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What 2 do when NSA turns into feelings?  

EbonyQueen4u 52F
79 posts
1/17/2008 11:14 am

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2/22/2008 11:38 pm

What 2 do when NSA turns into feelings?


I'm sure many of you on FriendFinder-x who are active and adventerous have had some great sex, good sex and some "fill in the time sex".
What happens when you click with someone in and out of the bedroom? Kind of a meeting of the minds along with dick and<b> pussy..</font></b>and other areas.LOL

When things start as NSA (no strings attached), the sex, conversation and vibe are above average...so what do you do when feelings creep in?
Is it just mind-blowing sex? Or should you mention that feelings are coming into play? If you have felt this way? OR you have been on the receiving end of NSA when someone started to really feel you? What did you do? I know many would expect this is a woman thing..but I think it may just be a "human" thing.

I would love to know how AFFers have handled this in the past and present? Please write some comments and let me know your thoughts

rm_Gambler2805 47M
213 posts
1/17/2008 11:53 am

It's tough to say. I've had it where we've both had feelings, but since we were both attached, we decided that all we could do is know how we feel and if the time ever comes down the road, that maybe we can be together. But at this time we've just continued to see each other and see where the road takes us.

Probably not a lot of help, but that is my experience so far.

"I don't know how to put this..but I'm kinda a big deal.....people know me."-- Burgundy


EbonyQueen4u 52F
66 posts
1/17/2008 8:19 pm

Thanks for your comments Gambler and Za1nonlyme. I guess it's easier if you are both attached. Because you have commitments elsewhere, so it's kind of forbidden to go beyond NSA. Za1..I am curious how you both talked about clicking outside the bedroom???

I clicked with someone and we can talk about anything..hours go bye in minutes. Even the sex is very mental and intimate..a lot of holding and caressing and spending nights together. Not a fuck and go situation. BUT he's married to work and I enjoy his company in between business trips.I fear he doesn't want to be available for any more than NSA. I would bring it up, but I don't want to scare him away! It's a hard transition to make. I hope you both have happy ending with those you've connected to.


CB_2 58F

1/22/2008 9:20 am

Oh, it's hard, ebonyqueen. At least, it is for me. I seem to be preprogrammed to fall for guys.

I try to have NSA sex, but the thing is I can't have ongoing sex with someone and not care about them. I find the best way to deal with it is to distract myself by having more than one guy on the go at once!

At the moment I am seeing someone with whom the sex is great, but it is the surrounding intimacy which is even better. He pours his heart out, emotionally, about our relationship, but doesn't want to be my official boyfriend for various reasons. I suspect he's on the run from relationships at the moment, so while he's happyt o have one, he doesn't want it labelled as such. Having vacillated on this subject, I have decided I'll just have to carry on having sex with him and hope one day he decides to change his mind. I couldn't bear to walk away from it a second time.

Blogito ergo sum.


EbonyQueen4u 52F
66 posts
1/23/2008 2:58 pm

Thanks for the comment CB_2. I think I must be wired the same way. I like that suggestion about keeping several guys around, so that I am not waiting for that one-who doesn't know he has my heart.

So I'll enjoy the sex and intimacy with that one and if it is meant to be-he'll come around! If not I will have some other great sex buddies as well to keep me busy


rm_STR82DAPNT4U 57M

1/27/2008 3:46 pm

NSA?? Seems women more then men, but men included have difficulty seperating lust from love. Maybe is a matter of socialization and upbringing and culture and all that other blah blah blah stuff??
Bottom line is that if a arragement is stated and understood, is should be respected. If feelings change then that rare but elusive creature, the communicating adult needs to step and whisper those scary words of change and add the person into the equation for a soulution. Or get out of his or her own way, shut the fuck up and enjoy the sex ,or recognize the loneliness , the need and if the person is not on the same page, stay sexually sated and seek out actively a love of their own., who's as equally freaky and sexually alive as you are. Also recognize responses to loneliness and desire. Be a spectator not a participant. Question, ask, and always cum as much and as many times as posssbile so if its the last with them you have no regrets. I personally would like to have 1 or 2 good side fucks who can learn my trick and i theirs so that we can break each other in rather then a series of 1-2 night stands that are full of fumbling and potential disappointments. happym;


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