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The double standard and a whole lot of ramblings from my over sexed brain.
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The double standard and a whole lot of ramblings from my over sexed brain.  I read about and see the 'Double Standard' all the time here in blogland and on FriendFinder-x and I figured it was time I gave ya'll my $0.02 worth on the subject so, here goes: First off, double standards ABOUND and it's almost impossible to talk about ANYTHING around here where a Double Standard isn't involved. The 'spark' for this post came from the lovely SandraD1000 blog post [post 2888351] The 'biggest' original double standard is the one where guys can fuck all the women they want and it only 'burnishes' their reputation as being a super cocksman but let a girl do that and she's INSTANTLY labeled as a: SLUT! But there are a LOT more, that's for sure. As SandraD1000 writes "Why is it ok for men to obsess over big boobs, but women are frowned upon if they ask for a big cock?" Now first off I will have to say that I am NOT a big boob guy. I've always more interested in 'quality' over 'quantity' and besides, I'm a NIPPLE man through and through  That being said, a LOT of guys are in fact 'drawn' to big boobs and have NO compunction in letting you or anybody else know about it but LITTLE if any thought is given to those gals who have smaller breasts and how THEY feel about always having to see their big breasted sisters get all the attention. Guys WILL zero in on those boobs baby! I've seen this manifest itself in so many different places and different ways over the years that it's hard to just pin down ONE instance to highlight. It's kind of like trying to see the forest through the trees if you will. I HAVE to think it's pretty similar to the way a guy with a small dick would feel and/or think about the size of his organ. Boobs are very much an identifying/defining body 'part' for women as a cock is for men AND they have always been a powerful image of sexuality in general, just as much if not MORE so than the cock is the ultimate 'phallic symbol'... But there's very little attention paid to or concern felt over the feelings of women with small tits and what it does to them seeing guys (and gals I might add) go bonkers over a huge pair of tatas. While at the same time, EVERYBODY 'treads' carefully around the whole dick size topic, so much so that even as a society in general, have come up with all KINDS of lovely ways to 'soften' the blow so to speak for those guys with hamster dicks. "It's NOT the size that matters but how you use it" comes to mind. Yeah right... LOL I THINK that being bisexual does in fact put me in a unique position to be able to comment on this topic and let me state right here, right up front, I've NEVER met a cock I didn't like BUT when push comes to shove, I would MUCH rather be wrapping my lips around a good sized cock rather than a small one. It doesn't have to be circus big or huge or anything, although THOSE are fun also, but my fave cocks are always in the 7"+ range, slightly thicker than normal and that my friends is an above normal/average size. I can't help it. I happen to really enjoy deepthroating and anything less then 7" just leaves me wanting more. So I DO have a bias towards bigger cocks as I suspect MOST people do. (Be honest now) Of course I do but I digress. lets get back on topic. As I stated above, a guy who fucks a lot of different women is seen as a sexually active, desirable type of person but let a women sleep around with multiple, different guys and she's instantly labeled a slut. I hate to say it but a LOT of how our views have been shaped comes directly from the various religious backgrounds that we have. Just look at the bible, it's full of references to guys with not only multiple wives but consorts and concubines as well. The biblical stories actually GLORIFY these men and makes special note of who and especially how many where sired under these circumstances. The women on the other hand are almost ALWAYS portrayed and chaste and virginal. Any detour from this dogma and the woman in question is instantly thought of as being less pure, less desirable and yes, even less 'holy'. Go figure why society in general adheres to this double standard eh? It's in the BIBLE so it MUST be OK dokie LOLA woman who professes a like or desire for a big cock MUST be a slut or even worse a . Heaven forbid she should seek to fulfill her own needs and desires. Don't EVEN get me started on what happens when a women calls into question the size of a guys penis. I'm a firm believer in 'whats good for the goose, is good for the gander' and will always support anybody, male or female, who is open and up-front regarding their wants, needs and desires. A woman looking for a big dick doesn't bother me in the least, not because I personally possess a big dick but because it's HER choice, it's her body, it's her vagina and if she feels like she needs a big cock to fulfill her desires, who the hell am I to look down on her, demean her or tell her NO?? It doesn't make her any less of a person, it doesn't make her any less desirable to me and in fact, if she IS open and up-front, she actually rises in my esteem so to speak. I happen to LIKE people who know what they like and aren't afraid to go for it.. LOLGuys can be strange/fickle beasts that's for sure. Easy as hell yes but still, strange and fickle even MORE so when the female breast is involved. For example: I belong to a great Celeb Feet website that allows the users to 'rate' each girls feet. Of course, me being me, I had to do a little 'study' on the ratings and I've proven, totally BTW, that women with large breasts will ALWAYS garner a higher rating then their smaller sisters, even though we're ONLY supposed to be rating their feet! Amazing eh? I've seen some of the ugliest feet rated as beautiful ONLY because the woman in question had a huge rack and a nice ass. What the hell do THOSE have to do with her feet? LOL If guys where treated the same way, judging them totally by the size of their cocks in PUBLIC, I bet you there would be a WHOLE lot less guys around places like FriendFinder-x. Of course female breasts are VERY conspicuous and their size is VERY apparent where as our cocks are almost always hidden from view. It's much easier to 'size' up a girls rack. Getting back to cock size for a second, one of the interesting things that I've learned since going fully bisexual has to do with cock size, not only of other guys but regarding my own dick. For a HUGE portion of my life I thought I had a smaller than average penis. I was somewhat insecure in this regard for quite sometime. It was only after having NUMEROUS up close and personal encounters with other cocks that I realized that not only am I not smaller than average, I'm actually a bit longer and thicker than average. I mention this to illustrate the 'inherent' insecurity a LOT of guys have in regards to their dick size. It was only AFTER I had started sucking cocks that I realized the FACT that the average sized cock is a bit smaller than I originally thought. I blame internet porn and porn vids in general for instilling this unrealistic penis size vision in my head Of course a LOT of guys have a very unrealistic opinion of their dicks but that's a topic for another day. As a side note for you gals: never EVER discount the 'power' a mans penis has over his entire self-image and EGO. While I'm SURE you gals feel some of the same things in regards to your breasts, I have to believe that it's nowhere near as TOTALLY defining as it is in a lot of cases for your male counterparts. Again, a topic for another post AND a topic I HAVE posted on many many times.... BTW, HOW you use it DOES in fact make a huge different but folks, you know as well as I do that there's no substitute for a big dick. LOL OK, I've gone of the rails here.. I'd REALLY love to hear your comments on this topic though so PLEASE, let em fly and lets see if we can get an intelligent conversation going about the old DOUBLE STANDARD!  -tm |
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Absolutely! Pimp away.
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size really don't matter to me...but shape does...well....let's just put that way...no pencil dick with mushroom stuck on it...no... 
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size really don't matter to me...but shape does...well....let's just put that way...no pencil dick with mushroom stuck on it...no...
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I love the man...his cock size is a bonus!!! -tm
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4/12/2012 5:33 am |
I love the man...his cock size is a bonus!!!
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What are your thoughts about the double standard relative to how guys can drool and generally go bonkers over big boobs all they want but heaven forbid a girl should actually come out and say she wants/likes a big cock. She's INSTANTLY labeled a slut.
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Comments???? You want comments????? This may turn into a dissertation! I can laugh about this now with enjoyment with only a *tinge* of embarrassment - I was one of those flat chested girls forever. When I was probably around 13 or 14, all my girlfriends had developed respectable boobs, while I, the road kill flat person had nothing....I mean NOTHING! But over the summer between 7th and 8th grade, there was improvement...enough so that my mother, bless her catholic little heart, thought it was inappropriate for those developing nipples to be seen under little summer shirts and toted me off to get me a "training" bra. (I've always wondered what we were supposed to be training them for...were they supposed to sit up, roll over, or beg? Speak? LOL!) So, while sitting on the porch a few summer evenings later, someone ratted me out and told EVERYBODY that I now had a bra...and of course everyone wanted to see it...I was embarrassed to be the center of that kind of attention but wanted to be a good sport about it, so I dutifully pulled up my shirt to show off the wisp of cotton and lace, and of course, the bra went right up with the shirt, showing most of the neighborhood my *chest*!!!! It was horrible. I wanted to die! And, for many years I felt badly about myself because of that one incident, always hearing the roars of laughter from everyone gathered on that porch! And, then my best friend and almost identical twin went and spouted humongous tata's that summer which had all the boys staring at her chest. I never got a single look. Tough place for a teenage girl to be in! When you don't have tits, there are lots of well-meaning people out there..."oh, you're still young"..."be thankful you don't have big ones, you'll have nothing but back pain"..."the wrong kind of boys will be after you if have big boobs. You'll find a "nice" man, honey...one who doesn't want you for your chest"...and so on and so forth. And, all I wanted was boobs like the other girls. I wanted a boy to like me and if it took boobs over brains, I'd have gladly given my brain up in a heartbeat! When I was pregnant I had boobs, which were even smaller after I had the baby. How the heck is that supposed to work? So, my spouse kind of wanted me to get implants...thank the gods we couldn't afford them! But, I always had that inferiority complex that I wasn't good enough for any guy because I didn't have a chest. Years later, actually, just a few ago, I was gobsmacked when my primary admired my "nice big boobs". I think I looked over my shoulder to see who had come into the room...couldn't have been me he was talking about! So, ladies and gents...be VERY careful about how you talk to your daughters about boobs...you don't know what kind of trauma you might encounter! As far as the guys go...I like the smaller cocks, probably more so than the big ones. Why? Because I like to suck as much of a cock into my mouth as I can, and I can't deep throat. The smaller cocks let me get as close to it as possible. And for fucking? Well...if I'm not getting any for days, weeks, months, I am scared if I run across a bigger one...because being post menopausal there's that ole vaginal dryness thing. And though you'll probably see me with eyes glazed in lust over a gorgeous big dandy, the thought of trying it "in" and getting those microtears while trying to accommodate it will make me cower in the corner and mourn for the younger days! Yes, I know there's such a thing as lube...but there's generally not any around when I've found those playthings! So, my double standard sort of hits from both directions...another double (point! HA!) I don't think I seek out people who are smaller intentionally, but I do know I feel quietly more confident if we are both about the same size in our body parts, so to speak!
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You are right Tazz, There are lots of double standards. I think the idea that it is ok for a man to have lots of sexual partners is fading, but it is not entirely gone. I have no experiences on which to judge penis size. I believe mine is smaller that avarage... On occasions that has bothered me, but there is realistically nothing I can do about it and I have come to terms with it. It no longer is a concern to me! Big boobs have a cartoon like appeal though. It is very easy to slip into cliche when considering such topics. I'm not sure if many men really like very big boobs beyond their obvious evidence as a sexual metaphor. My current situation is such that I can begin to contemplate what I like again. I don't think my tastes have changed radically, I'm just trying to be more honest about them. I'd be turned off by a man obsessed about the size of his cock, or his staying power just as much as I would be turned off by a woman who is fixated on her breasts. This of course can be readily seen in women with inappropriate cleavage. So - for me at least - I really am more interested in the person and personality than their appendages! -tmp.s. Your cock is just fine my friend...
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