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Blogs > im_soaking_wet > Sessions with Soaking

To Date or not to Date  

im_soaking_wet 40F
4267 posts
5/13/2014 12:24 pm
To Date or not to Date
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hiddenmythology 44M
9643 posts
5/13/2014 12:50 pm

 I have to second what Bonerdonor said. Make sure you grieve your mother properly. At the same time however, a strong bond and connection can be made through something like that, and to automatically dismiss it might be a big mistake.
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im_soaking_wet replies on 5/13/2014 1:01 pm:
True, my worry is whether it would cause more harm than good tho

CamCowboy 63M  
292 posts
5/13/2014 1:47 pm

 I'm going to be the voice speaking from your other shoulder... that was totally the wrong situation to have popped the date question. If he'd asked for your number or email to call in a week, that would have been more appropriate for the circumstances.


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/13/2014 1:56 pm:
I agree entirely. In fact, in my head I wondered if this was his "thing" or if this was his game. That he picked up women that he encountered at work. So far, it all seems straight up. But, I agree on there where/when factor. Not appropriate.

T_D_H_1982 41M

5/13/2014 2:01 pm

 I think that was a reasonable response on your part - not a flat-out no, but "give me some time." Especially since your mother had just passed away.

Still, sometimes something bad can bring two good people together. You never know...


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/13/2014 2:10 pm:
I'm actually quite a bitch. I normally would have told him to fuck off. But, there was a sense of indebtedness that I'm also uncomfortable with. That sense has subsided, but it was there at the time. Hence my polite request for some time. But, you are right. You never quite know, do you? I mean other than the interwebz, where do you actually meet somewhat normal people eh? lol

DoctorBooty 43M
6426 posts
5/13/2014 4:52 pm

 Well, not the place or the time I'd have asked any girl out. Seems improper to me, like he's taking advantage of the situation, I don't know. I wouldn't have told a girl off if she asked me out at my mother's funeral, but I too would not have given an answer.

Then again I could see it from his side, he likes you, he has no reason to see you ever again, its not like you'll walk in to his office. So he tried, and if he's a nice guy, there probably wasn't a strong ulterior motive to take advantage of the situation. He just picked the wrong time.

Would I go out with my mother's doctor in this situation? Probably not, unless I already had a strong attraction beforehand. He'll always make you think of her or her illness, which may be good or bad for you.

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im_soaking_wet replies on 5/13/2014 5:57 pm:
There wasn't a "holy shit I wanna marry you!!!!" attraction on my part. There was certainly an admiration for the way he handled himself professionally, which to me is huge. And you are right, there is not reason for me to have seen him after the service, so I can kinda see why he asked there. I still don't feel it was appropriate, but I can understand it.

And your last point... is precisely mine. Do I want to associate a relationship with my beautiful mom? ....

Magnumpack 47M
60 posts
5/13/2014 4:55 pm

 Just an idea from an outsider, go out and see how you connect. Perhaps it will turn into a friendship or more and in 20 years you can look back and realize that it was a sign and with one large loss in your life, another connection was made.


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/13/2014 5:58 pm:
We went out. I agreed and we had a lovely time. He was utterly gutted when I said I was leaving town this week and has been keeping in touch thru the day.... which is good....

myelin36 53F
3612 posts
5/13/2014 6:46 pm

 I'm going to play the devil's advocate here. I'm sure you are a great catch. But, that being said, being a professional working in the medical field, I have to object to this doctor's ethics. Have I been attracted to my patients or relatives of my patients? Yes, of course! Being in a position of authority and trust, I hold myself to a high ethical standard that I will not compromise my license for. This doctor took advantage of your vulnerability. In some jurisdictions, this type of behavior can be reportable and jeopardize licenses. My advice? Not worth it.
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im_soaking_wet replies on 5/13/2014 7:01 pm:
Very valid points. I discussed it with a colleague here that's in the same field and apparently if the person isn't the patient, its a go. Albeit the ethical side of it could be considered irresponsible.

khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
5/13/2014 8:46 pm

 To put it bluntly, yes you are being fucking stupid!

There is a old saying... when a door closes a window opens That applies here. If you have some attraction to this man, then you have some attraction to this man, what more do you need.
Find pleasure in giving pleasure


im_soaking_wet replies on 5/13/2014 8:57 pm:
lol blunt. I like your style!

kspoon2 64M
52 posts
5/14/2014 12:17 am

 Soaking when donna was ill with cancer a nurse became very good friends with both of us and there was a attraction ,without me knowing donna asked her to keep in touch with me ,we went for coffee many times but I could not get passed how we met , we are still good friends but I could not take things further not sure if it was to soon or what . your situation is different but the mind does associate things in weird ways . hope all is good with you Kerry


hunterpt 62M
13507 posts
11/17/2015 2:57 am

 Depends how you feel about it, it´s your call. Kisses


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