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Blogs > thegrlsnme > Thoughts from a late bloomer

I can compartmentalize  

thegrlsnme 67F
2769 posts
1/19/2015 9:49 am
I can compartmentalize

wow, I obviously have nothing to do today. I have been on line way too much, and I am blogging 2x in one day, Oh My.

Anyway, I go from one extreme (a long term attached relationship) to FWB. Pick yourself up. I have discovered while on that quest, many of you men don't think a woman, or should I say (I, Me, myself) can do FWB. I can, and have been for the passed almost 3 years. And guess what, the dude is married, yes he is. I know, I prefer unattached men. Well, this guy was honest up front, and it is what it is.

I enjoy the relationship, but it is too seldom for everything. I am not changing it however. Too seldom is because of the marriage part. He has texted me every morning and night since the first day. Both of us take the time to say good morning and good night. He calls when he can. we may talk once every 2 weeks. We text if we want to discuss something, but not daily, maybe 1 time a week. We have playtime when we can. The last time was christmas 2013. And, the sex might be 2x or 3x a year, again because of his constraints, but I know about them.

He also, knows about the men I see, and he does discuss questions I have about why a guy did something or another with me. Whenever we are in each others area, (he lives 3 hours away), we meet. it might be for lunch, he may stop by a sale and bring me lunch, he may stop by for a few minutes for chat, many kisses and hugs, he may stop by just to say hi.

It has been great, both of us know the game, but still enjoy each other without letting the heart get involved. With that being said, I know because of the last 3 years, I can FWB, because I have been doing it.

I just would like a FWB that is not attached, letting him come and go freely. I always say, if you are not interested in ltr, it doesn't matter, consider FWB, I can do it. I look at it this way, if you enjoy playtime with someone and they are fun, why not go with it and have fun. After all regular playtime with someone you enjoy is more fun for me one night of play.

This is just my point of view, I am sure many of you have other ideas of what would work for you.

I wish you luck in what you are searching for here....................thegrls{=}
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls
Owatalife 67M
1711 posts
1/19/2015 7:36 pm

 Very valid points and without a doubt a fwb with such an open
minded straightforward attractive woman such as yourself would
be ideal for me....geography can be such an annoying bitch sometimes.


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
1/19/2015 8:11 pm
    Quoting saw_guy:
    I've never had one, but I think that the FWB could work as long as both know the boundary's, and agree to them. It is what makes you both happy that counts. But, like I said, I'm a dumb ass on this.
I at first did not think I would like FWB, but I do, and I can do them. I have met a lot of men that don't want to take the time for a relationship, but they still want the sex, and they still like company when out. so, FWB is pretty cool. For both involved you can set boundaries and all that stuff. it may be sex and fun so many times a month, some, alot or very little texting and calling, whatever you both decide. I treat it as if the dude is attached, that way I have no feelings involved. Another thing I have found is you both set the rules up front and no one gets offended. But that is just my perspective on the subject.................thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


thegrlsnme 67F
1683 posts
1/19/2015 8:14 pm
    Quoting Owatalife:
    Very valid points and without a doubt a fwb with such an open
    minded straightforward attractive woman such as yourself would
    be ideal for me....geography can be such an annoying bitch sometimes.
I figure if you like the other person, enjoy spending time with them and the playtime is good, why not. Many people don't want to take time for a relationship, so fwb is a more sterile approach that does work. Both people set the boundaries and neither should be offended. Just enjoy.......thegrls
Enjoy the ride searching for what you want here..........thegrls


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