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How I Want To Be Remembered  

sexyldy1000 68F  
10180 posts
1/21/2021 1:28 pm
How I Want To Be Remembered



I am not going t.o list challenges I have faced and continue t.o handle in my life. That is not my way of coping with things. I am also not one who waves a flag t.o draw attention t.o myself in an attempt t.o garner empathy or support. Besides, no one wants t.o hear about my "stuff". Others have their own challenges and issues they are dealing with.

However, I will say that I have found strength that I never imagined I would need. I have faced every challenge and never whined about it with a “why m.e?”attitude. I hope that is how others view m.e and how I want t.o be remembered. Yes, there are other attributes such as altruistic, compassionate dependable and intelligent but ones listed above are are key.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/21/2021 1:33 pm

How do you want to be remembered?


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 posts
1/21/2021 3:34 pm

That's a great way to be remembered, and for me just like you I want to be remembered as a strong lady that survived everything I have been through. I hope you enjoy your evening..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


p1947q 77M  
140 posts
1/21/2021 5:09 pm

I used to be a strong, silent type. I dealt with my “stuff” my way. For the most part I did well. But one day I learned that there are people in this world who care. They care enough to listen when I open myself up, shared my “stuff”, become vulnerable. These friends have come to know me well – they know when I need a hug but they also know when I need my ass kicked and they are more than to do which ever I need. I have learned from these friends the value of sharing my “stuff”, I’ve also learned the value of listening to other’s “stuff”. I have learned that sometimes all I have to do is listen – I don’t have to say or do anything else. Sometimes I may be able to share how I dealt with a similar situation and provide some hope for them. To help them grow in life as I have been helped to grow in my life. I want to be remembered because one time I did or said something that helped someone work through their “stuff”.


MrRareity 64M  
4589 posts
1/21/2021 5:54 pm

I never saw you as a why me woman. We all have our way of coping with things. When I need to vent I talk to my friends. I will bitch when there is something wrong with me and the doctors can't tell me what's going on. The only reason for that is because if something is wrong then I want to know why.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
1/21/2021 6:39 pm

I haven't given it much thought. In fact, my wishes are irrelevant as anyone who knows me - or thinks they do - has already made up their mind.
I don't care how they remember me - it's their opinion. I'll do my best to make sure that those I love and those who love me, have the right impression.
Anyone else? I don't give a fuck. It's whatever it is.


lok4fun500 M
51906 posts
1/21/2021 7:22 pm

I haven't thought about it but I think I'll be remembered for my kindness and generosity and compassion toward others!


justaguyinalaska 57M
879 posts
1/22/2021 12:55 am

"Nevertheless, she persisted."
On the very short list of intelligent statements ever uttered by Mitch McConnell


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/22/2021 11:37 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    That's a great way to be remembered, and for me just like you I want to be remembered as a strong lady that survived everything I have been through. I hope you enjoy your evening..
We do have that wish in common. Hope you have a great weekend!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/22/2021 11:38 am

    Quoting p1947q:
    I used to be a strong, silent type. I dealt with my “stuff” my way. For the most part I did well. But one day I learned that there are people in this world who care. They care enough to listen when I open myself up, shared my “stuff”, become vulnerable. These friends have come to know me well – they know when I need a hug but they also know when I need my ass kicked and they are more than to do which ever I need. I have learned from these friends the value of sharing my “stuff”, I’ve also learned the value of listening to other’s “stuff”. I have learned that sometimes all I have to do is listen – I don’t have to say or do anything else. Sometimes I may be able to share how I dealt with a similar situation and provide some hope for them. To help them grow in life as I have been helped to grow in my life. I want to be remembered because one time I did or said something that helped someone work through their “stuff”.
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your sincere and honest approach to sharing your "stuff" with others. Keep well and keep safe!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/22/2021 11:40 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    I never saw you as a why me woman. We all have our way of coping with things. When I need to vent I talk to my friends. I will bitch when there is something wrong with me and the doctors can't tell me what's going on. The only reason for that is because if something is wrong then I want to know why.
Thank you for that validation. I do have a very close friend whom I have known for over 25 years who I can bounce things off of. On this site, I tend to keep things more guarded. Hope you have a safe and happy weekend.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/22/2021 11:43 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I haven't given it much thought. In fact, my wishes are irrelevant as anyone who knows me - or thinks they do - has already made up their mind.
    I don't care how they remember me - it's their opinion. I'll do my best to make sure that those I love and those who love me, have the right impression.
    Anyone else? I don't give a fuck. It's whatever it is.
Everyone has to make peace with themselves in how they do or do not want to be remembered.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/22/2021 11:44 am

    Quoting lok4fun500:
    I haven't thought about it but I think I'll be remembered for my kindness and generosity and compassion toward others!
Those are wonderful attributes to be remembered for. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/22/2021 11:46 am

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    "Nevertheless, she persisted."
    On the very short list of intelligent statements ever uttered by Mitch McConnell
I hadn't heard that one. I like it a lot. Short, simple and easy to remember!


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/22/2021 11:47 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective. Have a happy and safe weekend!


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
1/23/2021 3:14 pm

'At peace with themselves'? 🤔
If THAT was the goal, I should have done a better job of it from day one; a MUCH better job.

At this point, peace is irrelevant and, unless I change into a saint, leave a beloved book, or donate a million bucks to a charity, others will be left with unalterable impressions of whoever I was or am.

Growing old and realizing time has escaped you leaves many people with regrets. I'll be playing cards with the devil, and since I don't have any illusions about how He cheats, I imagine - I'll lose that game as well.

Like I said - 'fuck it.'

I should have thought about shit like that years ago. 'Piece,' for most of us, is a slice of cake with a lit candle, marking the years - as they drift by. And THEN, after realizing that cake is growing smaller, people start doing that 'Balance Sheet' addition shit, much too late.

The reality is - ordinary people aren't remembered for anything. They die, and after their friends and family die, no one remembers anyone.
We're doomed to be dust; any other illusion is just a wish we own - a hope for the best altruists.

So, ya got a book or movie or song or poem or something extraordinary to offer? 🤔
Otherwise, like the rest of the residents of this planet, when you go - with little deference to what you think you've left - dust and a bunch of minerals are what we leave.

And there's nothing wrong with that. This world needs more natural fertilizer.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
1/23/2021 3:37 pm

Or am I being too negative? 🤔

Life moves at the speed of a snail 🐌... and then, it fricken speeds up to where it overwhelms - and lays there, like an anchor ⚓.

It's a bitch when we see that anchor. How the fuck can anyone raise it?


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/24/2021 12:43 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    'At peace with themselves'? 🤔
    If THAT was the goal, I should have done a better job of it from day one; a MUCH better job.

    At this point, peace is irrelevant and, unless I change into a saint, leave a beloved book, or donate a million bucks to a charity, others will be left with unalterable impressions of whoever I was or am.

    Growing old and realizing time has escaped you leaves many people with regrets. I'll be playing cards with the devil, and since I don't have any illusions about how He cheats, I imagine - I'll lose that game as well.

    Like I said - 'fuck it.'

    I should have thought about shit like that years ago. 'Piece,' for most of us, is a slice of cake with a lit candle, marking the years - as they drift by. And THEN, after realizing that cake is growing smaller, people start doing that 'Balance Sheet' addition shit, much too late.

    The reality is - ordinary people aren't remembered for anything. They die, and after their friends and family die, no one remembers anyone.
    We're doomed to be dust; any other illusion is just a wish we own - a hope for the best altruists.

    So, ya got a book or movie or song or poem or something extraordinary to offer? 🤔
    Otherwise, like the rest of the residents of this planet, when you go - with little deference to what you think you've left - dust and a bunch of minerals are what we leave.

    And there's nothing wrong with that. This world needs more natural fertilizer.
Your perspective is different than mine. ‘Ordinary’ people often make a significant impact on others and are rewarded and remembered by those that matter to them.


p1947q 77M  
140 posts
1/26/2021 1:03 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Your perspective is different than mine. ‘Ordinary’ people often make a significant impact on others and are rewarded and remembered by those that matter to them.
I agree with you. If I may, I'd like to borrow a title from a Paul Overstreet song "Everybody is Somebody's Hero"


sexyldy1000 68F  
9607 posts
1/27/2021 9:27 pm

    Quoting p1947q:
    I agree with you. If I may, I'd like to borrow a title from a Paul Overstreet song "Everybody is Somebody's Hero"
Great song choice! Thank you for stopping by and sharing it.


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