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Introduction We have a swinging background, although deborah was much more "into" swinging that Ron. But we also had a need and a desire to practice BDSM. So we have carved our own path, so to speak. We are a 24/7 BDSM couple with Master/slave designations. Ron is Master and deborah is slave. However, we are on the constant search for play partners who we can "swing with" in a BDSM setting. We have played with couples where the men were both the Masters and where the woman was the Domme over her husband/slave. We have also played with women alone where Ron is master over both women. We enjoy this play the best. Deborah is bisexual and Ron is straight. We are now in the process of building our own dungeon in our basement. We intend to hold "BDSM/Swinging" parties here. The play space will have about 1000 sq feet of play space with several stations as well as a King Size bed (with I bolts for tying up people). We have noticed a BIG difference between BDSM people and Swingers. Some of them are as follows: 1) Swingers know how to meet people, while BDSM people seem to be afraid to meet anyone. 2) Swingers can have sex with you and not consider it a big deal, where with BDSM people, sex seems to be an afterthought. 3) Swingers know how to throw a convention with people having sex everywhere, where BDSM people usually prohibit "penetration" in public. We have seen hopeful signs of change. Now at the big swingers conventions, they have a "BDSM Room" and we have been to BDSM conventions, i.e. Black Rose, where we had a 3some play on the dungeon floor with strap-on penetration for everyone to see. So this is a topic we would like to see discussed and explored and any other thoughts people might have.  |
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I think bdsm relates more to a persons inner emotions, and that might be why bdsm persons are not so open to having sex with everyone in the room. To me there is a huge difference between just having sex with someone to have sex, and having sex with someone you took the time to know, have chemistry with, and actually like. Its 1000 times better the second way.
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I disagree. We have had some of the most intense sex with other women who we have barely known in the BDSM setting. You don'y have to date somebody for 6 months and get to know them before you can have sex with them. In the single dating scene, if you don't have sex by the third date, time to move on! But the fact is that engaging in BDSM is SEX! So I hope the community lightens up and enjoys what is out there. If you are going to beat your sub in public, make him or her give you head in public! Don't seperate sex from the BDSM act, because it is all together the best sex you will ever have.
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Yes you dont have to date someone for 6 months, but really you should know something about them and have some chemistry. And if someone is going to tie me up I at least want to know them well enough to trust them. Perhaps I'm coming from a different perspective, but 2 transpersons have been murdered in the last few years in columbus, and numerous ones have been severely beaten to the point of needing reconstructive surgery. This means I know and trust who I'm playing with or I don't play. There is always some risk. I just think its better to minimize it. I like BDSM and sex combined like you do. Lots of people have told me they practice BDSM without sex being involved (oral or intercourse). They just enjoy being tied up, humiliated, and beaten. I guess there are as many different types of people in the BDSM world as in the real world. The key is probably finding the right ones who can connect with you. Usually that takes some time, but there are always exceptions 
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How about a good spanking? Almost all men find this very sensual, and it is a good place to start, when the clit gets too hot and needs just something differnt, have your partner slap your ass. In fact, many vanilla people start out spanking, really like it and go further into BDSM once they realize that pain can actually feel good when introduced at the right moment.
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5/14/2011 4:43 am |
I LOVE THE THINGS YOUR DOING IN THE BASSMENT WISH U COULD TAKE ME FOR AWHILE NICKLE SLICK THA BOSS
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12/28/2011 7:40 am |
Hope to read more about your exploits
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I like a good spanking. It makes me cum so HARD and so GOOOOOOD.... Sl
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been exposed to that style, but just didn't do anything for me.........
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