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5 Keys to Killer Oral Sex!
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5 Keys to Killer Oral Sex! This is an expanded version of the 5 keys I listed before, but with more details and over the next several weeks I plan on expanding this information and sharing what I know. Enjoy and try. Key # One: It's a Gift, Not an Obligation When you are giving a man oral or manual stimulation, you are giving him a very precious gift. This means that you are the one giving him pleasure. Since it is a gift, you are the one making the choices. You are not obligated to do any particular technique or to allow him to use you as an object. Some men tend to grab onto a woman's head during oral sex, or to start thrusting. Perhaps you don't mind these things, but if you do mind them, don't think you have to be stoic. As with any gift, if you don't enjoy giving it, the value is greatly diminished. If you don't like something he's doing, let him know and move on to something else. If you have practiced the techniques in this manual, you'll have a large repertoire to draw on. Chances are likely that you can come up with something he'll like a lot better than what he's doing that's causing you discomfort. Key # Two: You Are in Charge Part of what really turns a man on about oral and manual sex is that he is giving up his control to someone else. A large part of the sexual experience is the exchange of power. When it comes to sex, women have a lot of power. So, as you perform any oral or manual technique, make sure that he knows that you are in charge of the process, that you are confident in your ability to bring him to orgasm on your terms and your timing, and that he can trust you to give him a better orgasm than he's ever had before. As you read through the next chapters, you'll learn some technique to help you maintain control over the build and climax of his orgasm. Incorporate those techniques in your process and he'll be begging you to take charge every night. Key # Three: Men Are Visual Creatures Men love to look. They process a lot of their information directly through their eyes. So, if you want to give your partner a super experience, provide visuals for him. Look him in the eye and use your face to convey your enjoyment of what you are doing and the way he's responding. Position yourself so that he gets a good look at you, particularly the areas he's attracted to, such as the breasts. Key # Four: Recreating the Vagina When you are giving manual or oral stimulation, you are creating the sensation for the man of being inside a vagina?without actually using a vagina. So, what do you need to simulate that experience? Friction and pressure. Ideally, vaginas fit snugly around the penis and hug tightly. This translates into the sensations of friction (rubbing) and pressure. For this reason, you want to use a firm grip with your hands or lips and tongue. ? Moisture. An aroused vagina is wet. Using lubrication on your hands or having saliva in the mouth gives him that feeling of wetness. Changing Temperatures. As the penis moves in and out of the vagina, it experiences alternating sensations of heat and cooling. As you read, you'll learn some techniques that involve the use of heat and coolness to increase his pleasure. Key # Five: Communication Is Key When you are giving a hand or blow job, it's paramount that you maintain communication with your partner so that you can find out what works and what doesn't in arousing him and controlling the pace of the orgasm. When getting an orgasm, men tend to focus on the experience, rather than the techniques. Chances are that afterwards, he won't remember exactly what happened, how it happened, or when. You'll need to keep track of that, so that you can continue to improve your technique. Here are some methods of communication that you can use. Eye contact One of the secrets to great oral sex is making eye contact with your lover. When you look at him, you can gauge his responses better. This will help you learn what works and what doesn't. Also, by looking at him, you can communicate your enjoyment in pleasing him. This is very important. He needs to know that you like giving him head. It also helps to establish your control over the situation. Facial Expression Along with eye contact, use your face to show how much you are enjoying yourself. Imagine yourself a film actress and that you are a giving a close-up just for him. Body Language You body can express a lot just in the way you are sitting or moving. If you lean towards him, you'll convey your desire to be closer to him. If you move back, you can signal your desire to slow down. Your hands can speak, with the way they touch him. But don't think you are limited to hands. You have arms, feet, legs, and torso to work with. Be imaginative. Can you express how you are feeling using your feet or stomach? Verbalization Finally, there is verbalization. Words?, talking, even moans or grunts can convey much of what you are feeling. Ask him questions. Ask if he likes what you're doing. Ask him if he wants more. Ask him to tease you or stimulate you back. Tell him what to do. Use your voice to control him. Tease him by telling him what you are planning to do. Don't be afraid to talk dirty to him. A lot of men love that. Praise him, especially his penis. Express your amazement at its size, power, and hardness. Remember that verbalization is a two-way street. Allow him the space to express his pleasure at what you are doing. Key # Six: Lubrication, Lubrication, Lubrication! Like a spoonful of sugar, lubrication makes everything go down easier. The more moisture you have around, the easier it is to slide your hands over the penis, or to move the penis into your mouth. You may not realize this, but you are a natural lubrication factory. When you become sexually aroused, you'll produce a wetness that is quite different from urination and is the perfect natural lubricant. The trouble, you can't always produce it on demand. Another natural lubricant is saliva, which you produce when your saliva glands are stimulated (as they are when you are hungry and see some delicious food). Obviously, if you are giving oral sex, then saliva is perfect as a lubricant. However, in manual stimulation, it's a bit more problematic. Beyond the ick factor of spitting on your hands or his penis--saliva is another limited substance. Keep trying to salivate all night and you'll end up dehydrated. So, make it easy on yourself and your partner by investing in some commercial lubricant. There are three different types of commercial lubricants: Oil-based, water-based, and silicon-based. (I myself enjoy using a<b> flavored lube </font></b>that is water-based).  I am who I am and I am not going to change for anyone, so don't ask!         |
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10/6/2009 6:32 am |
Another point under visualization is lipstick and painted fingernails....yum. I'm burning with desire.
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