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Blogs > reallyready46 > Ramblings of a middle aged man

Now what is a slut?  

reallyready46 64M
531 posts
6/4/2012 7:45 pm
Now what is a slut?

Guess this has been simmering in the back of my mind for the past week. I have alway found it interesting how if a guy sleeps around, well he is a stud. No down side or negitive words there. However if a woman does the same thing, she is a slut or , easy, sleazy, skank and so forth. What gives here? So are we to allow men as much experience as they want and women nothing? Perhaps its deeper yet. Men just do not want to be compaired to others for fear they would not measure up to others. I think alot of that shows on here when couples only want women.

I understand that men want good women on the outside with wild sex inside the bedroom. But honestly guys how does a woman get that kind of experience? It does seem like society is freeing woman more for sexual expression. We now seem to want MILFS and cougers to show us how sex can be. But yet this stigma stills hangs around. I almost feel at times women continue this name calling more than the men.

All this seems a bit bizarre coming from a sex site. As always I would love to hear what you all think.

reallyready46 64M
1383 posts
6/5/2012 9:16 am
    Quoting HoneyBunny4556:
    And while they won't admit it, I seem to get bombarded with flirts and emails from the "less than mature" males much more than from the men my age. They seem to think that I owe it to their generation and can't understand why I would find pleasure from men my age. I've even gone so far as to put a bit in my profile, that I will not be responding!
See there is that Milf and couger thing going on. So is this a generational thing regarding sex. Or is this a learning experience? I know that in some places in the World a Father will pay for his son to go and get experience sexually with a prostitute. So is this the American version of this?

I think we all are getting this idea that OLDER men just can not perform any more. In some aspects it is true. I think older guys do let most of themselves get over weight and out of shape. We see older men needing something for ED. Where woman feel more of a need to stay desirable. Yet there is truth to what you say look around on here and the sad state of affairs is clear to see. Many woman my age do not want men of my age. They are seeking younger men. So does youth trump experience in the end?


HoneyBunny4556 59F
4 posts
6/5/2012 6:08 am

 And while they won't admit it, I seem to get bombarded with flirts and emails from the "less than mature" males much more than from the men my age. They seem to think that I owe it to their generation and can't understand why I would find pleasure from men my age. I've even gone so far as to put a bit in my profile, that I will not be responding!


reallyready46 64M
1383 posts
6/5/2012 6:01 am
    Quoting ClydeCouple2:
    Have to agree with btdt2009 - it is a double standard, and has been for for about 2,000 year. We are not gonna get into a religious debate, and I'm not trying to cause one. If you look at the ancient religions, and the cultures built around those religions, whores and promiscuous women were valued.

    I could cite you many examples from many ancient civilizations where experienced women were wanted and desired.
You know you have brought up an interesting point. There are many that say the Christian church made sex bad to stop the pagan worship. In some ways by harnessing sex they got some people to channel the energy into Church work, via Monks, Nuns and Priests. However we have seen that system does not always work. Others say that the early church as a way of breaking from other Female diety religions cast woman as evil ( Eve in the garden of Eden ) or made them out as unpure. It is now being suggested that Mary Magaline was probably Jesus's Wife and not the prostitute she has been made out to be. Once again the Church did not want any female relegions to take over the church. So woman were painted as evil.


reallyready46 64M
1383 posts
6/5/2012 5:45 am
    Quoting btdt2009:
    There is absolutely a double standard. I've even seen men post on here that a women who gives it up on the first date isn't somebody they'd consider for a long term relationship. Reality is that many men view women with some "experience" as tainted. Thus, most women are not going to be honest about their sexual history if asked.
Very true. There was a study done on a College campus years ago. Most of the Males said they were having sex on a regular basis, while almost none of the women admit to having sex at all. So both sides lie to make it seem they have more or less experience.


ClydeCouple2 53M/51F
709 posts
6/5/2012 4:53 am

 Have to agree with btdt2009 - it is a double standard, and has been for for about 2,000 year. We are not gonna get into a religious debate, and I'm not trying to cause one. If you look at the ancient religions, and the cultures built around those religions, whores and promiscuous women were valued.

I could cite you many examples from many ancient civilizations where experienced women were wanted and desired.
Bill and June
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btdt2009 56F  
1466 posts
6/4/2012 8:20 pm

 There is absolutely a double standard. I've even seen men post on here that a women who gives it up on the first date isn't somebody they'd consider for a long term relationship. Reality is that many men view women with some "experience" as tainted. Thus, most women are not going to be honest about their sexual history if asked.


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