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Trust Trust. To many, it is the difference between an enemy and a good friend. But like everything else nowadays, the word is overused, misunderstood and abused to the point that it is almost worthless. Trust has become this random thing; sometimes you do, sometimes you don't. By definition, trust means you are entrusting someone with a secret, a favor, a wish, a job, etc. Basically, you are giving up a little piece of yourself, a part of the control you have over your life, because when someone gets in that "circle of trust," they're also in a position to hurt you. They can expose you, or use that trust to rob, blackmail, con, or even<b> clip </font></b>you. So why would you be stupid enough to trust anyone to the point where their betrayal can cause some serious damage? What's this system of trust? In a nutshell, it means that everyone you meet gets zero trust. Only over time — in relation to how much of a stand-up guy he is to you, his actions, his loyalty, and his reputation — does that trust build up from 0 to 100% So, when you meet someone new, they get zero trust. Why? To me, it's pretty obvious, but obviously at those fancy-pancy business schools of yours, they didn't teach you these things. Someone you just met has no reason, good or bad, to give a damn about you. They are indifferent to who and what you are, so they'll just as easily pat you on the back as they would spit on your grave. Given the way human nature is, people are usually selfish and greedy, so, more likely than not, someone you don't know will screw you, so you don't have a single reason in the world to entrust them with anything. Therefore, they get zero trust. Remember; not trusting someone doesn't necessarily mean you disrespect them. Don't treat someone like crap just because you have no use for them. The world is smaller than you think; you'll never know when that lack of goodwill will come back to bite you where the sun don't shine. Don't be rude and impolite to people who aren't those things to you, regardless if you plan on entrusting them at the present or a future date. The flipside is you can also respect someone without trusting them. So how does someone move up the trust ladder? By proving themselves dependable and loyal through different things life presents to them that involves your personal well-being. Another way? By being your partner. When you and someone else are involved in something specific together, a natural "shutting up" clause goes into effect, and the desire to stay out of the bighouse will build up a bond between the two of you because of a shared and equally secret. So now you know the basics of how much trust to give to different people. Now comes the hard part: maintaining it. Like every damn thing in life, it's not getting to the top that's tough; it's staying there. The same applies to trust; it takes a lifetime to build and a few seconds to lose. Never let someone get away with letting you down, and never let anyone down; you will destroy your trustworthiness, your reputation and many things you've worked hard to build. It can take 1,000 good deeds to prove the worth of a man, but one mistake to vilify him for life. Learn from others’ mistakes, not from their own. But anyone who has lived beyond the age of 40 can assure you of one thing: Mistakes will be made no matter what your intentions, just like history will repeat itself. Therefore, knowing that life will never be perfect, you should swallow the lesson of what it feels like to lose someone's trust and don't do it again.       |
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