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Factors determining who will have sex with whom  

senecaguy2 63M
536 posts
11/19/2011 3:24 pm

Last Read:
11/29/2011 7:59 am

Factors determining who will have sex with whom


The basic premise of Ladder Theory is that all men gauge women on an I-would-have-sex-with-this woman/how-likely-is-she-to-have-sex-with-me scale.
Women apparently have two ladders:
• Potential sexual partners, and
• Platonic partners - those she would never have sex with.
Given that women are arguably a lot more more complex than men, then that figures..
Classification and ranking (for both sexes) is described as a 'Ladder' hence the name Ladder Theory.
Allegedly, the higher up on someone's ladder you are the more likely you are to get laid.
The following (basic) table sets out how men and women apparently make their initial mental assessment of each other.

ladder theory male/female assessment factors for women %
---How much money/power does he have 50%
---How attractive is he* 40%
---How much women say and don't mean (e.g., I prefer a man with a sense of humour, a sensitive man, etc) 10%

* Attractive (40 to women is broken down as follows:
• 50% - Physical Attraction
• 20% - Competition (is he someone else's, does he ignore me, I-want-what-I-can't-have, etc..)
• 20% - Novelty (women it appears lay some kudos on men being 'novel')
• 10% - Other (we can only guess..)

ladder theory male/female assessment factors for men %
---How attractive is she 60%
---How soon she will have sex with me 30%
---Other aspects 10%

men's ladders
Based on the above, a man will place a woman highest on his ladder if (he judges) she is willing to have sex with him and he finds her attractive.
It could be said that most men and women would not find that statement ground-breaking.
Men apparently classify women as follows:
1. Top - (of course) is the woman he really/most fancies.
2. Next - the women who he would have sex with and admit to.
3. Last - those women he would have sex with but never admit to it (or be too drunk to remember who she was). Too much alcohol can as we know make even the most unattractive woman (and man) appear desirable.
As an aside it should be remembered that beauty is subjective, and (often) superficial, especially when applied to women (although some men also prefer not to be to seen without their make-up or other physical enhancements).
Men, as stated in the Ladder Theory, do not have a ladder for 'Platonic' females since the theory works on the premise that all men basically evaluate women as sexual objects.

women's ladders
Women as stated earlier have two ladders - Potential Sexual Partners and Platonic Partners.
The first problem here for men is that they often don't know which ladder they are on.
When they do get it wrong they can come to an 'abysmal' end.
Women place money/Power as a man's most attractive aspect.
This is borne out by how many 'not very attractive' powerful rich men have beautiful women companions. (If the cap fits..)

the abyss
This is common to the bottom of both sex's ladders.
Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enter the Abyss.
Especially if entering via a monumental fall from grace - and if you are a man!

BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
11/19/2011 4:54 pm

I was writing out a cogent response and then I realized, "wait, this theory is bull hockey coined by some undergrad. what the hell am I doing." You seem like a guy who is smart enough and matures enough that you recognize this for the bullshit it is.

And for the record, I don't know any woman who sounds like this. Some girls, maybe, but no women.

Hope you having a great weekend


pacnwlover42 55M
9808 posts
11/20/2011 1:25 am

I think it was Harrison Ford as Han Solo that once said, "Never give me the odds!"

Funny women are incredibly sexy!


senecaguy2 63M
339 posts
11/20/2011 3:39 pm

Not such a bullshit story. A recent survey by a firm out of Connecticut found that women in their 20s who were marrying for money set their sights on $2.5 million from their partner. Women in their 30s were most likely (74 to marry for money. On the average, men said they would settle for a sugar mama with just $1.1 million. In another study I read, it said that women marrying for the second time generally will marry for money (they married for love the first time around—and obviously that did not work well for them). Men, on the other hand married for love the second time around (they married for physical attraction the first time around, and that did not work out.) Not that any of this means anything. Just interesting, if you are into strange and interesting facts.


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