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For A Ms. In the Me Decade, A Miss Of A Swinging Experience
For A Ms. In the Me Decade, A Miss Of A Swinging Experience There are some experiences which even “What the hell – it was the ‘70s” can’t justify. Consider the following phrases, and then ask how a remembrance from the 1970s could end in anything but disappointment, if not disaster: Co-worker. First date. Swinger’s party. Squirming with anticipated discomfort yet? Fortunately Janie Emaus, in a Huffington Post blog piece titled “Come Swing With Me,” didn’t seem to suffer anything worse than a mild case of embarrassment. Furthermore, the 40 or so years that have passed since the incident she describes seem to have blunted the sting. According to Emaus, a co-worker she’d had a crush on – yellow flag number one – interoffice dating can be tricky, if not downright prohibited by company policy – invited her to a swinger’s party for their first date – yellow flag number two – if two people decide to swing together, it should be after a lot of discussion about respect, potential scenarios, expectations, and repercussions. Emaus accepted, despite being right in the middle of “my decade of wanting so badly to be loved, to find a husband, to start a family that I was willing to say yes to anything” – yellow flags number three through 16 or so – swinging is an activity which, if done in couples, should be done for the joy of it, and not with ulterior motives. The swinging community ain’t your therapist or your matchmaker. There are a lot of questions one might ask when first pondering swinging, even in the pre-safer-sex go-go times of the Nixon administration. What will be expected? How many people will be there? Should I bring a covered dish? (There’s some wiggle room on that last question.) What question immediately jumped to Emaus’s mind? “What should I wear?” Fair’s fair: As she notes, “Seconds later the word NO swelled to goliath proportions within my mind, but failed to come out.” Ah, love… Emaus consulted with a friend, who observed that “guys needed dates to get into swinger parties and pointed out he wouldn't have asked me if he wasn't into me.” Of course – because treating someone as a meal ticket and putting that person immediately into an awkward solution is the sincerest form of showing you’re into someone. With friends like that… Did I mention that this story took place during the ‘70s? To give it that authentic period feel, Emaus notes that on the day of the event, she wore “hip hugger bell bottoms jeans and a yellow<b> crop </font></b>top, exposing way more skin than I ever had at work.” I’ve stopped counting warning flags: I think we’re up in the two dozen area. Uncomfortable situation, clothing which causes consternation… what else could Emaus have done to compound her awkwardness? How about having a date who was a jerk? Once Emaus and her arrived at the party, her date breezed past the gentleman who opened the door, found a group of conventionally dressed people who were discussing daycare issues, didn’t introduce himself – or her – and began making double entendres which fell flat. Emaus’s conclusion? “It was obvious we were not at a swinger's party. We had crashed a simple friends' get-together.” Alas, her date was a little slower on the uptake: “Suddenly [Emaus’s date] stood and demanded to see the room ‘where all the action took place.’ Without getting an answer, he headed down the hallway toward the back of the house, the owner following on his heels.” There was no action, of course… and Emaus and her date ended up leaving shortly thereafter, with Emaus’s date cursing the name of the person who had given him the wrong address. Good God almighty… does anyone else think this is a perfect historical analog for men on this site who email women with the opening line “wanna fuck?” And… if the fact that it was the Me Decade was enough to excuse their behavior back then (it wasn’t, but bear with me) what’s their excuse now? Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic |
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Oh my ! This sounds like a very, very bad erotica (even if you didn't write it and it's way over 250 words)
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Oh my ! This sounds like a very, very bad erotica (even if you didn't write it and it's way over 250 words) * Rire * La pire sorte d' érotisme, je pense! Peut-être qu'il est une bonne chose que nous avons choisi un sujet différent... Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Hah! I damned near used the line "Plus ca change..." as the last line of the piece... good to know we're thinking alike! Look up the original piece: I've left some stuff out -- it deserves a read. It's even worse... And thank you! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Wow, talk about a date from hell. Bad from the beginning and just kept getting worse.
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40+ years didn't make any difference in certain matters, and that's why there are a lot of unhappy men out there. It's the gut feeling that bring up those little flags, and if we would pay attention to them, certain situations could be easily avoid. WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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This date sounds really bad.. one from Hell.. Red flag all the way there humour hugsssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I have no experience with swinging, but I have a hunch that covered dish probably shouldn't be beans. I remember quite a lot of the seventies, but I've tried to forget a lot of it on purpose, without noted success. The BeeGees. Disco. Burt Reynolds' movies. Watergate. Clothing- any of the clothing. [image] However, as you indicated in this post, the more things change, the more they seem to stay the same. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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It seems, Ms.Emaus wanted her story to sound funny. Well, she succeeded, her story is funny but not in the way she intended. Was the utterly desperate or utterly stupid to go on such a first date? Sadly, some men got stuck in that Me decade: just the other day I got a message from a man on the swinger site that read "Meet me at 7 pm in front of (address). Wear a corset." I never met or corresponded with that man. His profile didn't have a single picture. I think this beats the "wanna f**k" messages we get on this site. Stupidity and self-entitlement have no bounds. Visit my blog It's a Mad, Mad, Mad World of NaughtyInSO, leave a comment, become a watcher. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ LIVE AND LET LIVE Be happy! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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Wow, talk about a date from hell. Bad from the beginning and just kept getting worse. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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40+ years didn't make any difference in certain matters, and that's why there are a lot of unhappy men out there. It's the gut feeling that bring up those little flags, and if we would pay attention to them, certain situations could be easily avoid. Even if it HAD been a swing party, can you imagine that asshole barging in like that? There are rules, people... Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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This date sounds really bad.. one from Hell.. Red flag all the way there humour hugsssssss V Pity her first (only?) experience with the lifestyle had to be with that yutz... she might have loved it! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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I have no experience with swinging, but I have a hunch that covered dish probably shouldn't be beans. I remember quite a lot of the seventies, but I've tried to forget a lot of it on purpose, without noted success. The BeeGees. Disco. Burt Reynolds' movies. Watergate. Clothing- any of the clothing. [image] However, as you indicated in this post, the more things change, the more they seem to stay the same. Bow-chicka-bow-wow! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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It seems, Ms.Emaus wanted her story to sound funny. Well, she succeeded, her story is funny but not in the way she intended. Was the utterly desperate or utterly stupid to go on such a first date? Sadly, some men got stuck in that Me decade: just the other day I got a message from a man on the swinger site that read "Meet me at 7 pm in front of (address). Wear a corset." I never met or corresponded with that man. His profile didn't have a single picture. I think this beats the "wanna f**k" messages we get on this site. Stupidity and self-entitlement have no bounds. 2. I waited for more than an hour for you at (address). I'm very annoyed that you didn't show. Did I say six-inch heels? No. I did not say six-inch heels. Just one simple corset. You could have worn a dirndl if you'd wanted. I'm flexible. Meet me halfway next time, 'k? I flew all the way across the country, starting at 8:30 a.m. my time, to be there at 7 p.m. Figured you didn't need a photo 'cause you know what I look like (I'm the clean-shaven one in the profile photo). Jeez! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Jalopenos aren't a good idea, either. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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I reckon the excuse may be that it works. A low percentage, yes, but the odds increase with every e-mail... blog on!
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oh yeah. I just posted a 70's syle post that also pimps the upcoming symposium. Take a gander at it if you wish... keithcannadanna 12th Virtual Symposium.
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I reckon the excuse may be that it works. A low percentage, yes, but the odds increase with every e-mail... blog on! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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oh yeah. I just posted a 70's syle post that also pimps the upcoming symposium. Take a gander at it if you wish... keithcannadanna 12th Virtual Symposium. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Of course, I had to go over and read the original article before I read your post. It was funny and sad and thoughtful. And your point it well made- this is the ancestor of the men who just email women, willy-nilly, with very succinct messages of "Can I cum on your face?" or the ubiquitous "wanna fuck?" Funny, that people should be so afraid of swinger parties. Kitkat The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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I love your blog, Buni... but why does it seem that you have as many incredible stories that you haven't told as those you have? It wasn't a bad date, but my most interesting date was one in which I ended taking the young lady for emergency surgery. No midgets, though, so you still win. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Of course, I had to go over and read the original article before I read your post. It was funny and sad and thoughtful. And your point it well made- this is the ancestor of the men who just email women, willy-nilly, with very succinct messages of "Can I cum on your face?" or the ubiquitous "wanna fuck?" Funny, that people should be so afraid of swinger parties. Kitkat Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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I am trying to think of the 70s but for some reason, Mad Men is coming into my mind which was the 60s. LOL I don't have anything to add except bad dates happen. As to men messaging Want to fuck, I think I wrote a poem about that. LOL If you look at the bottom of your blog post on men messaging want to fuck, you'll see square brackets and a seven-digit number. If you cut and paste those -- including the brackets -- into a message or a reply, you'll have a hotlink. Please share that post! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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"Unreasonably optimistic" is an excellent way of phrasing it. An opening sexually loaded approach will likely damp the ardor of even fairly willing women... although after a baseline of of respect has been established, this approach can work... occasionally. But that takes, as you also note, intelligence and humor, and people on the internet -- not just this site -- use anonymity to provide cover for a lot of boorish behavior. Welcome to the blog! Hope you'll stick around and enjoy postings to come... Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Bobby Sherman, hm? Ah, well, Easy Come, Easy Go... Nothing wrong with having the thrills of swinging be vicarious ones! Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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The 1970s was a fantastic decade - the rise of disco. Disco is great music to swing to!
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