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A Sorta Engagement
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Had I intercepted a package like that, I would have been miserable embarrassed and with every single ounce of me, would try to find a way to reseal the package and hope and pray it looked unopened. And then look completely excited when the actual proposal take place. I would not want to rain on his parade or ruin details that may have been fully planned out. I would still want the surprise even if it wasn't a complete surprise. I hope you aren't too annoyed, after all you ARE engaged now! Congrats? Wedding plans? I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN HAPPINESS!! (MY LIFE'S PHILOSOPHY)
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How funny is it that this post followed the post about her being impatient and all about instant gratification? Congratulations!
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Had I intercepted a package like that, I would have been miserable embarrassed and with every single ounce of me, would try to find a way to reseal the package and hope and pray it looked unopened. And then look completely excited when the actual proposal take place. I would not want to rain on his parade or ruin details that may have been fully planned out. I would still want the surprise even if it wasn't a complete surprise. I hope you aren't too annoyed, after all you ARE engaged now! Congrats? Wedding plans? I do wonder if she really intended for me to discover her wearing the ring. It would be more like her to just quietly wear it until I noticed. But I came home a bit earlier than usual. As for wedding plans, I already fear I have unleashed a monster. Is it wrong of me to just tell her to let me know where and when to show up?
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At the same time I should add that I am somewhat annoyed. After all this is her first and only wedding (I hope), and her soul hasn't been crushed and polluted by divorce. I did want it to be perfect. I am rather protective of her emotions when I shouldn't be.
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How funny is it that this post followed the post about her being impatient and all about instant gratification? Congratulations! I had thought she would want the wedding to take place in a couple of weeks, but she said it should be next spring. I want her to have it on the anniversary of our first... date, you could call it, so I don't have to remember a bunch of different anniversaries, but I think it's on a Thursday this year.
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I was expressing a desire for Katie to have a perfect wedding, but achieving a perfect marriage sounds pretty daunting. It's a lot of work. I think it can be done though. Call me an optimist, or a hopeless romantic.
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I'm not sure I would call her selfish, which I would describe as consistently putting her needs above someone else's. She is actually quite generous, trusting, and she would give someone the shirt off her back much more readily than I would. When she comes into a lot of money from a bonus, raise, tax return, et cetera, she spends her money on other people more than on herself. So I have trouble calling her that. At the same time, she is younger than me, and occasionally she does something I think shows less maturity. And she is very impulsive about satisfying her whims, and sees no value in putting off until later something she could do now. Sometimes her lust for sensation and experiences is just charming and exciting, like if she wants to run barefoot through a dewy field when the fog is blanketing the ground, or putting her feet in a fountain and getting yelled at by security guards. She seems to live these moments aware of any consequences, and yet heedless of them, ready to accept whatever happens. Over the course of a couple years I've noticed that if a sexual opportunity crops up, she takes it without much hesitation. She seems to want to explore everything about a person, especially their sex, to know them better. I have to like this, after all, it's how we got involved in the first place, so it would be hateful of me to not love her for it. But I actually enjoy hearing a play-by-play of what happens. It's sexy. And I think it's better for her soul to live freely than it was for her in past relationships, where she did it on the down low, especially if the boyfriend was the jealous type, and lived with a sense of guilt that added to her occasional feelings of worthlessness. So, I understand her so completely that it's hard for me not to love her and even admire these qualities. As for my feelings, I like to talk about things and make a plan before carrying them out. So having children, or getting a pet, these are things I want to plan, and she respects my feelings, though she's very impatient to get her life and marriage started. I'm just happy she chose me to do them with.
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Darlin', as long as you are happy then I am happy for you! Congrats! Even if it didn't happen as you planned. If I have stopped by your blog, please be sure to sign my permission slip Pimp Me, Pimp My Blog, But Let Me Do The Same With You  
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Coming from you, that means a lot. I think my eyes are a lot wider open than when I got cornered into the last marriage. I don't have all the nagging qualms about it that I had the first time. I should really have trusted my doubts and instincts that time. I think sometimes we all shield ourselves from nastiness we don't want to deal with at the moment, to our own peril.
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Yes about the mail-opening, I guess I understand why it happened. She's not particularly nosy, but then she doesn't have much of a sense of privacy between us. She does open my NetFlix envelopes also. In general, she likes to deal with the mail, get it sorted and junk thrown away, where I let it pile up for weeks until I get time to deal with it. We're different people in some respects, I like to put things off until the last minute, and she likes to do everything right away and get unpleasant things over with. But hopefully it's a lesson for her to learn from. Every now and again, our age differences/maturity catch up to me. For example, a lot of the time I try and warn her that something is a bad idea, like sleeping with her co-workers, because it gets pretty awfully messy. And since guys do talk about the easy marks, she gets harassed a lot at work by guys who know she will put out. It's a consequence but maybe she's too young to see it? Then she gets pissed and calls me preachy if I try and walk her down the path of logical consequences. So, this is the proposal that she chose for herself. I can't change that, and it's fine with me.
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Darlin', as long as you are happy then I am happy for you! Congrats! Even if it didn't happen as you planned.
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That is a very good question, and we have chatted about it a little. I for one, have been trying to calm down lately in preparation for this. I've sort of said to myself I will only fool around with couples for now. I've been working on a blog post about this whole monogamy thing, but it's taking a while because I'm busy at work and a lot of other things have been going on in my life lately.
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