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Guys, listen up. Tips and tricks on HOW to 'score' on AFF...
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Guys, listen up. Tips and tricks on HOW to 'score' on AFF...  This post is for all you would be 'Lotharios' and horn-dogs out here trying to get hooked up with one of the fine ladies of FriendFinder-x. I've been here on FriendFinder-x for 9 years now and yes, I've had both my share of success and rejection. I have learned quite a bit in those 9 years about how to behave on this site towards other people and what 'works' especially in regards to meeting women and I am offering to share this knowledge with you out of the goodness of my own heart. LOL Well that and I does tend to drive me crazy seeing some of the ‘stuff’ you guys try and pull. So with all that said AND knowing that your attention span is about as long as your dick is, here in no particular order, are Tazzerman’s Rules of Etiquette: READ the woman’s profile. The gals out here for the most part, tend to write those things honestly AND in hopes that you will in fact read them fully BEFORE you attempt to contact them. If the girls profile says that she’s not into married men and you’re married, don’t try to hit on her ANYWAY! If it says that she’s only looking for guys within say 50 miles of where she lives and you live 4000 miles away, don’t HIT on her. Use some common sense. Be honest. I can NOT stress this enough. There’s NO reason to lie out here. If you do, eventually the truth WILL come out and trust me dude, the women on this site DO in fact talk to each other. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Do NOT, under any circumstances, write an initial email to a girl that tells her just how a) good you are at licking pussy, b) how big your dick is, c) what a great lover you are, d) how many OTHER woman you’ve fucked in your lifetime, e) what you plan on doing to her for days and days on end. Don’t DO IT! Treat her with respect from the outset. Let HER determine how and when you might or might not get involved either physically or virtually. Keep in mind at ALL times that the person on the other end of your messages is in fact a REAL PERSON! You do have the ‘luxury’ of hiding behind the internet and your screen but that doesn’t give you a license to be a total jack ass. Use a fucking spell checker and take a little extra time to put together some coherent sentences. Text speech is almost ALWAYS an instant turn off. Most of the women on this site are very intelligent and they do actually look for that in most of the guys they’re interested in. Do NOT believe the advertising on this site. You will NOT get laid tonight. PERIOD! It isn’t going to happen… The best way to proceed here is to know full well that it is in fact going to take a bit of time and effort on your part to connect with someone. Read their blog if they have one. There is NO better way to get to know some of the gorgeous ladies out here than to read their blogs. Most of the blog writers out here pour their heart and soul into those posts. Start your OWN blog. Let people know who you are and hopefully you ARE a nice guy and not in fact some asshole. Realize that the woman of your dreams can come in just about any and all shapes, sizes, colors and types. There is NO SUCH THING as an ugly woman and if you think there is, well let’s just say you have a LOT to learn. Keep in mind that the women on this site are under NO obligation what so ever to acknowledge your existence. Like women everywhere, they have the right to ultimately decide who they choose to meet with and why. Be gracious when confronted with rejection. Do NOT send them some nasty email calling them all manner of names and telling them that it’s their loss. Nine times out of ten, all you’ll end up doing is becoming blog fodder. Here’s a PERFECT example of what NOT to post in your own blog. “I'm constantly shocked at the number of profiles i see on this site by women, i won't even take a second glance at saying their picky, want a certain race, or man. Are you kidding me. Are there really that many desparate men on this site that women who are fat, ugly and arrogant can be picky. It makes me sad.” Trust me guys, this is NOT the way to garner attention around here... I have purposely NOT identified the guy who wrote this but suffice it to say he’s touched off a total blog swarm with his totally insensitive comment about fat, ugly and arrogant women.. A quick read of both his profile and his blog header is enough to cause most women to run screaming and is a perfect example of go back and do it again… Women DO like confident, strong ‘alpha’ males BUT there’s a fine line between being one and becoming an ego-centric jerk. Don’t cross it. I never intended this list to be all encompassing but I think I’ve captured the majority of the issues that need to be addressed. If you can’t or don’t understand these ‘tips’ then I suggest you go elsewhere. Yes this IS a so called ‘sex site’ but that doesn’t give ytou the right to treat the people here without respect. The gals here on FriendFinder-x deserve it! -tm |
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I think you missed the point he is making. Yes, we all get that not everyone is real, but when you write to someone write AS IF they are a real person. That was his point. If you write as if it is a fake and are nasty you COULD be telling off a real person. You want to put your best foot forward not just assume it is a fake or a bot. If you truly believe it is a fake then don't write it at all. That was his point hun. Sorry for the intrusion, but I did want to point that out to you. Enjoy your day!
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Interesting article it is not the gentle shower,but thunder.We need the storm,the whirlwind,and the earthquake
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There you go making sense again.Sometimes I just don't know what you're thinking. lmfao. Good post. Good advice that could be put to use in all facets of our lives.
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Excellent post and suggestions. Thank you.
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11/8/2013 3:35 pm |
I agree wholeheartedly with your points. Even if a "relationship" is only sexual, Respect for the other person is number one in my book !The old adage "Treat people the way you want to be treated" is as true as it ever was.
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Everything you wrote is the truth, but the world is also full of idiots and dumdums, who not only do not know how to read, they also do not know how to write or spell... but they try anyway...lol.
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most beautiful women on here you could ever be with
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Of course I was just being flippant my dear. In all seriousness, the maturity level or lack of I should say, is astounding and yes, that does in fact impact the choices made. Responsibility is a bit part of it also that's for sure... Have you read this post What it means to be a man ? They kind of go hand and hand 
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I honestly don't believe that hun. I think it is an excuse to not be responsible for one's self. Everyone is capable of making choices, just many make bad choices and then don't own up to it. It is sad that people do that and then continually fail. Seriously, they get all ticked off when gay men send them things, they should think how it feels for us to have our profiles ignored. I usually do stress that in order to try and help out the newbies.
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Thank you! It just goes to show that the old adage is correct: G-d gave men both a brain and a dick BUT only enough blood to run one or the other at a time!  -tm
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Hey Tazz... thought I would let you know. I have a friend who is here for Exhibitionism only. She actually wrote the definition of what exhibitionism is stating that it is only 'showing on cam and not meeting in person or any kind of contact'. She told me and has shown me just how many guys are total jerks and write her anyway and ask her what kind of exhibitionism or what is exhibitionism. Obviously they read enough to see that it is all she is into, but they still try to contact her and get her to meet and all. It is very frustrating for her and I bet others as I know a few here for just showing on cam. No matter how clear they are there is always someone trying to make them do what they don't want yet those men have in caps on their profiles "I am NOT GAY!! NO MEN!!". They don't like it yet they do it to others.... amazing.. and they wonder why they can't get anywhere. You have a great blog hun!! -tm
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Hey Tazz... thought I would let you know. I have a friend who is here for Exhibitionism only. She actually wrote the definition of what exhibitionism is stating that it is only 'showing on cam and not meeting in person or any kind of contact'. She told me and has shown me just how many guys are total jerks and write her anyway and ask her what kind of exhibitionism or what is exhibitionism. Obviously they read enough to see that it is all she is into, but they still try to contact her and get her to meet and all. It is very frustrating for her and I bet others as I know a few here for just showing on cam. No matter how clear they are there is always someone trying to make them do what they don't want yet those men have in caps on their profiles "I am NOT GAY!! NO MEN!!". They don't like it yet they do it to others.... amazing.. and they wonder why they can't get anywhere. You have a great blog hun!!
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As a fat, ugly, arrogant woman on this site, I thank you for writing an amazing post - you wouldn't believe the amount of personal abuse girls on here can get for not answering emails within thirty seconds, declining to pursue a conversation or, indeed, just about anything else: I'm sorely tempted to set up my auto-response with you link! -tm
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As a fat, ugly, arrogant woman on this site, I thank you for writing an amazing post - you wouldn't believe the amount of personal abuse girls on here can get for not answering emails within thirty seconds, declining to pursue a conversation or, indeed, just about anything else: I'm sorely tempted to set up my auto-response with you link!
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Only three? Good job lol -tm
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Absolutely! It's amazing how folks forget that fact once they're online, hiding behind their computer screen isn't it?? Thanks for the thoughts/comment
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7/18/2012 6:59 pm |
I have to say this is a great post and amazingly true. I especially love the last part as I can and have been occasioned as arrogant or stuck up when in reality I just didn't see a need to acknowledge the person at hand for their lack of time to sit and read the profile they had to go through to message me... For now the people call me weird and a freak, but the pages of history will say this about me "Even though she was a bit eccentric, that woman was one of the greatest thinkers in her field of the time" 
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Lurking Cum to my blog and respond.  Have a great kissing fun time. 
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LOL you are just TOO funny -tm
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Ok, Tazz ... I finally got around to reading it ... you are right and it's good advice. But I still kinda prefer for the idiots to NOT get the advice, so that I know that they are idiots in that first email that they send!!! It makes my life so much easier to just hit "delete" on that fist email ... than to find out later they are a jackass after I have an actual conversation with them.
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TAZZ always good posts hun. I agree.. if MORE only realized that being jerks and arseholes isn't going to work....lol high 5 to you hun. . LOL @ 10 years of blogs to catch up on. HONESTLY.. my own blogs have been getting hammered with visitors lately too!! . #1...Best Complimentary Emails wupdates #2...Emailslame, boring, or just plain stupidwupdates #3...A polite No Thank You can cause thiswupdates #4...Unsolicited HATE Emails no prior contactwupdates
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Thank you!!!! What an excellent post... Hugs EE407
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I totally just posted a link to this in my blog, babe. Love you.
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I think it's some excellent advice. Men would do well to commit it to memory. I've been on here a while, both with and without partners. I've met some of the most beautiful women on here you could ever be with. Some with partners and some without. Women are truly beautiful. The way they smell, the way they taste, the way they make you feel when you're with them. But then that's always been my problem.
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