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The Kiss as the Most Intimate and Erotic Act and the Labial Kiss of the Upper Lips
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The Kiss as the Most Intimate and Erotic Act and the Labial Kiss of the Upper Lips I love to kiss. For me, it is the most intimate and erotic act. And I agree with the lyrics of the Betty Everett song, Does he love me, I wanna know How can I tell if he loves me so Is it in his eyes, oh no you'll be deceived Is it in his eyes, oh no he'll make believe If you wanna know, if he loves you so It's in his kiss That's where it is, oh yeah Or is it in his face, oh no it's just his charm In his warm embrace, oh no that's just his arm If you wanna know, if he loves you so It's in his kiss One of my favorite ways to kiss is what I call the labial kiss of the upper lips, and here's my description of it. From Diane Ackerman's essay on "Kissing" in "A Natural History of Love": "According to the anthropologists, the lips remind us of the labia, because they flush red and swell when aroused, which is the conscious or subconscious reason women have always made them look even redder with lipstick."  Given the similitude between a woman's upper and lower lips, it's fun to play with this likeness in a kiss (or a sequence of kisses). Here's my suggestion for a type of sensual kissing: a labial kiss of the upper lips. Let the man pretend that the upper lips are the labial lips, and let him kiss these lips slowly, very slowly, as if his tongue and kisses are making the lower lips of a woman petal-open and honeyed-up. The tongue, in this labial kiss, can be very teasing, just touching and tantalizing one lip at a time, sliding with grace and a bit of poignant pressure, back and forth along the upper lips, before descending to do the same for the lower lip....and before sliding the tongue deeper into the mouth. It can be most fun if the woman pretends to be a bit coy, as if defending the castle or<b> inner sanctum </font></b>of her most womanly self, with something of a moat: the lips can be very wet and moist, but the drawbridge remains up, resisting entry...for a time. The labial kissing can be very mind-blowing or mind altering: The upper lips are horizontal, not vertical, but if the analogy is felt by both partners, heads can be adjusted by 90 degrees, so the upper lips can be approached vertically as well, in closer simulacrum to cunnilingus. The erotic imagination can be so powerful: The labial lip kiss can become even more exciting and playful if the man imagines that in the corner of the lips, right where top and bottom lips merge together, there is located an imaginary clitoris that can be taken and teased by the tip of the tongue. I daresay that 15-20 minutes of beautiful kissing in this labial style...with a man taking time to part open the upper lips and then to tango slowly and beautifully inside with the woman's tongue once entrance has been secured will shorten the time necessary to part open the lower lips of a woman. Indeed, when the upper lips have been taken beautifully, the lower ones will be begging as much for the touch that opens them up as a garden flower desires the morning rays of sun. The above description is for the man on top position and the woman the bottom, but it can be very hot--and instructive--for a switch to occur: Let the woman take the man's lips and kiss his lips in a way that reveals how she loves to be taken by the tongue down below. Yes, women, if you've ever wanted to gently instruct a man how to pleasure you down below, just take his upper lips by finger and tongue the same way you love to be taken down below, doing unto his upper lips what you love done unto your lower lips. And don't be shy about using a finger as an instructional pointer, parting open and entering and then thrusting into his mouth as you love to be taken by finger and cock down below. |
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4/22/2010 12:41 am |
I've often expressed my desire to be a woman so I can get deeper into their soul and heart and mind as a man, and I love the way you, Ms. V., and others have fed this desire of mine, giving me, through your posts and blogs and comments, a chance to be more under the skin and inside the soul of a woman than I've ever been in my life. But your post also reminds me how much of a boy I am. Alas, I can barely name one or two brands of lipstick, with no knowledge about the brand name color description. For me, red lipstick is bright or darker red, not British Red or Blushing Bouquet. Yet I've always loved the design of lipstick: what could be more phallic. I too love color. I can delight in paint samples for ages. I can take 30 minutes in a stationery store trying out all the different types of pens and their colors. I love it that the Japanese use the term irropoi--color--for being aroused, in heat, erotic. I love what you share with us about the wink....and the science behind its power. Way cool. Science also tells us that the pupil dilates when the mind's eye sees something that appeals to it. The dilation of the pupil may be, even before the parting open of lips for the first kiss, the first sign of a woman opening to a man. I'm curious to hear more about your theory of men and their noses.... I too like to believe there is a correlation between writing style and loving style, whether it be at the level of kissing or lovemaking itself (in my posts entitled Grammatical Erotica, Parts I-IV I elaborate upon this correlation). Catullus, Carmen 5: Let us live, my Lesbia, and let us love, and let us judge all the rumors of the old men to be worth just one penny! The suns are able to fall and rise: When that brief light has fallen for us, we must sleep a never ending night. Give me a thousand kisses, then another hundred, then another thousand, then a second hundred, then yet another thousand more, then another hundred. Then, when we have made many thousands, we will mix them all up so that we don't know, and so that no one can be jealous of us when he finds out how many kisses we have shared.
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4/22/2010 12:29 am |
"....melting into you." Yes, the first kiss is what begins melting us down, making us wax, molten lava, wet clay... I love the way first words can also soften us up for the first kiss.
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4/22/2010 12:26 am |
For me, the kiss on the neck, at its base, where Vampires love to bite, can be the most powerful kiss, as here is a place where the human animal is so vulnerable, as animals so often attack each other by going for the neck. The soft, beautiful, even playfully biting kiss at the neck, serves as such a counter to that threat. It reminds us that we are safe, secure, protected by our lover, and this kissing on the neck prepares the way for that moment when, during orgasm, a woman so often exposes her neck even more, lifting her head back. [image]
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3/20/2010 3:57 am |
Dear BC, I'm an absolute stickler for the vintage, classic red lipstick. I am apt to call it 'fuck-me red,' however. And, I have very full lips. I'd say that my lips and my eyes are two of my best features. But, as I wear glasses I find that emphasizing my lips comes more easily. Eyeglasses for nearsightedness give the person viewing the face an false impression of smaller eyes, and obstruct the view of the eyes/eye make-up. And, I do follow that mantra of - less is more, emphasize ONE facial feature. Otherwise one ends up looking a little like maybe a characterization of a sexy woman, rather than sexy. As far as kissing or oral sex...ahh...fuckfest fast approaching. I don't worry about this. I'm supremely confident in my oral skills and well, as odd as this is, in the oral skills of my lover. One just sometimes *knows.* MT A question in regards to your last lines: I am wondering about the correlation between writing style and kissing style and orgal skills. Have you ever been with a wonderful writer--a writer whose prose or poetry has rhythm, beat, incantation--and discovered him to be a lackluster or bumbling kisser with inadequate or no more than average oral skills? One more question in regards to your last lines: If you stop to think and assess or reflect about a sense, a vibe, a feel, a rapport, what is it that makes you know that a man is going to have beautiful oral skills?
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Dear BC, I'm an absolute stickler for the vintage, classic red lipstick. I am apt to call it 'fuck-me red,' however. And, I have very full lips. I'd say that my lips and my eyes are two of my best features. But, as I wear glasses I find that emphasizing my lips comes more easily. Eyeglasses for nearsightedness give the person viewing the face an false impression of smaller eyes, and obstruct the view of the eyes/eye make-up. And, I do follow that mantra of - less is more, emphasize ONE facial feature. Otherwise one ends up looking a little like maybe a characterization of a sexy woman, rather than sexy. As far as kissing or oral sex...ahh...fuckfest fast approaching. I don't worry about this. I'm supremely confident in my oral skills and well, as odd as this is, in the oral skills of my lover. One just sometimes *knows.* MT     
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