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Challenge Yourself To Control How You Respond
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Challenge Yourself To Control How You Respond  How you react and recover from challenges and difficulties is a choice. Yesterday, I received shocking, unexpected news that no parent ever wants to hear. After gut-wrenching soul searching, trying to make sense of what happened, a good cry and a sleepless night, I got up this morning accepting I am not responsible for my 's choices. I always told them, once they step outside the front door, they decide what path they will take. My fervent wish was they would align with my beliefs. I also acknowledge there is nothing I could have done to change the news. Nor can I change the future. I can only find a way to deal with it. I have to. |
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[image] When you can't control what's happening, how do you react?
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I get my spirituality from my twelve step program and there is a sentence in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous that helps me a lot "Absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake". And I do know that I cannot control what happens but I can control my response. The eleventh step - "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve my conscious contact with God as I understand Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for me ant the power to carry that out". And your blogs over the past few days have me being very reflective - Thank You for that
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Yes it is a great power not always easy to tap into it, especially in the heat of the moment. I need to practice that power more. I hope whatever it is gets better soon.
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Though no parent myself, I can only imagine how difficult it is to see your children make choices you wouldn't make. But we need to also accept the choices we made when we were children that our parents didn't approve of! When you're not in control, it's best to acknowledge that situation. And just to be there!
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8/30/2021 2:35 pm |
Good luck and God Bless, Unfortunately there are those times when our world disappears into what seems to be no path to follow......... Hope this helps......
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I am so sorry to hear you got some shocking news yesterday. And your so right we can't control what our children do once they leave our homes. We can only hope they make the best choices and support them the best way we can. I hope things get better and I hope things work out with your children. And try to enjoy your evening and get some rest..  Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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8/30/2021 2:52 pm |
You cannot live life for your child; Once they are adults, they should lead their own lives. I had prostate cancer 19 years ago; my uncle had prostate cancer; therefore prostate cancer is in my family and my male sons, grandsons, great-grandsons, ... are susceptible to prostate cancer. My son now has prostate cancer. We discussed it and I advised having surgery as I did. He discussed it with his doctors and elected to have radiation treatments (they start next week). He is 50+ years of age and this was his decision. I was very proud of him when he informed that he had already discussed it with his son.
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I do not know what it was specifically but I understand and have been there. I agree with your assessment and hope everything works out especially for you. I hope you find peace and happiness as kids can and will break your heart lots of times. Warm Regards, Tom
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As a parent Of 4 girls, I have been very lucky. Life can be unexpected, one never knows just what is around the next turn, word or action. Thought are with you in this trying time. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I hope things turn out and resolve themselves for your children and you. Lack of control is a frustrating feeling. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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as you can see by all these responses,as parents we all ..get that..and feel ya..hang in there... woop woop
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One can do so much then it is in others hands and choices
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i try to look for the silver lining.....its not always readily revealed and sometimes you have to conjour it up. With all the losses i have had to manage, if i didnt....i wouldnt be here on earth. I wish you well ....on that journey ~~ Huggssss
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I guess in that situation you can only be there for them, I hope it can be resolved.
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I get my spirituality from my twelve step program and there is a sentence in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous that helps me a lot "Absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake". And I do know that I cannot control what happens but I can control my response. The eleventh step - "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve my conscious contact with God as I understand Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for me ant the power to carry that out". And your blogs over the past few days have me being very reflective - Thank You for that
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Yes it is a great power not always easy to tap into it, especially in the heat of the moment. I need to practice that power more. I hope whatever it is gets better soon.
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Though no parent myself, I can only imagine how difficult it is to see your children make choices you wouldn't make. But we need to also accept the choices we made when we were children that our parents didn't approve of! When you're not in control, it's best to acknowledge that situation. And just to be there! -yes that's exactly what I had to come to terms with.
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Good luck and God Bless, Unfortunately there are those times when our world disappears into what seems to be no path to follow......... Hope this helps......
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Your summation is accurate. The situation is one that I don't know if I will ever be able to talk to someone else about. My daughter and I are drawing strength from one another. Thank you for stopping by.
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I am so sorry to hear you got some shocking news yesterday. And your so right we can't control what our children do once they leave our homes. We can only hope they make the best choices and support them the best way we can. I hope things get better and I hope things work out with your children. And try to enjoy your evening and get some rest..
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You cannot live life for your child; Once they are adults, they should lead their own lives. I had prostate cancer 19 years ago; my uncle had prostate cancer; therefore prostate cancer is in my family and my male sons, grandsons, great-grandsons, ... are susceptible to prostate cancer. My son now has prostate cancer. We discussed it and I advised having surgery as I did. He discussed it with his doctors and elected to have radiation treatments (they start next week). He is 50+ years of age and this was his decision. I was very proud of him when he informed that he had already discussed it with his son. - I agree, My son has been out of the house since he was 19 yrs old and lives over 2,000 miles away. However, the bond is unbreakable. -Thank you for sharing your story and I wish the best for your son during his treatment.
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I do not know what it was specifically but I understand and have been there. I agree with your assessment and hope everything works out especially for you. I hope you find peace and happiness as kids can and will break your heart lots of times. Warm Regards, Tom
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As a parent Of 4 girls, I have been very lucky. Life can be unexpected, one never knows just what is around the next turn, word or action. Thought are with you in this trying time.
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I hope things turn out and resolve themselves for your children and you. Lack of control is a frustrating feeling.
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as you can see by all these responses,as parents we all ..get that..and feel ya..hang in there...
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