20 years ago today,...
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Posted:Jul 5, 2008 10:58 am
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I, the him 3rd, stood up, raised my right hand and swore to uphold the constitution of the United States, to defend my country even though I may die in the process, to obey the orders of my commander in chief (regardless of wether he was a fk'n moron), and to represent the highest traditions and standards of the United States Navy, so help me God.
Then I got on a plane to RTC San Diego, and started my adventure. I've seen and done things I never imagined I would, a few that some people would never think of and very few will ever have the chance.
I've been some amazing places, and I've met even more amazing people from all over the world.
I've made freinds, some good, some so-so, and a few, very few, that will always be my friend.
I have taken away from my time many things, and my time has taken many things from me as well,...
TWENTY years people. Twenty,...
Over half of my adult life I have spent in the service of my country and the people therin. A majority of whom have taken adavntage of the freedoms people like me have given up much of our freedom to provide and defend for them.
There have been many times I have been confronted by people that disrespected me as an individual, not because they knew ME, but because they disagree, or even hate, the uniform I wear and what they THINK it represented. People that see servicemembers as a sign of oppression or some other misguided bullshit. There were many times I thought of giving up the service because I could not see the point in serving a country full of ignorants. People that take for granted every day the great freedoms we have, the power we have as individuals. Things that many people in many places just dont have.
But for a blessed few people that came out of the blue and showed grattitude for what we do, for what I was doing, I think I would have quit.
It is amazing the power of a simple phrase, a gesture of gratitude, "Thank you for your service",...
So,... What did I give up?
My right to quit.
My right to say "no sir, I will not fire upon another human".
My right to openly voice my opinion about, or protest, my government.
My right to live in whatever manner or lifestyle I so choose, with whomever I so choose.
My right to be a shaggy headed fat bastard.
And a few others I really didn't care about anyway,...
Sure, I CAN do all those things, IF I'm willing to face the consequences for my actions. But that would be the point, I can still do those things, but unlike the rest of the population, I will be punished for it, and that is not freedom.
The point is, that the few, in the service of many, for selfish or selfless reasons, are fighting and dying simply because they are told to. They go where they are told, they leave home & hearth behind, they fight who they are told to fight, and for an unfortunaely high number, they die for reasons that are neither just or sensible.
But they do it for thier country, thier service, and thier flag.
In esence, they die for all of YOU, and yes, even for me.
It dosn't matter if you agree with whats going on, it matters that you recognize the sacrifice they make for all of us.
So, what have you done to deserve thier sacrifice?
What have you done to deserve the sacrifice of the hundreds of thousands who died to build this country that keeps you free?
Think about it,...
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It is the soldier, not the politician, who fights for the flag, dies for the flag, and whos coffin is draped by the flag, who gives the protester the right to burn the flag.
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Just to clarify
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Posted:Jun 2, 2008 2:52 pm
Last Updated:Jun 12, 2008 5:47 pm
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We're not killing off the meets just for the misconduct of ONE asshole.
In the years we have been hosting these meets we have had one person become a real issue. And with the number of people we have had come and go, thats actualy pretty fewk'n amazing!
I did not mean to sound like I was on the verge of tanking the meets, but when one knows everything that is going on around here at the moment, they'd understand that stress is something we just dont need more of.
I dont expect anything from the people that come out to the meets, I'm grateful that anyone shows up at all, truly. All we ask is that people behave themselves according to what would be considered reasonable public standards, and we're pretty loose with that as it is.
I've always tried to emphasize that the meets are JUST social events, not fuck fests or group gropes. Coming out with any more expectations than seeing some freinds &/or making a couple new ones is unrealistic and those people are likely better off going elsewhere.
Since we get the most face time with the staff of the establishments we hold these meets at, we'd also ask that before someone gets out of hand that we're informed so we can attempt to do something about it before the issue gets out of control and we are asked to leave and never come back. This is a very real possibility at Max Dales as the management does NOT like the presence of our group, & the recent absence of our usual wait staff that like us makes our position there even more tenuous.
So please people, if someone is crossing lines and not taking the hint, let us know immediately. & at other peoples meets please do the same.
These meets are about YOU, without YOUR help, we cant make them last.
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Posted:May 19, 2008 6:12 pm
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OK, so at our last Mt.V M&G I guess there was a person that was being a bit pushy with the ladies and rubbed a fewe people the wrong way.
No big deal, it happens, and even though nobody bothered to bring it to the hosts attention (me) till sometime after the fact, someone did mention it to this person. Being the pushy type and not knowing it they took it poorly and assumed someone didn't like them and was just spreading shit.
Clue #1
Now, this last weekend was the 1st foam party of the year and said person came out again. And again he was being a pushy bastard. OK, so he's agressive, nobody is terribly suprised.
Until he tried to grope one of the ladies on the dance floor. She backs off and doesn not look happy so whats he do? He tried again, harder.
Clue #2
Now that this person has comitted what can easily be construed sexual assault on one of the members of our group, and a few people had a word with him about throttling back a bit, he has the nerve, the fucking gall to act hurt. Actualy seems offended that people think he's pushy and has proclaimed that he and his date will not be attending any events anymore because apparently we're all so uptight, and those people that bitched can "kiss my ass".
Clue #3
Ok, I can not express in any sort of civilized manner what I really feel about this. I'm glad that this person not wanting to come out to events anymore saves me the effort of telling him he is unwelcome. But fucking hell, some people are infuriating in thier sheer density,...
If people tell you to back off, you might have a problem.
If several people tell you to back off on more than one occasion, you might have a problem.
If the woman you tried to grope obviosly reacts poorly to it and you just try harder, dude, YOU ARE THE FUCKING PROBLEM!!
I realize it's a hassle and all, but my advice for the woman that was groped, I recommend she charge his ass. People like that dont learn the easy way,...
Crap like this,... I swear, I have enough stress in my life as is. We have been imeasurably lucky that the people that are so kind and come out and join us at the meets are some great people and we have never had any real problems. Hell, we've made some awesome freinds there!
But as with everything, all it takes is one person to piss in the pool and everyone wants to get out.
And people, this damn near breaks it for me, the proverbial fucking straw,... With all the shit going on in our lives, the other shit thats been going on outside our lives, now the group pages are turning into romper room,...
I just cant abide ignorant people. Call me intollerant, but I just cant!
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Meet & Greets: Relocation and the possible decline of social meetings
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Posted:May 9, 2008 10:37 pm
Last Updated:Jun 22, 2008 10:54 pm
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So, the last couple of days I was at a military hiring conference. the positions people were competing for were mostly outside the area. The two I interviewed for were in Salt Lake City and the Tri-Cities.
We were hoping to stay in the local area so we wouldn't have to leave behind the freinds we have made, but the reality is if I get offered the job in the Tri-Cities, I'm probably going to move on it.
What that leaves us is with the fate of the meets. We currently hold the two in the area, and they are both quite sucessfull. The question is, will someone have the time and the desire to take over. not necesarily the same folks for bolth meets, whatever keeps em goin.
It would be a real shame for something like the meets to die off for lack of someone to just be there. Wouldn't be the 1st time it happened tho.
It's something thats on my mind, but I cant let it bias my descision when it comes to providing for my family (60-85K+bonus aint nothin to sneeze at!).
I guess we'll see what happens tho, now wont we?
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My last blog post
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Posted:Apr 16, 2008 6:41 pm
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I just re read that one, and I realized something.
I get some really bad fat fingers. OMFG, it looks horrible!
And I'm always picking out the spelling & syntax errors other people write,... Hypocrite! 
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What ARE we lookin for?
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Posted:Apr 7, 2008 1:22 am
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This is a bit backdated, but is something that I have been thinkin about on & off for a bit, so I thought I'd drop it in here for my faithful readers.
At a recent event I was approached and asked what it was we, as a traid, were looking for.
Now one could say, hey, read the profile jack1 but that doesn't really give much more than a basic guideline when you look at it. And there are a lot of people that know us in the real world that know what is written in our profile is just the surface of the relationship we share, we can seem to be a complex set of people.
But in reality, we are not.
So, I think a better definition can be offered to those folks that take the time to poke through the blogs (I know I never seem to be able to keep up, even with the fun ones I enjoy reading!)
What WE are looking for:
-Uncomplicated people, outwardly anyway. If I wanna put together a jigsaw puzzle, I'll but one thanx!
-Freinds that we can be a triad around, no hiding things or "toning it down" to defend thier tender sensibilities.
-People that can accept us as we are, no expectations, no strings, just us as a triad.
-People that understand that while there are options, there are no garantees. Finding a paerson that two people like is hard, finding TWO people that two people like is even harder. However, the odds od finding one or two people that THRTEE people all like stand somewhere between slim to get bent. But there's stiil a chance!
-People that can take no thanks as an answer regardless of what is going on around us at the time, just becase we host a meet & grret or attend them and other events does not mean we are lsut puppies lookin for some meat (well, not always anyway).
-Friends!
I'm sure I'll come up with some other crap in the future, but this should be pretty cut & dry.
We are who we are, deal with it or dont, we'll still be who we are tomorrow.
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Social Graces, revisited
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Posted:Mar 16, 2008 4:56 am
Last Updated:May 5, 2010 4:36 am
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In a previous post I ranted a slight amount about social graces. The ability of people to police themselves when it comes to thier behavior in social situations.
Tonight we were once again reminded why we really have a tight circle of freinds and tend to keep it that way. We tend to choose those folks that can have a good time, a great time even, and still maintain themselves in good fashion. these are also the kind of people we can expect to help remove people who cant behave and become an issue.
This evening there was a person who came out to see some of her online freinds and brought along her rather soused possesive neanderthal boyfreind. Not a good combo when in a group like ours seeing as we are all a chatty bunch, and some of us are touchy feely on top of that. She was doing fine while sitting next to the ladies, but she had asked me a question and I leaned down to answer it. In the 15 seconds it took me to do so, neanderthal man comes staggering up and gives the classic he-man "she's with me" line, a couple of times to make sure I heard it.
The really funny part is we've met before, and she reminded him of it, but he's so fucking brain dead he cant recall and is standing there in what might pass for a fighting stance if he weren't so blasted. The haze of confusion seemed to help the situation pass, and all was back to normal in moments.
I expect some credit for not taking the open shot he left me to his larnyx, because I REAAAAALLY wanted to! But no, I was good, and didn't beat on a drunk. Regardless of how badly he needed it, it would be cheap and unfair, AND in this day and age in America, he'd probably sue me and win some exorbient amount of money because he was a fuck tard. So not worth it,...
Anyway, back the point. If you are with someone who cant control themselves in public, either a: leave thier sorry asses at home, or b: stay the fuck away from other people.
And please, if you're a woman & you find that you're stuck with a neanderthal man, drop his ass and find someone who walks upright. It's the 21st century for fuxsakes! You CAN do better ladies, really you can.
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Meet & Greet updates
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Posted:Mar 16, 2008 4:32 am
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2024 10:12 am
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We have officialy dropped one of the Bi-monthly meets in favor of our local area meet. We're down to two hostings a month now, and at least one is near by now so we are saving some gas money! 
The good news is that as so far we have gotten a load of attention from the locals. We've been having a fair draw at every meet, but even more special to us are those folks from off the island that have been coming out to visit us as well.
When ya look at how much time and money we spend going to events off the island, we can truly appreciate the effort of those folks. THANKS!!
Now, if we can just light a fire under these local folks. For a town full of people that bych'd about not having a local meet, we sure could stand to have bigger tunr outs!
We'll see tho, people are always apprehensive when you're starting a new event. once we're established it will be better. A good part is that our group is already established with the staff, a good thing for a group like ours.
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We started a new group
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Posted:Jan 31, 2008 3:04 am
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2024 10:12 am
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For folks in the Whidbey Island and surrounding areas, and anyone elkse thats interested in attending and can or will be in the area, we have started a group called "Oak harbor Meet and Greet".
The group already in place has an AWOL moderator, and needs some help. We're starting the group to focus on actual no shit meets, events, parties, and above all, networking!
The best use of this site for people that are lookin to swing is networking, and most of that happens off the site. So, to make it work, we need a place to post relevant info.
Folks can also make general posts and ask questions and all that too, but really, we're here to meet people and make new friends. We're just providing a place to do so with the control of an active moderator to keep the idiots and spammers at bay.
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Yet another meet and greet update
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Posted:Jan 31, 2008 2:56 am
Last Updated:Mar 7, 2008 7:47 pm
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Last weekend we had the first ever, no shit, real live meet and greet here in our sleepy lil town. Not a huge tunr out, but not a small one by any means either. We knew half of the people there already, but did get to meet several new folks as well, we'd call it a success.
Except for the ear bleeding squaling they called kareoke at the place we met. It's pretty sad really, as the place is ideal for what we look for in a place to hold a meet, and odds are slim we'll find someplace as good. But good gravy, we can NOT deal with another night of that racket, we'll kill the meet off before it gets off it's feet!
So, a note to folks holding meets, unless you are blessed enough to have people around that can sing at least passibly, DONT have your meet where they do kareoke, it's a killer.
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Lookin for models in NW Washington State
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Posted:Jan 14, 2008 9:21 am
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2008 2:02 am
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Not just those typicaly waifish types either, but real people!
I'm lookin for local(ish) ladies that are wanting to get some photos. Local for us is Skagit/Island/Whatcom county area, but can go further depending on scheduling.
Can be anything from head shots, nice portraits, to the full monty. 
All of it is free along with a CD of all the work and a couple prints. Anything else, we'll talk,...
Need to get back in the swing and it's been a slow year!
If ya wanna see my work just ask, I have public galleries on DeviantArt and One Model Place. 
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Posted:Jan 14, 2008 9:05 am
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2008 2:06 am
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Deni calls me at work all flustered about some guy writing to us asking how she can be gay yet we are married. I figgured it's just some red-neck tard with his head in the bible a little too far, something we have dealt with before. BUT, Deni is a bit short with reading comprehensionm so I waited to see what the letter said before I formed an opinion. For once, I was actualy faced with something less idiotic and more genuine cuirosity.
The letter is as follows.
SUBJ: Thank you (in advance)
Just to be clear from the very forefront, I'm NOT going to try to convince you to change your 'no single men' policy. I'm not into either of you. All three of you? Anyway, I AM fascinated by the profile and was hoping I could trouble you to clarify something for me. I understand if you don't care to, as well and I won't be upset or offended if you tell me it's none of my business.
How did you two even manage to get together, since she's gay (at least that's what the profile says...) and he's straight? This is bewildering and yet, I've lived it. I've never seen this before on FriendFinder-x and I'm unabashedly curious.
Again, I completely understand if you don't feel like telling me, but I figured it can't hurt to ask.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, in any case.
Best wishes, sincerely,
-B-
Now I'm not the kind of person that really cares one way or another what people think about us or our lives together, we have faced a certain amount of disdain from people before, mostly family members (cant wait till Denis' brother finds out about our live in g/f, that should be fun!).
Anyway, I figgure a well formed question deserves an answer, so here is what I sent back:
Not a problem, it's actualy refreshing to get a question such as this posed in a nice forward manner. typicaly we get some bitter ass that thinks we're sick and wrong, but is essentialy jealous and needs a life.
Since you were respectful in your method of asking I suppose we can answer those questions you asked:
We managed to get together many years ago when Deni was attempting to placate her family and was trying to meet a "nice guy". Not an easy task in that particular desert town, nice guys were an endangered species. Most of them were unhappy with her descicion at that time that she'd rather have fish than beef, a typical issue faced by young lesbian women. By some wierd turn of fate, we met, and have only been apart those times that the military has made us seperate. She told me from the beginning that she loved women and that she still desired them, even though the connection we had was instant, and strong. being an open minded and hearted person, I had no issues with that. We each have the capability to be with someone else and not stray from eachother, so we started looking for outside interaction with women. We've had our own lovers, and our mutual lovers, and now we have a triad relationship, something that fufills eaveryones needs quite nicely.
It's been a long run for the two of us, and we are still flying in the face of "normal" after over 14 years.
Now, as far as the sexuality goes, 1st you have to decide your own answer to the question "whats in a label?". Odds are our answer and yours may be slightly different. We have Deni down as identifying as gay simply because she is not into men, other men anyway. How we are together sexualy is less a matter of sexual preference and more a matter of what real love is vs. how love and sexuality are typicaly grouped together. True love, real love, sees no boundaries. It has nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with feeling. Think about your past, people you have known, your best freinds. Now think about the males in that group of people. Wether it was a best freind in high school, or someone you knew in your early years after that time, people you still talk to to this day. We all call it freindship, but under it is a connection to that person, a connection that stripped down to it's base component can be called love. Now finding that you did in fact, and possibly do now, love another man, does that make a person gay? Hardly, no more than being able to see another male and recognize that he's an attractive person is just an observation, not homsexual tendancies. Love is not about right, wrong, gay, str8, it's just feeling and connection. What the two of us found from the day we met is just that, something that surpasses sexuality, something that is about how we as people, as personalities, fit together.
Now of course for a short time we tried to be "normal", and even though we make eachother insanely happy in & out of bed, there was something missing. That something was the fact that Deni loves women as much as I do. So we hit that point where we could live in denial and attempt to keep on acting like people wanted us to, or we could aknowlege that Deni is essentialy gay and has needs that unfufilled would eventualy tear us apart. Our connection outside of all that is not something we are prepared to let go over something as trivial as sex, so here we are today, living our lives on our terms, and damned happy for it!
Hope that answers your questions
D&J
I dunno, coulda probably worded that a bit better, but that is essentialy it. We love eachother 1st, and worry about the sex later. Now that we have Jamie, we have all of our mutual sexual needs being fufilled. Of course adding another person to a relationship adds all kinds of fun new issues, we're essentialy quite happy and are looking forward to what tomorrow brings.
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Meets and Greets, Fact vs. Myth; An update,... again
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Posted:Jan 7, 2008 8:46 pm
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2024 10:12 am
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In the previous post about meets and greets I stated that were were at that point where one asks "should I stay or should I go?". Now we are here to report that not only are we in fact staying the course, but like some raving glutton for punishemnt, we are adding one more meet at a new location! That will make 3 meets a month that we host,...
Yes, I am mental, thanks for noticing.
Sometimes when you're doing these things, you realize there is a market for your gatherings somewhere else, but they just need someone to kick start it. Now you can tell people over and over that all it takes is someone to show up and say "here I am!", but typicaly someone will have to step up and actualy DO it, and sometimes that someone will end up being you.
Case in point, we drive nearly 60 miles round trip to host our meet, but the people that live near us find the drive to be a bit much for them. I can agree as sometimes it's a bit much for me too, but what the hell, we enjoy it too much!
Anyway, recent grumblings on the local message board have revealed a decent amount of interest, and hence we have set a date and venue for a meet near where we live.
Wether anyone will show up or not, or wether we shall fall victim to this places terminal case of Smalltownitis remains to be seen. We'll give it a couple shots and see if people will come out and if they do, if we can get them to talk to the people they know around here (oddly enough, we know very few people in our own town!) and get them to come out as well. IF, big if there, we manage to get a solid group of attendess, we'll most likely drop one of the exisiting meets and start doing one in each town every month. The local one will be a bummer as our g/f will always be at least an hour late since she works in the other town, but the start time is a big factor on getting people out.
Logisticly, it'll be easier to do as we dont have the drive to get to one place, however we have to overcome the fear of discovery factor if we have the meet here in town, better known as the afrementioned Smalltownitis. How does one overcome that? You dont, the attendees do, you just do what you can to make it easier on them. Our location is the key here tho, we're going to a place that doesn't see alot of early business, yet has the room we need as well as good food. Being downtown it's close to the clubs so people can migrate as things wind down, in all actuality it's an ideal location if people can overcome thier individual issues with being in town. We shall see!
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