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What do you think of last minute meetings?
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What do you think of last minute meetings? Well, I have been doing online dating for a while now and there are two major things I have noticed about what guys do when it comes to meeting in person. The first one is they don't have real interest to meet in person. They just want to text you for months or they think it's okay to shoot you a message once a week or once a month. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, FUCK OFF!! *blocks* Then the second group of guys will ask you to meet right away the first time you are chatting with them. Are you fucking kidding me?!! Most of them do it because they just want sex. I don't care if they just want sex. I don't meet people who ask me that way. This guy here tries to play dumb because he's probably lying about just wanting sex. He's 30 years old. He doesn't need someone to explain to him that this is not how you ask to meet someone on the internet. He's so full of shit, it's just irritating. Why did I even continue responding to him? lol He had to tell me that it's not a date. lol REALLY?!!! NO SHIT!!! I THOUGHT YOU WERE GONNA PICK ME UP IN A MUSTANG AND TAKE ME TO A FIVE STAR RESTAURANT!! *pukes* What an asshole!! I don't know. Should I have been nicer to him or harsher? I'm thinking maybe I should have told him, "Thank you but not tonight. Maybe sometime next week." But I'm sure this guy wouldn't have enough interest to wait until next week to meet me properly. Or maybe I should have just told him he is full of shit and I don't buy his story. But my question is do you all accept last minute invites with people you don't really know? What do you think of last minute meetings? If you have done it before did you end up thinking you shouldn't do something like that? Him: Hey, how are you? Sent from the OkCupid app 3:32pm Me: Excuse me, that's none of your business.  Sent from the OkCupid app 4:03pm Me: Jk Sent from the OkCupid app 4:03pm Me I'm fine..boring day for me. How are you? Sent from the OkCupid app 4:03pm Him: Haha oh it's my business now. I'm fine as well. About the same for me. Sent from the OkCupid app 4:06pm Him: What are you up to? Sent from the OkCupid app 6:19pm Me: Was with family. What are you up to tonight? Sent from the OkCupid app 7:54pm Him: Just eating then got nothing. What about you? Sent from the OkCupid app 7:57pm Him: Want to hang out? Sent from the OkCupid app 8:14pm Me I know you are just looking for a one night stand but I don't meet people like that. Sent from the OkCupid app 8:26pm Him: Why do you think that? Sent from the OkCupid app 8:27pm Him: Because I wanted to meet you? Sent from the OkCupid app 8:27pm Me: Because you want to meet right away and asking on short notice. Sent from the OkCupid app 8:28pm Me: I meet people on here but not the way you are asking. Sent from the OkCupid app 8:29pm Him: Well I didn't have any plans and the best way to get to know someone is in person. Sent from the OkCupid app 8:29pm Him: Ok, sorry for asking to meet you Sent from the OkCupid app 8:29pm Him: How am I supposed to do it? Sent from the OkCupid app 8:30pm Me: To me a normal person asks to meet a few days ahead of time...otherwise that's just weird. Sent 8:50pm Me: Have women actually agreed to meet you when you asked them like that? Sent 8:59pm Him: Well I wasn't asking for a date really. Just to meet up for a drink and chat Sent from the OkCupid app 9:01pm Him: Very relaxed and no big deal Sent from the OkCupid app 9:02pm Me: it doesn't matter what you call it...meeting, hanging out, or date. Sent 9:03pm Me: You dont ask someone to meet like that. Read by Brandon_7_7_7 9:03pm Him: Yes ma'am |
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Anyone that pushy, avoid like the plague !!!
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I enjoyed your article
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any invite to meet up that quick is creepy. Personally I like to get to know the person over email first and depending on the chemistry that will dictate how soon we actually meet.
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I agree it's a bit rude to ask so soon but I guess I'm more old school. I think those in their 20's or early 30's are very familiar with communicating and interacting via text/chat so perhaps if he is younger, that is what has worked before.
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 . yes, I agree with the others it 's rude and creepy, communication is the key, get to know something of the person first then go out to meet. Plus is he respecting you as a person and a woman. 
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I've got to agree with @BigLaLA here -- I dont think it was really that creepy or pushy --- just seemed like you were both in agreement on a boring, slow day and he saw an opportunity in the general conversion to see if you'd simply like to hang out .... if that was his true intention, an opportunistic meet , then yeah --- you may have been a little harsh . unfortunately for him, I think he is feeling the results of all the recent crap you've had to deal with 
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Yeah, personally I think you way overreacted. The guy asked you to go for a drink, not for access to your vagina heh. If it's to late for you, and you have a long drive, etc etc then why not just say so? He has no way of knowing you just got home and don't want to go back out. You really need to relax more. in your own mind you just created a monster out of this guy from about twenty seconds of dialog. It's really not that weird to ask someone if they want to go to a public place to get a drink and talk, that's exactly how people meet offline, just by random circumstance instead of organized. Just calm down some hun and don't think that every guys is out to fuck you over.
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"It is widely regarded as rude and desperate to invite someone last minute like that. How does someone not know that?" According to whom? I did it all the time in my early twenties, either because I was bored or just feeling spontaneous. Some people thought it was rushing, some people were cool with it. I personally don't see the issue, you're going to a public place where people frequently go to have fun with other people. "Let's say I did agree to meet him. I bet this guy would not have asked me to talk on the phone or facetime. I would be the one asking him to do that. This guy doesn't care that I might be some creepy 70 year old guy?" I think that's the whole point of meeting in a public place. If you turn out to be a seventy year old man, he just leaves. You could actually say that his approach is a benefit to this problem. Why would you want to spend days or weeks talking to someone only to meet them in person and they're a seventy year old man or, more likely, you just don't gel with them?
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