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Insindiary 52M
263 posts
4/14/2010 4:30 am
Bold question

Tricia and I went out to eat with Hayley last night. It's the second time the three of us have gone out. Both times, it's been about finding really good restaurants that Hayley wanted to go to before going back home to CA, which she does tomorrow.

Tricia thinks Hayley is a lot of fun. It's almost as if the two of them are good friends now, and I just hang out with them. That's fine. I'm not toying with the idea of having sex with Hayley anymore. I can tell now from my talks with her that<b> open relationships </font></b>probably wouldn't be her thing. But, surprisingly, she seems intuitive about us. We were telling her a story last night that involved Jacob. It's not like we were talking about Tricia having sex with Jacob. There were some naughty elements, but it was a fairly innocent story. Hayley interrupted for a second to say, "Are you guys swingers?"

It was as though she was just trying to clarify a point before moving on with the story, and her casualness made me almost want to simply say yes. Instead, I said, "no," and immediately shot a dark look at Tricia, who teased me about it later.

Then I said to Hayley, "Wow. Where did THAT come from?"

She said, "I don't know," dismissively, and we went on with our story. That conversation could have been awkward, but wasn't.

Tricia was surprised that Hayley asked, and, she admitted that she hesitated in answering. I hesitated too, but my brain must have come to a decision in a few micro seconds about what to tell Hayley.

If we had told her the truth, I think she would have been perfectly OK with it, and friends like that are good to have. I'm still not sure if I should keep that information from her. If she's bold enough to ask the question, I should be bold enough to give her an honest answer. I still may.

Insindiary 52M
153 posts
4/18/2010 8:00 pm
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Yeah. I'm kind of torn on this one. I know she suspects it and, deep down, I WANT her to know it. No, not because I have any designs for her; but because it's a big part of who I am. It took years of challenges, patience, strong communication, and lots of trial and error to get where I'm at. I'm proud of it. But she's also disgusted with the thought of it. She alluded to it in the course of conversation. I think you're right - she would be fine with it, but it's not for her.


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