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Kink on a budget Over the past several months, we have developed a taste for flavors beyond vanilla. We have experimented with some bondage, BDSM, good clean fun like that. One of the major factors which had previously prevented from exploring this side of our sexual beings was, frankly, the cost. This is not meant to be figurative; "the lifestyle cost us this friendship," or "it cost us our marriage." That's not it at all. I (Mr. l_and_k) will happily admit that I am frugal. Stingy. I'm a cheap prick. For years, my mindset was if I want to experiment with bondage, I must venture into the local adult novelty store and purchase the latest in restraints, leather and<b> vinyl </font></b>wear, blindfolds, etc, etc. Although this aspect of sexuality has always interested me, I had never really been exposed to it beyond the occasional sex trade show, where I found the prices to be quite prohibitive (remember, I'm a cheap prick). There have been times during our relationship when I have complained to my lovely spouse, "Hell, I could make that for cheaper than what they're selling it for!" Finally, the brilliant woman that she is, she challenged me to put up or shut up. So, I accepted the challenge and we have been oversexed and underrested for the past several weeks. Here are some of the items I have created, or acquired from unconventional sources, and oh how they are providing us with endless hours of pleasure! 1. Flogs. I'm not going to lecture about leaving this to trained professionals. If you have ever had the pleasure of watching a flogging, or receiving one, you'll know how much skill and talent it takes to deliver one properly. I do not claim to have this talent, I'm not a seasoned veteran with years of experience and training, but I do okay. If you are at all uncertain about how to deliver a satisfying flogging, do yourself a favor, don't do it. A poorly delivered flogging can be extremely painful and can turn someone off of it forever. If you decide that you want to develop that skillset, take your time and save your money. I have seen flogs priced anywhere from 49.99 for ones that look like they would break upon first use, to ones that are $200+ each, and much higher. Right now, I have four home made flogs, two with rope falls, one with synthetic leather, and one with leather. As mentioned, all are homemade. The total monies spent on the materials for these flogs; about $150. That may not seem like a tremendous saving until you consider this; I still have enough material to construct, consertively, 15 to 20 more flogs without additional purchase of raw materials. Wooden dowels (for handles) are fairly cheap when bought in 3 foot lengths from the lumber yard. Soft nylon rope, 100 feet for under $10 from a department store. Hockey tape for the handles, excess stereo wire if you want that added handle grip, all combined means I can knock off a rope flog for probably $10 each, if that much. A rope flog may not look as sexy as a hand woven leather one, but it is the one the mrs always begs for. The other flogs? A 6 inch wooden dowel, a car shammy and wood glue, 12 bucks and the mrs is screaming for more. The leather one? A leather welding jacket, brand new, cut up, glued to a dowel and an afternoon of construction and the mrs can't stop raving about how much she enjoys the "thud" of it. 2. Other "striking" devices. This one even surprised me. I wanted to surprise the mrs with a riding crop. Every adult novelty shop I went to turned me off with their prices. $50 or more for something that would probably break on the second or third strike. Solution: pet store specializing in saddlery and tack supplies. They have a variety of sizes, shapes, colors, designs, it almost staggers the imagination. Plus, if these crops are strong and durable enough to be used on horses, they will more than last on your lovely partner/sub. We currently have two crops, total cost, $14.90 plus tax. At the same store, I found what appears to be a couple of leather pieces, tear drop shaped, perhaps pertaining to a saddle in some way (I was raised in the city, I don't know the first thing about horses or saddles!). Leaving the twist tie which held them together on them, it forms a neat little paddle, about 3 inches wide and 8 inches long. She loves it. Cost; $2.95 plus tax. The last striking item we have was an ornamental fan rake, made out of bamboo, held together with some small gauge wire. I cut the ends off the rake and smoothed them out with some sand paper. I then used the wire to group and hold the cut pieces against the bamboo handle. Voila, instant bamboo cane. This offers a bit more sting, but she says it's worth it. Cost; $1.00 from the Dollar store. 3. Restraints. Novelty handcuffs are crap. They pull apart at the drop of a hat. The cutesy ones from the adult novelty stores are either flimsy looking (novelty ones with faux fur glued to it) or very expensive (leather). A couple solutions here. First, if you want the look and feel of real handcuffs, get real handcuffs. There are more than a couple retailers online who will sell police department quality handcuffs, reasonably priced. I got mine for a Halloween costume from a supply house in the States. Two pairs, $4.95 each, plus shipping and handling, so about 20 bucks total. And yes, they're real. If you're not interested in the wrist bruising or potential cuts from real cuffs, the padded variety is the way to go. I got ours from the same saddle and tack shop where the riding crops were purchased (I'm starting to think that cowboys are some kinky motherfuckers). Our ankle restraints are cloth, padded inside, thick buckle construction, $9.95 each. They had the same in leather for $18 each. We also picked up wrist restraints, already linked together, for just over $20. I created an under mattress restraint system with quick release mechanisms and superior construction as to not fail under the most trying conditions. The materials used? Dollar store leashes. Tie the handles together and pull the clasp portion over top the mattress to connect to the wrist and ankle restraints. Cost, $2.00 each for 6 foot long leashes, I picked up an extra one to under mattress link the upper and lower restraints, $10 plus tax. Total cost for restraint system; $50 plus tax. I have found very similar set ups, with far inferior quality restraints and cuffs, for $159.95 plus shipping and taxes. I wish I was making that up. You can do even cheaper than that too: if you have a bed with suitable head and foot boards, go to a department store (or second hand store) and buy some new or gently used silk sheets. We picked ours up for a toga party and sacraficed them into strips, two for wrists, two for ankles, one for a blindfold, one for a gag. Total cost for this restraint system; $4.95. The long and the short of it is if you want to delve into the bondage or BDSM side of your sexual being, it does not need cost you an arm and a leg to get your freak on. It still surprises me that the simplest of items (a back scratcher, dollar store pom-poms or lambs hair duster) offer tremendous sensations at a ridiculously low cost. If you are willing to open your mind to this aspect of the lifestyle, make sure to keep your eyes open to a variety of affordable, every day items which will do nothing but enhance the experience for you and your partner(s). If you have anything you'd like to share on this subject, we'd love to hear from you and perhaps experiment with it ourselves! Maybe next time I make a flog, I'll blog pictures about it to show how easy it really is... Have fun! |
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P and I have spent quite a bit on toys, but we did do some shopping around. We found an under-the-bed restraint system with Velcro straps for about $35, and a nice flogger for $15. I do have some leather pieces that I would like to use to make my own flogger, though. Someone else on here posted a picture of one they made themselves, and it intrigued me. There are some toys (vibrators, strapons, glass dildos, etc.) that I wouldn't try to make on my own, though. [post 3097853] Come join the half-nekkid fun! Check out HNW Bloggers.  
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Awesome read!!! And yes, MANY regular items in stores catch my eye as I pervert their use even before I buy them, HEHE  The main thing, go online, read, use your imagination, do things safely and HAVE FUN!!!
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