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Blogs > rm_1welikefun > we like all kinds of fun

so alone  

rm_1welikefun 59F
374 posts
1/2/2010 5:09 am
so alone

Its kinda funny in its own way, with all the people that I know I have really never been this alone in my life, funny don't you think?

bigbuddy1982 41M
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1/2/2010 5:45 am

 Those things happen. So whats up with you?


Luv2bfit 51M
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1/3/2010 5:33 am

 I read you are recently divorced after 12 years of marriage. As one who has been divorced over 2 years after a 15 year relationship, I know of the lonliness you are experiencing. Even the most cordial seperations mean that life going forward will be dramatically different, and honestly it takes time for that reality to completely sink in. Give youself time to grieve, heal, and recogise that there will be good days and bad days. The right lover(s) may ease this, but it will not completely replace it. It just takes time, maybe a long time.....
Like what you see? Message me... Luv2bfit


WhatsUrPleasur 63M

1/6/2010 1:40 pm

 I'm sorry to hear you are feeling lonely. I know how that feels and it sucks when you don't have someone to throw pepperoni at, or argue politics with...

Pepperoni aside, I'm sure you will find your feet and adjust to your new situation.
Check out blog whatsurpleasur. it won't hurt... much!


rm_MoPooty 63M
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1/6/2010 2:42 pm
    Quoting Luv2bfit:
    I read you are recently divorced after 12 years of marriage. As one who has been divorced over 2 years after a 15 year relationship, I know of the lonliness you are experiencing. Even the most cordial seperations mean that life going forward will be dramatically different, and honestly it takes time for that reality to completely sink in. Give youself time to grieve, heal, and recogise that there will be good days and bad days. The right lover(s) may ease this, but it will not completely replace it. It just takes time, maybe a long time.....
I was just checking out your profile so that I could wish you a HAPPY NEW YEAR when I saw your blog. I, too, am sorry to hear about your divorce. 12 yrs is a long time to be with someone. I was with my wife for 10 years, and we have been divorced for over 2 yrs. now.

Although each person's experience is different, I hear you loud & clear. You are grieving the loss of your partner; a person who was a constant icon in your life....

I'm glad you made that statement! You are proclaiming your lonliness....that's the first step in the healing process. Allow yourself to grieve the loss; to grieve the good times...and the bad. Then, get busy and fill your life with things that bring you pleasure and happiness.

Some might not agree with me on this, but it's my recommendation. We all know that stress can kill you. Well, prolonged grief and harboring hurt can also kill you. We all know people who have been together for a long time when one partner dies, and within 12 to 24 months the other has also died. Grief....they never got over their partner's death. Christopher Reeves died, and within a year or longer his wife also died. She had lung cancer.....and never smoked a day in her life.

You have MANY friends on this site, including me. Don't hesitate to turn to us when you're feeling down & out. If you need to talk we can chat here or I can give you my digits and we can talk. Don't EVER feel like you're alone. There are TOO many of us who like you...and care about you.

MoPooty


rm_1welikefun 59F
807 posts
1/6/2010 3:14 pm

 Hi everyone, Luv it put it wonderfully and that may be some of it, but not all, just have alot going on. But things always get better. Doesnt everyone pretty much get this way once in awhile? I think so, and it passes. It was just a lonely morning and thought I would blog it, lol. Thank you guys I hope to meet you all some time soon. And for those I already know, well see you soon also. And for that lack of sunshine, that is so true, lets go to the islands....................


Stephen755 59M

1/6/2010 5:28 pm

 yes everyone does feel this way...in your case, it's the unfortunate side effect of being such a warm and loving person, you give so much of yourself, and sometimes don't take care of YOU!! But please know, from those of us whom have the wonderfully good fortune to have actually met you, and for those who have only seen your warmth through the electical wires, that we all want to start the New Year by sending back to you some of the good will that you spread so un-selfishly.


rm_MoPooty 63M
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1/9/2010 6:26 am
    Quoting rm_1welikefun:
    Hi everyone, Luv it put it wonderfully and that may be some of it, but not all, just have alot going on. But things always get better. Doesnt everyone pretty much get this way once in awhile? I think so, and it passes. It was just a lonely morning and thought I would blog it, lol. Thank you guys I hope to meet you all some time soon. And for those I already know, well see you soon also. And for that lack of sunshine, that is so true, lets go to the islands....................
Hedonism sounds like an Ideal Place!!!
or the Tom Joyner R&B Royal Caribbean Cruise that's coming up this spring.


rm_1welikefun replies on 1/10/2010 6:24 am:
yeah one of my problems is my job is a temp job, monthly basis, so no money.........now if i were rich would i still be bumming out?

ClassicFriction 62M
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1/10/2010 6:50 pm

 Absolutely normal. If you didn't feel that way, THEN I would be worried.

We all have our own ways of dealing with loneliness and I won't bore you with my list. Well, maybe one idea. I might rent a kick-ass movie like Top Gun and invite someone over for pizza and brewskis.

Time will heal you.........nothing else works that I know of.


SecretFantasy818 62F
81 posts
1/11/2010 9:34 am

 We can create a hedonism weekend right in New England! Or you can come to my place, we can light the fireplace, cook delicious meals, and watch movies and read all weekend in our Snuggies. I know it will only be a temporary fix, the loss of a significant relationship leaves a deep, chilling loneliness and aloneness that even time cannot completely heal. But sometimes we get together with friends even when we don't really feel like it. Then more and more we find we are having a good time. Eventually the feelings fade away to an occasional wistful sadness. And that's ok. You are a warm, beautiful lady, my friend. The world is yours and it awaits your pleasure.


ndirish265 59M
8 posts
1/23/2010 9:56 am

 Hopefully those after New Years Eve blues have gonna away!!! The sun comes up every morning and the day is full of a new adventure. Keep smiling!!!


hokey57 66M
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3/13/2010 12:45 pm

 I learned a long time ago that each of us is on his or her own path in life. Where we meet is where our paths cross. At times in our lives our paths seemed to be joined with others, as we share life's experiences. And then CHANGE comes again & off we go. This Saturn-Uranus Opposition is just about to pass, mid April. It arrived on Election Day. Out with the old, in with the new. I have many Saggittarius friends, we've all dealt with this at 1 time or another. I hope that whatever you need Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Intellectually, & Spiritually will manifest itself soon... Peace & Love, Hoke...


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