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Meeting people
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Meeting people  Good morning all. I know it's HNW today but I really don't have a good picture with tan lines so instead, I've decided to talk a bit about meeting people, specifically from online sites just like this one. As I'm sure you know, over the years I've met a NUMBER of folks both from this site and others. I've met women, men and couples along with meet and greets where fellow bloggers and others in the area have gotten together. Through all those meetings I have learned a few things that I'd like to share with you. This is primarely focused on the guys but it works for both, men and women. The number one piece of advice I can give is this, be HONEST. Be honest in your profile, your pesonal description, your pictures and well in EVERYTHING. I KNOW this is simple but I can't tell you how many times I've seen this simple rule broken. There is no quicker way to end a possible relationship, right off the bat, then lying. I always recommend chatting with the other person for a bit before meeting. Honest, upfront communication at this stage can help avoid a lot of issues further down the road, including during that initial meet. If you're a guy, please be aware of the womans fears regarding HER safety. Women ARE in fact preyed upon and her well being should be your #1 concern at this point. I always meet a woman in a very public place that she knows well. Someplace she's comfortable with. I go even further and make sure she has my full name, my phone number/text address etc. I'll make sure she has just about any information she needs to feel comfortable, short of my Social Security number. When you have nothing to hide..... well it's easy  I also suggest that she tells a friend where/when she will be meeting me and I tell her to feel free to share my contact information with that friend. During the initial meeting, be gracious my friends. Be attentive. Listen to what she's saying. Be yourself but be focused on HER. It's easy for some to make it all about THEM and that's a mistake IMHO. Sure, you need to share yourself and you need to be again, open and honest, but make sure you are attentive! If things don't work out, for whatever the reason, don't take it personally! Again, be gracious. A quick thank you note afterwards is always appropriate, never moreso then when things don't go 'right'. Never EVER 'beat a dead '! Have FUN! I know people get nervous, I know it's a 'high stress' situation but take a deep breath, smile and have FUN! Remember, she's a human being and NOT just a fuck. There's a person sitting across from you, not just a pussy or ass or tits or feet (I had to sorry)If things DO go right, don't get pushy! Let things 'flow' in their own natural way/time. there's so much more to a woman and to romance than just fucking and that time you spend together BEFORE you ever slip between the sheets is SO precious and will NEVER happen again so take your time and savor that. While some folks are in this 'game' for a one night stand, it's been my experience that those folks, especially women, are VERY far and few between. Realize that you are in fact starting what may become a LTR and act accordingly. Being honest, upfront and sincere takes care of 99% of any 'issues', I can NOT stress this enough. Now I have done some out of the 'box' type things on a first meet and well, I can get away with that because of who I am but I've never lost sight of these very few 'rules' and they've stood me in good sted through the past 13+ years. BTW, meeting up with guys for sex is a WHOLE different thing but still, these 'rules' hold true, it's just a lot easier. Remember, in regards to sex, Women need a reason, men just need a place! : Have a VERY happy hump/HNW all -tm |
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You should pin this to the top.. it is a winner of a post.
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Well said. Honesty and respect are so important. I once met up with a woman (from another site) who was a red head and chubby. Nothing wrong with that... except her profile pic was of a thin brunette who looked nothing like she did! I walked away and she called me all sorts of names. I would have been happy with her had she not been dishonest. I had no idea who she was when she approached me! Why lie when you are going to actually meet someone? Or at all?
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Good advice. I'd rather find the right people through honesty than the wrong ones through deception. [post 3097853] Come join the half-nekkid fun! Check out HNW Bloggers.  
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Honesty and safety -- and you give EXCELLENT reminders for men about empathizing with a woman's concerns. And yes, the comment about a polite note -- and then backing the hell off -- if things don't work out is sadly needed. This should be required reading for all male site members. Stop in, read, and offer comments at my "swinging as seen in the media" blog, "Confessions of a Lifestyle Man" humorlife, which is also the home of the monthly virtual symposium. New post: The Virtual Symposium Returns Lets Pick A Topic
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Very good advise, TM. There wasn't anything you said that I would disagree with.
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