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Blogs > topherific > things that make me go... :-S

marriage...really?  

topherific 61M
57 posts
6/8/2009 3:10 pm

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10/2/2013 10:44 pm
marriage...really?
i was listening to a local radio show this a.m. while taking the to school. the dj's were asking for comment on how long is too long to date before the guy pops the question. 1. why does it have to be the GUY to pop the question? 2. is marriage so much more important than two people finding each other and falling in love and spending their lives together i.e. (and i know they are probably tired of being sited for this) kurt Russel and goldie Han, great life! great love! lasting relationship! 3. with barely a 50% success rate why the fuck is marriage something to demand or even strive to make happen...anytime! i know, i got married so what am i doing proselytizing committed relationships? but i remind you i married my mom because she wanted to marry me...how was she suppose to know she would end up not liking me!


jewells47243 65F
40 posts
7/10/2010 4:58 pm

 I divorced in 1987...
Jewells


jewells47243 65F
40 posts
3/7/2010 7:21 am

 Marriage>>Well I did it ONCE, over 20 years ago. I don't belive its a bad thing, or even a thing that most people should not want to do. But I do think that there are preconcieved ideas that folks get about being married that make the union unatainable.Thus making it doomed for failure. How the hell do you know you want to spend the rest of your life with the person you just married, you may think you know that person and perhaps you really do. At that moment and at that time. The true nature of life and being a living being is that we change. Sometimes the two married people change and the changes bring them closer together. Sometimes it takes them to two different places. What I dont get about marriage or even breaking up..after being with someone for a long time, is why deciet, why lie. Ok, you have grown apart,be honest, be real. Don't you owe yourself and the other person the through honesty that your love, your union, brought about to begin with. truth is light, Love shins in the light. When two people fall in love they shin. Everyone can see what happiness dwells within these two people. So now that you dont like the other person, you have changed,you find another more attractive or for what ever reason you dont want to be with this person any longer, why does it have to be in darkness, deciet. Sure someone is going to have hurt feeling, uncertainities, and feel as if they failed. Why does it have to be a failure. Ever love is different, and you learn something new from each love experience. Marriage, Dont think if a nesseciary elament to say you love someone. Security is never present in an unsecure person. Marriage offers no promises ...it may be an inplyed intent or consent...I have been divorced since 97. And experienced what I thought was love with another man only a few times since then.


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