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Respecting the profile information  

married_male4U 60M  
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11/11/2013 4:23 pm
Respecting the profile information

Thought I would take some time to share ideas on how to be more FriendFinder-x friendly. Being a married male, late 40's playing alone, I have a narrow band of others that would be interested in me. I get it. But, I don't want to waste my time or others in pursuing a pointless conversation.

So I do searches for online matches, near me, using my cupid filter. If you are in the distance range, age range, and interested in meeting men, then you will come up in my search. So if you don't want to meet men only, then get that box unchecked from your profile. I am married, and playing discreetly - if you say you don't want to meet married men, I won't contact you. I try and search for "married" in a new profile to prevent this. Again just prevents wasted contacts.

I check the interests matches. If I am outside your age range, I won't contact. However, I haven't see how the relationship goal works right for me, so I tend to ignore that compatibility check. I do read the profiles and if you are looking for that soul mate, long term relationship, then that isn't for me, so I won't contact.

I like reading the Q&A sections, but many people don't take the time to fill them out. Take the time to do so to help out others who don't want to waste your time or their own by providing some in-sight.

I truly appreciate people who aren't willing to meet that say so in their profiles. I am looking for in person meetings, so if you aren't, it's great that you have FriendFinder-x to chat and view others online, but I want more than that. I am happy to answer others and chat, but I am looking for more - I respect you aren't.

Whatever position or interest you have, understand if you are or are not compatible with others. When I can't tell if being married is and issue - I not only have it in my user name, but start out with" can't tell if being married is an issue for you, so if it is, sorry for bothering..." or something like that.

PICs - My pics are for friend network only so I have some control on who sees them. Others have no pics, and many people have pics and videos and very entertaining ones. Whatever is there is choice and comfort. I will send pics to those that request require them - I just don't have mine there for public view for a reason.

If someone turns you down - let it go. Does it make any sense to write or message back some insulting words? I am sure that will change their mind and get them to meet/chat/cam with you if they politely said no already. Just be nice, and move on to the next profile that is of interest.

So just some thoughts on how to navigate the FriendFinder-x world, respecting what you read, and how to put information on your profile to help others be more respectful.

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