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TANTRIC SEX: THE BIG OM ( Learn how to do prolonged Sex)
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TANTRIC SEX: THE BIG OM ( Learn how to do prolonged Sex) Tantric sex is the polar opposite of “wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am.” Much of Tantra is about lovingly touching each other, because as the Taoists believe, the energy in your body is recharged when you are touched for a long period of time. Part of the Tantric sex ritual involves sexual positions that can help prolong the sexual interaction and provides a fuller, whole-body, sensual experience. You can expect to be delighted for hours during the sex ritual, and you may even find that you feel an intense, intimate connection to your partner for days afterward. Before you start any of the exercises, here are a few tips: • Start slowly. Don't push yourself beyond what feels good or natural. • Practice Tantra in a room that's warm, comfortable, and inviting. • Eliminate distractions. Unplug the phone, lock the door, turn off the television. • Take the time to rest and enjoy being close to each other after you've finished. Remember, it's not a quickie. Breathing in Harmony Harmonized breathing is an integral part of Tantric sex. Just like in all yoga disciplines, breathing helps the participants establish a kind of meditative state. When you're practicing Tantra, your breath should consist of four parts. Try this: 1. Inhale slowly. 2. Hold the inhalation for a few seconds. 3. Exhale slowly. 4. Hold the breath out for a few seconds. Tantric couples practice breathing together in sync to help them achieve harmony within their bodies, which is said to lead to greater harmony within their relationship. Here's a basic exercise that will help you and your lover get in sync: • Assume the spooning position, with both of you on your left sides, facing in the same direction. According to Tantric wisdom, this position is conducive to energy flow. • Close your eyes and relax into this nurturing position. Try to focus on your breathing, using the steps I just described. When you feel comfortable with the rhythm of your own breath, move your concentration to your partner's breath. • Then, try to get your breathing in sync with your partner's. Relax. Breathe in and breathe out at the same time. Continue this synchronized breathing for 5 minutes. This breathing exercise can be done anytime. It's a great way to start your day! There are other breathing exercises that you can do once you've mastered the basics. Check out one of the many books about Tantra at your local bookstore for more information. How You Balance Each Other As you start to get physically close, notice the opposition of the male and female energy and body parts that go together for a perfect balance. This is called the yin and yang. By holding, caressing, and slowly kissing, a man and a woman can feel how they are different from each other. They can feel the obvious gender differences in their bodies and how they complement each other for balance. People who practice Tantra believe that the perfect sexual balance is achieved between a man and a woman because of this opposition. This is not to say that gays and lesbians cannot practice Tantra. It is just that it is not part of the ancient traditions of Tantra, because of the belief of ying and yang, male and female, energies combining to create one form. However, today anyone can practice Tantra. Whatever your gender or sexual orientation, the most important aspect of creating balance with your partner is having the desire to feel more connected! Beginning Tantric Sex Tantric practitioners typically begin each encounter by creating a scene that's conducive to intimacy. The following steps can bring you and your partner close together: • You and your partner can sit nude and cross-legged on a rug or pillows on the floor in a darkened room. You can use soft lighting, candles, and either have the room silent or use New Age-type music to set the mood. • You should begin looking deeply into your partner's eyes. Not staring—really looking to try to see your partner for the wonderful person that you think he or she is. • While looking into each other's eyes, next you should each state how much you cherish and respect each other, and how you want to become closer. You can say something like, “I feel you are an important part of my world. I worship the love inside you and the love we share. I respect you. I want our love to combine with the universe.” • Then, while still sitting cross-legged and still looking into each other's eyes, hold each other's hands and start breathing in sync, breathing together deeply, in and out, as described earlier. • Once you are breathing in the same rhythm, you can start trying to feel the energy flowing within yourselves and between your bodies. With your eyes closed, you and your partner simultaneously begin tracing your hands around each other's bodies, without actually touching at first; in fact, your hands should be about 2 inches away. This way, after a few minutes, you'll be able to feel the heat and energy that is radiating from the other's body. • Once you're in tune with the energy that's flowing off of your partner, open your eyes, look into each other's eyes, and gently hold hands, while you keep breathing in sync. Concentrate on feeling the energy that's flowing back and forth between you and your partner—through your hands, your breathing, and your eyes. The longer you stay in this state, the more connected you may feel. Some people stay this way (silently, not talking!) for between 30 and 60 minutes, just enjoying the closeness. • After this point, you may begin engaging in foreplay by touching each other's genitals in slow, rhythmic ways. Tantrics say that a couple must have a harmonious steady flow of the “inner elixir” in order to be ready to have intercourse. In other words, the woman should be very wet and the man should have a firm erection. At this point, the couple can have intercourse, if desired. Riding the Wave If you've gotten this far, you probably understand that couples who practice Tantra are striving for heightened sensory awareness. But if you're a practitioner, you'll not only feel increased sensations during sex, you can also prolong the sex act. In Tantric sex, the buildup to the actual genital orgasm will be lasting and intense, because the foreplay and genital touching stage continues for a long time, even up to 2 hours if desired. In traditional sex, a couple most often gets into a thrusting rhythm that will lead to orgasm. In Tantra, you can stop and start in order to prolong the feelings. Some describe it as “riding the wave” of sexual energy. Riding the wave allows you to let the sexual energy build up, so that when you're finally ready to share the energy—to orgasm—the feeling is intensified because the energy is so ready to be released. It's as if every pore of your body is waiting for orgasm. The following steps illustrate what it means to “ride the wave”: • The man inserts his penis just an inch or so inside the woman's vagina, without thrusting. • He just rests his penis inside her for a few minutes to feel her body and her energy. • Then he withdraws his penis from her vagina and uses it to gently massage her clitoris and vaginal opening. • After a few minutes of this massage, he slides back inside her vagina again. • This cycle should be repeated several times. Most of the time, you should each feel as if you're hovering on the brink of orgasm. • When you finally decide to release into orgasm, the penis should remain inside the vagina, thrusting gently until climax. The man can also use his penis to massage the woman's clitoris until orgasm. Unlike traditional Western sex, in Tantra you should refrain from moaning or writhing around during heavy-petting and intercourse. Instead, it's important to always “stay present, ” keeping your eyes open, your breathing deep and conscious, and really paying attention to the feelings in your body. People who practice Tantra say they feel the sensations of sex much deeper because they focus in this way. This will allow you to feel closer to each other and more spiritually connected to the universe around you. |
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