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Stunned beyond belief!
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Stunned beyond belief! While taking pictures of my friend the other night we got talking about her previous relationship. We have been through a lot of it before, and although I never met the guy, I just find him a complete moron by now. First it was just the every day stuff we talked about, but then it changed every so slowly to sex - or rather their lack of. Now guys hold on here! In the four years they were together she was not allowed to give him a blow job. Let me repeat that, just in case you think you read it wrong: She was NOT ALLOWED to give him a blow job! This left me completely stunned. I would have a hard time living with someone and not being allowed to give him a blow job, but how the hell can a guy refuse that???? I've never heard of that before. I've heard of guys moaning about that their girlfriends won't do it, but that's a different matter (not that I understand that either). So please someone enlighten me here: What is it that makes a guy refuse to receive a blow job??? |
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Maybe she did once and bit him I saw a woman's profile where she said that receiving oral was a turn off for her... I couldn't understand that either...
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9/10/2008 1:22 am |
Ok that's a new one for me!!!.... I haven't ever encountered a man that didn't want or refused a blow job!!.. ..If a woman says she not in the mood to have sex, the guy USUALLY says will you at least give me a blow job!!.. ......I am Happy..  ...Single..Naked and Free...Care To Join Me?... ...
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My god I have never heard of it before either... maybe she was just useless at it  Can you keep a secret ?  
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Maybe she did once and bit him I saw a woman's profile where she said that receiving oral was a turn off for her... I couldn't understand that either...
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Ok that's a new one for me!!!.. .. I haven't ever encountered a man that didn't want or refused a blow job!!....If a woman says she not in the mood to have sex, the guy USUALLY says will you at least give me a blow job!!....
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My god I have never heard of it before either... maybe she was just useless at it
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I think he must have simply been an EXTREME control freak. And deathly scared that someone might actually know how to please him. And thusly "gain power". That is super odd though and I've nevcer heard of a control freak who would go to that level of an extreme. Now I am highly talented at resisting women. ( too good actually ) Any woman who thinks they are some sort of Phlegm Fatale who's charms I can't resist I surely can. Especially if I have no doubt they are simply into mind games and manipulation. I have had a few drop dead gorgeous girls who I broke up with who were at least determined to get back to me sexually and I'll never allow that if they are "player" types. If there were an Olympics for that I'd not necessarily win the gold medal but I'd at least get silver or bronze.  But this guy takes the cake. It doesn't even make sense except if you were some super extreme control freak. And your usual control freak would instead make you give blowjobs even if you didn't want to. Not make you NOT give them at all. So yeah, this guy is in a class all his own. insert exploding bomb image here
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I'm thinking mental condition as well...
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9/10/2008 3:41 am |
could be a closeted queer...its manditory at my house... if your gonna die, die with your boots on
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PS. Another thing you must ALWAYS do in these cases is take a good look at the OTHER person invovled. For example , no matter how much I might like blaming other girls for things which went bad in past relationships I am a complete and utter idiot if I do not also pose the question..... What was it about ME that attracted this situation like flies to shit? Without doing that sort of self anylysis you do end up attracting the the same types of problems over and over again. Because nobody is EVER really the victim of anything. We all do attract all things to ourselves in some sort of magnetic way. It takes two to tango and by only looking at one side of the issue you usually end up throwing the baby out with the bathwater and the "victim" ends up repeating the same sort of scenarios yet again and saying "why does this keep happening to me?". Just more food for thought.  insert exploding bomb image here
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I think he must have simply been an EXTREME control freak. And deathly scared that someone might actually know how to please him. And thusly "gain power". That is super odd though and I've nevcer heard of a control freak who would go to that level of an extreme. Now I am highly talented at resisting women. ( too good actually ) Any woman who thinks they are some sort of Phlegm Fatale who's charms I can't resist I surely can. Especially if I have no doubt they are simply into mind games and manipulation. I have had a few drop dead gorgeous girls who I broke up with who were at least determined to get back to me sexually and I'll never allow that if they are "player" types. If there were an Olympics for that I'd not necessarily win the gold medal but I'd at least get silver or bronze. But this guy takes the cake. It doesn't even make sense except if you were some super extreme control freak. And your usual control freak would instead make you give blowjobs even if you didn't want to. Not make you NOT give them at all. So yeah, this guy is in a class all his own.
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could be a closeted queer...its manditory at my house... 
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PS. Another thing you must ALWAYS do in these cases is take a good look at the OTHER person invovled. For example , no matter how much I might like blaming other girls for things which went bad in past relationships I am a complete and utter idiot if I do not also pose the question..... What was it about ME that attracted this situation like flies to shit? Without doing that sort of self anylysis you do end up attracting the the same types of problems over and over again. Because nobody is EVER really the victim of anything. We all do attract all things to ourselves in some sort of magnetic way. It takes two to tango and by only looking at one side of the issue you usually end up throwing the baby out with the bathwater and the "victim" ends up repeating the same sort of scenarios yet again and saying "why does this keep happening to me?". Just more food for thought. 
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I doubt very much that she'll ever see that part of him again, but I'll get her to ask him if there are any scarring 
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I was once in a relationship like that... 6 years and the man never once wanted one, wouldn't let me give him one. Course he also didn't want SEX more than 3 or 4 times a year either but that's a whole different issue. Only thing that I was ever able to figure out, and it wasn't until YEARS later, was that it had to somehow be related to his having been in jail at one time... either that or he was even more of a control freak than I thought he was.
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I'm with you on this one PJ. I doubt very much I'd lasted a month without it!
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I was once in a relationship like that... 6 years and the man never once wanted one, wouldn't let me give him one. Course he also didn't want SEX more than 3 or 4 times a year either but that's a whole different issue. Only thing that I was ever able to figure out, and it wasn't until YEARS later, was that it had to somehow be related to his having been in jail at one time... either that or he was even more of a control freak than I thought he was. I know he hasn't been to prisson (asked to rule out the possibility, besides prissons here are like camps compared to prissons in the states). I'll go with the control freak as an option besides needing to have his head examined...
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I'm so pleased that even though you class your self as a bit of a control freak that you still don't get it. I've really tried to consider all angles on this one, and can't find one that makes sense to me... But yes it really makes no sense at all that any guy would so deliberately shun blow jobs! Glad to find you are still blogging BTW! insert exploding bomb image here
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I don't know whats wrong with that guy, a BJ is the best thing to start wonderfull sex, It must be that Bobbett thing but I personaly would take that risk for a BJ. greetings from Holand _ _ _ _ _ it's better to live and do the things today than to be sorry tomorrow 
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I wasn't meaning to say I was a control freak. More that I have some degree of conscious control over having sex ( or not ) when it is so blatantly thrown at me. But yes it really makes no sense at all that any guy would so deliberately shun blow jobs! Glad to find you are still blogging BTW! I thought that there might be someone out there, who could understand it, and come up with a really good explanation, but apparently not quite yet...
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Maybe a bad experience or some sort of sexual trauma when he was a youth. How is it you relate with that special someone!!! We are Relational Beings and How to Communicate A moment of lust does not equal The eternity of true LOVE Keep your heart true and pure Get it RIGHT Or get LEFT        
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I think it's because he doesn't want to get too intimate with her. This would stop him from having a lot of feelings for her. I'm in a similar situation myself (we are working on it). Since I got MS he has been pulling back as he's too scared to be too close, I think he's scared of my demise. When men try to control the level of intimacy it's a sure sign they are afraid of committment Q. What's the last thing that goes through a fly's mind when it hits a windscreen? A. It's arse! Will you play with us? [post 1655225] 
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I don't know whats wrong with that guy, a BJ is the best thing to start wonderfull sex, It must be that Bobbett thing but I personaly would take that risk for a BJ. greetings from Holand
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That's it, never taking my son to see the piranha at feeding time!
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Fortunately I've never tried it  , so that's why I was so stunned
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