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Discretion and Valor- Mutually Exclusive?
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Discretion and Valor- Mutually Exclusive? Writers write. Runners run. Both of these are some of the simplest of truths. If the rest of life were this way, the game would be oh so much simpler. Unfortunately, it's not. I mean really, think about it- that would mean having to basically reconstruct the whole of our language. That guy that cut you off on the freeway just may OR may NOT be a motherfucker- you have no idea of he's fucking someone's mom. Come to think of it, in today's society, it's almost as likely he's fucking someone's dad and just not telling. Speaking of "not telling", would anyone mind sharing with me the definition of discreet here on FriendFinder-x? How many times do people put on their profiles "Seeking discreet encounters" only to turn around and have recommendations posted for everyone to see? That doesn't seem very discreet to me. Perhaps there's an asterisk somewhere that I missed. That's not all though. Take the profile that has discreet encounters listed, but when you read the entire profile, as we are so often told to do, you find that what the person wants isn't a discreet encounter at all but a full blown relationship! WTF??? I'm not advocating for the ever-popular insta-fuck, but let's be real here. Be brave and mean what you say and say what you mean. It should go without saying that your sex life is your personal business and as such doesn't necessarily belong to the forum of public opinion (unless of course, your name is Brangelina, Britney Spears, or Paris Hilton for some odd reason). It should go without saying that we're all adults here *chuckles* (well, most of us) and a little common sense and dare I say this- decency would go a long way. I'm afraid that the reality of so much "discretion" is that people are like big bad assed . We want our cake and we want to eat it too (Of course we do! Why else have cake in the first damn place???? It doesn't DO anything entertaining like turn cartwheels or do somersaults. It's just cake!). The bottom line is simple- in many cases discretion is the denying of the parts of ourselves that we're afraid of for whatever reason. Be brave. People, stop using the discreet thing to cover up the fact that you're in a relationship where your partner doesn't want you off playing around with other people (if in fact they even know you're considering it in the first place). Be brave enough to face yourself in the mirror and own up to you whole self- both the good and the other-than-good qualities about yourself. I understand that discretion has its place and its value. Many AFFers would be in dire straights professionally if everything about them came out in the open in their particular field of expertise and trust me, I'm not talking about them. I'm speaking to the rest of us. Can we really be brave discreetly? |
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exactly. if your so afraid of being on the site or getting 'caught', why did you join? and i'm not saying go off and parade the info to co-workers and strangers on the bus because they may frown at you. so THAT makes you ashamed? grow a pair and hold on to them and get over it. those are the same ppl who say they're tired of fake ppl but you're not really being yourself then are you. fakers.
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11/24/2009 6:00 am |
Bravo!!! I totally agree, which is why I don't do discreet affairs in the first place. If the cheater is going to cheat then let it be in the open not in secret. Let them have enough balls to tell the wife either you be a woman and give it up in the bedroom or I will go else where, which do you want out of me? Then, the marraige would be all the better or worse but it would be honest and hurt so much less. Both parties would respect each other for the honesty and who knows she might just jump right in with a threesome to help out with the sex life or start to give more sex to relieve the pressure. Just communicate with each other before the cheating, don't make someone your scape goat for your marraige problems.
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Well....there are different levels of requested "discretion"... Married or attached...not wanting the other to find out... Living with children...not wanting hookups to be obvious or names mentioned Not wanting extended family or coworkers to know... Sometimes all it means, it just keeping things that happen between the two people it happens with It is not all about affairs, just the concern for some privacy in personal matters of 2 consenting adults...the rest is NOBODY elses business.... JUDGE NOT LEST YE BE JUDGED...lol... Work to live: live for others :love passionately: love urself
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Be cool and keep it all on the down low, play the game, but do not put too much out on the street or you will get burnt.
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