and exposed to a massive amount of hard core porn at an early age (instead of stealing their Dad's Playboys they were watching the same insane websites you watch). Living online means they see your allcaps multiple exclamation pointed no boys allowed sign and recognize it immediately as classic troll behavior, and loathe it. They are also sophisticated enough to realize that the fact you want them but think a threesome with a guy is taboo means you are both way less stable in your relationship and way less adventurous than you want to portray yourself as. Besides, they don't date older to be adventurous. They have their choice of other young, hot, tight bodied people in their age group who are all going through an experimental stage at the same time. They date older for more mature out of the bedroom stuff, or for the shopping, travel and access that come with dating someone who is established. A one night stand with a married couple doesn't satisfy either of their motivations at all. She can fuck a hot young guy and girl who have just as much internet porn knowledge as a married couple and are athletic enough to get in and out of all the positions, and with your wife around the shopping will suck (at least for her, because your wife won't buy her a dozen cute outfits trying to impress her), and so will the access, because your wife won't want her around for anything important. So when you, as a married couple, post an ad looking for a hot young chick for a threesome (and this is a way common ad in here) you are coming at it all wrong (trolling), broadcasting that you have serious unsettled issues, and chasing a limited pool of people who generally have better options. This is a loser proposition, and why so many of you end up miserable. Maybe you need to try a completely different tack. First off, enough complaining about single guys. You post your ad, say what you want, and ignore anyone who doesn't match your desire. Simple. If you get e-mails from people who aren't a match either autoblock them or get over yourself. But do so quietly, and without making yourself look like an asshole. Second--have you thought about maybe trying to deal with your issues first, then bringing someone else into the mix? If you think bringing a girl into your bed is somehow safer and different than bringing in a guy you are fooling yourself. Your ego is too fragile to handle playing with fire, and unless you are ready to confront and deal with this side of things you aren't ready for grown up sex, at least not with anyone who isn't already married to you and feels obligated to cuddle with you while they hope you decide to grow up. And third, stop chasing after the same young single bi interested in couples chick every other mixed up couple in here is chasing. This numbers game does not work. If it has to be a girl girl contact only, and no extra penis, try a compromise. Find another couple in the same boat (easy since they are a dime a dozen) and try some experimental same room girl girl swap. The girls can put on a show for the guys after a few drinks, and then each guy can play with his own wife. The guys won't get to fuck another girl, but they still get the girl girl live show and the hot taboo sex scene stuff. If you have to dip your toe in the water this is the safest way to try things out without breaking up your marriage. And if it works you can always advance a bit, maybe full swap, or a variation where wife A hooks up with couple B one night and wife B hooks up with couple A a different night. This keeps everyone on an equal footing (a great early stage jealousy management tool) and keeps some of the likely to disturb stuff at arms length while you get used to t (another jealousy management technique). You can always back off when it gets uncomfortable, or go further when it's feeling right. And you can stop complaining about too many single guys and not enough single girls which will make you much less of a tool and more interesting to hang out with, which is a great way to meet more single chicks, or just make new friends who are into some of the same stuff you are. Easy? No, but easier than picking up hot on FriendFinder-x for your wedding anniversary-stravaganza party that is never going to happen. |
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It looks like you read your share of couple's profiles screaming " no single men". I agree with LOUDandOFTEN, most such "couples" are just single guys that use couple's profiles in hopes to catch more women. In many cases they don't care how young or old these women are as long as they have a pulse and agree to play, it's all good. The jealousy angle, however, is true only if the female part of the couple is not inclined to play with girls and agrees to a FMF only to please their male. It's common for couples in lifestyle to look for particular arrangements. Some couples look for men only, others look for women, yet others seek couples. All depends on their preferences. We all have the right to our preferences, no? So, if my profile screams "no one under 45", does that mean I'm a troll? I don't think so. This is my preference and I try to use my profile as a filter. Couples, as well as women of all ages, get tons of emails daily. We use all means possible to weed out unwanted contacts.
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It looks like you read your share of couple's profiles screaming " no single men". I agree with LOUDandOFTEN, most such "couples" are just single guys that use couple's profiles in hopes to catch more women. In many cases they don't care how young or old these women are as long as they have a pulse and agree to play, it's all good. The jealousy angle, however, is true only if the female part of the couple is not inclined to play with girls and agrees to a FMF only to please their male. It's common for couples in lifestyle to look for particular arrangements. Some couples look for men only, others look for women, yet others seek couples. All depends on their preferences. We all have the right to our preferences, no? So, if my profile screams "no one under 45", does that mean I'm a troll? I don't think so. This is my preference and I try to use my profile as a filter. Couples, as well as women of all ages, get tons of emails daily. We use all means possible to weed out unwanted contacts. Visit my blog It's a Mad, Mad, Mad World of NaughtyInSO, leave a comment, become a watcher. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LIVE AND LET LIVE Be happy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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cafs - I understand your point about thinking everyone on here is lacking something and that sex is not a cure to fix a marriage but...in our situation- it was not the actual sex that fixed us but the ability to fully open up about sex. My hubby and I currently lack nothing in our relationship and sex. but the day we both opened up about fantasies, needs, wants...we found all jealousies just slipped away. Now, sex can be a very special thing between the two of us or just a fun physical thing with others. But that physical sex with others actually becomes something special between my husband and I. I hope that actually made sense. hahahaha But I still think the no men thing is a jealous man who is controlling. Even a woman who loves her husband and enjoys a girl has to have fantasies about other men or being between 2 men. lol
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I'm with those that understand that the no single men announcement screams jealous man or controlling man. And I also find it very hard to believe that a woman that enjoys a fmf or a ff with her man watching would not also like to try adding another man to the mix. if for nothing else, just the experience.
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@loudandoften nothing prompted it directly, I just chuckle every time I see a couple with this complaint pasted on their webcam or blog enough I finally thought I'd share with the class. @zazou that's a great point. one of the biggest problems I see people having on this site is dealing with fakes. For single guys it's bots set up by the marketing dept., for women it's the guy masquerading as something he's not more often than not (although guys do get interest from fake women looking for online thrills). If I was king of this site for a day one thing I'd do is add "fantasy or online only" relationship to the list of choices. So many people are looking for that, why not help them find each other instead of bothering everyone else? @copticus I honestly thought it would be a lot shorter when I started typing, but it ran on quite a bit before I got it in. Glad you appreciate. @cafsexnic very true, if jealousy is an issue it's an underlying one and it's coming up no matter how cleverly you try to stage the scene.
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