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How would you as a man handle a Female Female Male Relationship?
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How would you as a man handle a Female Female Male Relationship? Since I updated my profile and included my lady, I have gotten numerous responses saying yeah that is every man's dream to be with two women. Although yes, it very well maybe that is generally in reference to a threesome which entirely sexual! My lady and I are sincerely seeking a male for a long term relationship. My lady and I have known one another for 8 years and been partners for 4 years now. When i talk to men who inquire about our potential situation they seem to only see the physical side. Are there no emotions attached to relationships anymore or have relationships become PURELY PHYSICAL? If you were potentially our man how would you deal with a having two women in a relationship? please Talk to me!! I want to know what you guys would really do. Help me out, Denay |
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Ide think a woman woman man relationship would be great , but i know u would have to treat both woman equally., but it has got to be nice to have that kind or relationship , where no one has nonthing to hide, and it would have to also be open, meaning all for one and one for all, i once worked with a guy in that situation , and he lived with both woman, but he couldnt play with the 2nd girl onless the other was around and gave permission, i wouldnt like that at all. but if it was a open relationship where theres no rules, and all for one and one for all, between the three of us , ide be a very happy camper
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7/11/2009 11:11 am |
Being in a relationship with two women would be great from my prospective. However, the rules must be establish up from before anything start to get serious. Meaning, the man must treat both ladies equally and be very impartial at all times. The ladies must understand that the rules and the understand between them is to key to keeping everyone happy. For example, the man must be able to have sex with anyone of the ladies without the other one being present, and the ladies must be able to have sex with each other without the man being present. Lastly, respect for the rules and each other will always keep the three people together as it has for the two ladies up to this point.
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7/11/2009 1:15 pm |
being with two women( just sex) and an relationship with two woman's is totally different.other than a pimp not many men been in something like that. they play with many women but, have individual ways they treat each woman. in looking at it it about commitment and in this day in time that's a hard thing to do for it would take the same commitment to one as it is for two and than its three people that has to learn how to get along, no more than a family but the feeling has to be there to work and all three understanding what is expected of each other
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BEING IN A WOMEN WOMEN MAN RELATIONSHIP IS NOT AS EASY AS IT MIGHT SEEM FOR SOME. IT IS THE SAME AS IN A TRADITIONAL RELATIONSHIP WHERE IT HELPS IF EVERYONE IS ON THE SAME PAGE(GOALS, FUTURE PLANS, etc.). IT CUMS DOWN TO A THIS, TRUST IS THE FOUNDATION AND COMMUNICATION IS THE GLUE THAT KEEPS IT STRONG AND YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO COMPROMISE. THE KEY IN COMMUNICATING IS LISTENING VERY IMPORTANT BECAUSE THERE IS AN ADDITIONAL PERSON IN THE SCENARIO WITH AN ADDITIONAL OPINION AN COMPROMISE BECAUSE THE GOAL IS FOR EVERYBODY TO BE HAPPY...
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7/11/2009 5:50 pm |
Hey Denay, In my opinion, after gaining alot of information about Polyfaithful relationships, I understand that there are significant differences in the different statuses. As long as all 3 individuals agree on setting and understanding all ground rules up front then there shouldn't be any problems so as long as everyone adheres to the rules established. This life can work if you treat it similar to a monogamous relationship between M&F. Of course, in this case, there is a MFF friendship to relationship to possible marriage and kids that will occur. I agree with what you said when you mentioned the rule of not having sex with one when the other is away. You know what rules are set for that particular situation. You ladies have been in a faithful relationship for 4 years now, and 12 years of knowing one another. You love each other, and it isn't my position to try to change that, yet, we would have to build our connection so that we ALL feel that same love that you currently feel about each other. That's my take on it.
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Listen I'm not gonna talk your ear off so I'll cum skrate to it. I appreciate adn have mad respect for your position detailed in your profile. It's nice to see REAL women keepin shit REAL. Now having 2 women in a relationship, for me, would be challening at first as we all would have to get the ground rules straight. Once the rules are laid out then we will go forward growing together day by day as we learn about and from each other. Of course the road will be bumpy but as long as we stay focused on maintaining a strong and productive relationship, all will be good. Thanks for reading, take care!
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Listen I'm not gonna talk your ear off so I'll cum skrate to it (lol). I appreciate and have mad respect for your position as detailed in your profile. It's nice to see REAL women on this site keepin shit REAL. Now having 2 women in a relationship, for me, would be challenging at first until we get the ground rules straight. Once those rules are laid out then we will go forward growing together day by day as we learn about and from each other. Of course the road will be bumpy but as long as we stay focused on maintaining a strong and productive relationship, all will be good. Thanks for reading, take care!
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7/12/2009 9:14 am |
I believe a Female, Female, Male relationship could be a great as long as everything is equal. That means when it comes to the rules of the relationship, emotions, sex, bills, support everything! Like said by one of the other guys equality lines have to be draw. I also agree with the guy that said if one wants to have sex with the other (Male-Female, Female-Female etc.) and one of the others is not around then it should be OK! What if one is not around and the other two feel like getting nasty with each other are they suppose to wait is that fair to them, I say do your thing get nasty and get some more when the other gets home too! Now with that being that does not mean break the rules and show favorites! If you gave one sex, the other should be able to get some too if they want to! You don't sex one more then the other if so you need not be in this type of relationship.
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7/18/2009 8:20 pm |
I'm not on here much , but would very much like to speak more on your topic, so if possible, check out my page for contact info and we'll go from there... Deisel423ymessenger 2026529758
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1 post 7/20/2009 9:46 pm |
I don't really think there is a true answer in one being able to "handle a Trinogamous Relationship" Any moron can say "yeah i can handle it" But can you really? I assume it takes a lot of time, work, and patience to truly to develop it and make it work. It may takes a couple of years or so before it truly grows into something strong. True it is a very unique type of thing and the such but if the gentleman is willing to research and of course slowly develop a trusting friendship he may be fine. To add I don't think there is an "equality" factor is this. The law of mathematics to be exact. Does it truly lead to a "equal" three sided structure of love? All three have to be realistic when it comes to something of this nature. There is going to be something extra one of trio would want. The many personalities involved can lead to disaster as well. What would happen if one of trio start to have stronger feelings for the other? Me personally, I have no idea because I've never encounter or even heard of it. However, I am the type that will research and ask as many questions I can regarding the rules and the such. Now the question of the day is: Is their something lacking in your current relationship to even consider this other than adding another person?
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7/22/2009 12:24 pm |
I really hate to come off as rude rather than sincere and straight forward but I gotta say most of these guys are full of shit. No offense. Most can't even type proper english. There's a lot to polyamory and like every other horny desperado on here I'd be more than happy to jump into one. Meeting the ideal guy for such a relationship on here would be like winning the lotto. Aight enough hating. Here's the deal, we(men) are all campaigning to win your approval. Truth is if the right guy had bells on and sat on your lap you still wouldn't see him as the one, because he'd probably be "too nice" or "too soft". My point is this: short of crossing your fingers and picking whoever seems appealing, it's practically impossible for you to accurately get the truth in these circumstances. Hope I didn't come off wrong. If I did, my bad.
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1 post 7/22/2009 1:08 pm |
hi denay, at the very least I see you situation has drawn a lot of attention. I think being with two women would be difficult on a lot of levels. more difficult than just being with one, but with increased risk there's increased reward. And let's be honest its the upside we tend to focus on more so than the work required. In order, to fully answer the question I think i'd have to have a better understanding of your relationship. What are you looking for? Who's the one who takes control between you to? Sexually, i'm down for sure but friendship would depend on how you two were willing share of yourselves. Do you just want a boy toy?
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7/22/2009 1:49 pm |
Hmmm, interesting, the one thing that comes to mind is kids and health insurance...who would be my spouse/companion for legal purposes and want about the kids, if any...I know I would definitely want kids and what would we teach them about our lifestyle/arrangement!!!
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7/25/2009 6:25 am |
Okay so here's the second part to my response, seeing as how the first didn't address the issue. Contrary to popular belief, a relationship with two females starts off with a lot of talking, and I mean A LOT so if a guy goes in horny then he should expect blue balls. After getting to know both females mentally and he still sees reason to go on then comes the physical. Then comes the emotional, cus we all know all 3 are not connected que no? That's how I would handle it, slow and steady.
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7/28/2009 7:20 pm |
does that mean that the relationship is easier on everybody because some of the emotional would be taken care of by the women or does it mean that i would be trying to provide support to two women. maybe i said that wrong. but the idea sounds perfect, operating in a relationship like this but that is only my perspective. i saw it as an opportunity to be the man in a relationship with the help of another woman to help with the things i may find difficult
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8/1/2009 4:38 am |
Bottom line is, since you two ladies have known each other for 8 years, and been a couple for 4yrs, your only looking for someone to add to your relationship. Not someone to take over, or change the already established boundaries. With that said, the man you invite would have to understand that he has to connect with both of you as if you were one (not an easy task). Both you ladies obviously like each other and are compatible, but may have very different tastes in men, or one of you may like men more than the other. Additionally, one of you may like thicker dicks over long dicks. If all of that can be overcome the next question is are you considering the 3 of you living in one home, sharing bills, cooking, cleaning, shopping, potentially raising a kid together. I think its every mans dream, but the man has to be emotionally mature. He has to care for each lady equally and, until he has the history and longevity invested in the ladies, he must understand there will be nights they don't want dick, the just want to enjoy the sensual, soft touch of a woman. He couldn't be the jealous type. Am I saying I am that man, I have no idea. I am single and have always thought it would be an ideal situation, but shit, I would settle for a game of XBOX, a few drinks, and a mean spades game. If anything develops after that cool,otherwise I am not here to force anything. I would love the opportunity to meet, but also understand that connection goes both ways. I am sure your looking for one, and so am I. I wish you ladies good luck in your search, it could be a long one. In the meantime contact me when you get that spades/xbox game going. 6'7"
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8/1/2009 4:42 am |
I guess I should elaborate a bit about how I would deal with you two. I would simply come in looking to be the 3rd partner. Not running the house, I am sure it is already in order. I am not looking to control anyone, I am sure you have everything under control. I am just trying to add financially, offer an extra pair of hands for cleaning, be available emotionally...and as in all relationships be honest, communicate, keep it real, and keep the peace in the house. If its gonna work, its gonna take alot of hard work that I don't think can be anticipated unless you have been in that type of relationship.
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8/16/2009 12:52 am |
It seems to me that you and your female partner have already established a soild relationship that has stood the test thru hard times and good. If thats the case then any man coming into the picture would have the more precarious position in the triumvirate than the two females. He should do whatever is necessary to please both women. That takes a lot of communication and trust, and there will probably be some hiccups along the way. It is the womens' responsibility to effectively convey their wishes and understand if the man makes a mistake, unless he is a repeat offender. It is the man's duty to ensure both women are happy and he needs to basically not phuck it up
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8/21/2009 1:52 pm |
hello ladys this is goodrench if you love both partners the same and no sneeky stuff you will be alright plain and simple its not hard unless you make it that way even down to sex evryone should be there at all times no one gets left out period you have to do evrything together for it to work end of storie i could love both of you that way its not for evryone lay down the ground rules and thats it.
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8/30/2009 7:01 am |
Hello ladies They key is finding a MAN is sincere about having a relationship with you and working things out. I wish was that man, because we would have a beautiful loving relationship.
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1 post 9/8/2009 7:48 pm |
I would be honest and sincere, listen to you both and really try and find what we have in common and what you are expecting from this relationship. I would want to be an asset and enhance your lives and mine. We can start with long talks getting to know each other, can you tell me if a guy from NC stands a chance I have the means and the ability to erase the distance between us at anytime and we can do anything that the 3 of us can imagine.
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Communication!...simply said, just like any other relationship its a team effort and in this case the team is of 3.
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Hi Denay. You know? It's funny.. I had a similar conversation with someone about this subject some time ago.. I was explaining to her what I was looking for in a poly type relationship.. My thought process was based more on advantages to all parties involved.. Financially and socially more so than physically.. That being said, the women involved could both be straight or bi.. It doesn't matter to me.. Financially, it would be advantantageous for obvious reasons.. The more you have coming in, the more you have to put towards housing, transportation, food etc.. Socially, it would because the women would have each other to do those things together that mostly women like to do.. Example: shopping, watching chick flicks, talkig about men (lol), all while not having to be suspcious about the other woman trying to steal their man away.. As far as the ranking order, I feel that all involved should be what they are naturally.. All three however, should have an equal say in the household.. Especially if everyone is providing an equal share.. Phisically, it would depend on the sexual preference of the women involved. And if there's trust between all involved then it should not matter if it's two playing or all three at one time.. As long as everyone is satisfied, (right)? All and all, as in a conventional relationship, respect should be first and foremost. Along with, honesty, understanding, communication and committmenet.. Without these, no relationship will last... Well, that's my take on the subject.. Blessings to you dear.. I hope your search goes well..
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Hello Ladies! I was reading your blogs for 2 reason: 1) to address your situation and add points to my profile. I have been thinking about your situation for the last 24 hours. This is difficult! At least for me, I would be wondering what my role in the relationship is outside the bed. Me personally, I am looking longterm relationship! I am 39 and have been single for awhile! I love FriendFinder-x and all the potential encounters I can come across. At the end of the day, I want a woman that wants to get married to me, have house and start a family. Those are my main requirements for any person I chose to date. I want to find a woman that wants to grow old with me! The sexual stuff is negoible! Your situation is unique, because you and your lady are in healthy relationship. I think the question I would ask you based on the information I provided in my relationship goals. What do you women have to offer me in and most importantly outside the bedroom? I am not trying to be rude! I am not bidding for your love. I don't I don't think I have what your are looking for anyways! You women are very attract. I am trying to analyze your goals for a male companion. 1) Would we live together under same roof? 2) Would you want to get married to me and have the family and kid stuff? Do your girlfriend want the samething? Polygamy issue would be interesesting, unless we lived in Utah. 3) Would you be the #1 girlfriend or equal time for both? 4) How would jealously play a part if I did more things with your girlfriend because we have more similar interests. Look at Hef and his former girlfriend (Kendra, Bridget, and Holly). Hef was still married when he date those three. Kendra and Bridget loved Hef but there was not longterm interest. They were their for the free ready and fame. Holly was the only one the wanted marriage and family. Look at the results of that relationships! I don't know if you and your girlfriend found that special man, or figured out the role of any man in your relationship outside of the bedroom. Inside bedroom is somewhat easy! What you guys do with you clothes on will be the challenge? Well, good luck with your search. Let me know how it turns out!
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The unfortunate reality is of course guys will immediately look at the physical aspect of it, but the reality is that being in a FMF relationship is very emotional and at times can be mentally draining. As me and my bi-wife look (yes look) for a third female to be in a reltionship with us, I can ateast that it ain't all hot sweaty 3some sex. It can be truly difficult to deal with so much estrogen, but the feeling of being able to take care of 2 Queens financially, emotionally, mentally, I feel is a reward worth having. K (male of) Getitinwithus2
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