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guys + the dark + the first time.
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guys + the dark + the first time. |
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MY preference is BRIGHT lights becuase I LOVE how women look naked but I also wish I looked like George Clooney as well. Therefore being somewhat sensitive to a womans wishes I go for a more romantic tone with scented candles or dimmed lights and soft music on the first time. Of course sometimes the "first" is just moment that takes over and it's hot sex with all the lights on and it's just really hot. Most guys actually, myself included, either rightly or wrongly so think they look good naked...lol. Your "guy" seems either to be hiding something or just trying too hard to impress.
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12/8/2009 2:14 pm |
He may not be thinking anything at all. It could just be a Pavlovian response - sex=dark. Now if you ask him to turn the lights back on, or to give you some kind of dim light and he refuses, then there's definitely something there, but I'm not sure he's trying to hide anything. Don't forget to recycle, and don't forget to recycle. [post 2491554] [post 2487264]
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Candle light is good regardless. ~  ~
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I thought all of the above was a possible answer. I sure would need some lights with some of the things I am have seen here.
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12/14/2009 6:37 pm |
I think a lot is the guy thinking that it'll be more comfortable with the lights off. I find it a lot more intimate when the lights are on so if it's a one night stand kind of thing, lights off helps keep it more mysterious
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1/20/2010 1:19 am |
I think some men may be insecure about there bodies. I'm a lights on kinda guy. I love to take in the female form in all it's naked glory, and I feel comfortable enough in my own skin to get naked. I have been with quiet a few women that do not like that I want the lights on because they are insecure on how they look naked. I think this is probably the case with the guy you speak of.
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You have got to be careful of that one! Definitely an inspection of the goods before a test drive is necessary because something is being hidden. Besides being an absolute mood killer, guys are highly stimulated visually so what's the purpose for killing the view? I say keep the lights dimmed and set up the mirrors!
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Very suspicious indeed. it is either: ** trying to hide the fact that he doesn't quite look like his "recent" uploaded pictures? ** ** trying to prevent any pre-coitus inspection of his genitalia of STD-related lesions? ** I choose the first but it could well be the second... I probably would have asked to turn some lights on or get the f*#@ out.
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Maybe he's just a little insecure. But fully dark sounds extreme. I think you're right to be suspicious. You have to be safe! Personally, I like having the lights on (not too bright). I love appreciating a woman's body, both physically and visually.
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9/6/2010 10:52 pm |
Wow... really? Eye candy is what it's all about!  Not seeing expressions and body language is almost like not having sex at all...I wouldn't trust him...he's not a real dude...or is hiding something... Hey, I like your profile btw 
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happy to leave all lights on or dim down.... but for first time would enjoy few candles to get you in the mood hit me up i'll bring candles and body oil for a full body message both external and internal since i am long and thick YIm if you like whiteknight9569
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I voted other because the guy is probably afraid to be seen, afraid to be judged, afraid he will react poorly to the woman, feels guilty about having sex, and is a fool. I will meet a woman next week. Our hotel room is overlooking a bay. We might be way up high. When it turns to night I hope she will want to turn off the lights in the room and open the drapes so we make love in the light from the stars. Before then, we will have undressed one another in full light. Maybe showered. Had sex in full light. Played with one another's bodies in full light. Of course, I first started having sex in the afternoon, so I have always associated full light and visibility with good sex. But, as per my first paragraph, I think romantic lighting is a big deal too. I feel a growing hunger. For now, my only outlet is words.
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Personally, I like the lights completely off, ceiling fan on to move the cool air around (mutual sweating is gross), and a few scented candles in the room to light it up. Really, how sensual is it with a room lit up with 100w bulbs? Add the flickering of a few candles and nothings being hid. Something extra hot with candles! ~Lotsa
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