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do we ever really change.  

sam_hope31 46F
526 posts
6/19/2021 10:15 am
do we ever really change.


After a certain age I always believed people are who they are and noting can change that. If you were a shy quiet person you would most likely stay that way. If you are going and the life of the party, you may slow down but still remain that way ultimately.
I am the quiet (till you get to know ) who speaks the truth however harsh it may be. As much as we hate being told the truth I think secretly we like it. It gives us reason to better ourselves. I've had people cruel, mean heartless but after hearing my truth these same people made changes in their life that allowed them to better their situation. So your welcome
truth is a double edged sword. I hate being the one to always have to deliver it and if I don't it plagues me until I do. I have lost people because of it, I think though if we were meant to be in one another life we would be.
I recently lost one of my very best friends in the world because of the truth. Unlike a persons passing loosing a person in your life because they choose to walk away hurts times as much. I never had a grieving period because let's it life during a pandemic as much as it should have slowed down has not for .
I have often thought I should just keep my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself. That's not ....
Should we be someone we are not just to keep people in our lives. Is it worth sacrificing your beliefs and convictions for?
I am not about to change now, I'll just keep pissing people off and see what happens. Besides who wants to stand at the gates of heaven when there is a perfectly good front row seat waiting for me in hell hahahahaha

GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
6/20/2021 5:56 am

I've often heard the term; 'The Truth Hurts'. It seems in this case it really does/did for you big time.

When it comes to friends and friendship, when you tell someone you either love or care for, or even a life long friend, when you tell them a 'truth', even if it hurts, it should not ruin a friendship so as to loose it. Perhaps sometimes, the other party doesn't wish to hear it, especially if it requires a change on their part. So they are just running away from the truth, and hopefully they will return to the friendship with not only an apology, but perhaps a 'thank-you' too.

Long true friends are very hard and especially hurtful to lose. I think we've all been there. I too recently lost a close friend to death, however our friendship was lost many decades ago due to his demons. I think for me, the loss many decades ago was harder than his recent passing. *hugs*


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