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Open Relationships....
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Open Relationships.... I hear women asking for future Husbands in their profiles on this site all the time. They make promises of undying love to someone they've never met yet, and worse! Then they go on to say they are looking for their other half to complete themselves! They jabber on about 50/50 relationships, and family, and finally they want the whirlwind romance of lover's bound for ever more! Aside from the fact that these people need to go to a different kind of site....I just think that their whole relationship concept stinks! But that's just me, it takes all kinds to make the world go around. I prefer an OPEN relationship where it's based on 100/100 instead of just 50/50! These people that think they require another "half" to feel complete are walking disasters! They should bring themselves into a relationship as a 100% whole person, and not expect to be reduced to just one half of a person! I see the personality aspects of a person similar to pins in a round-ball cushion, sticking out in all different directions. When you slide two of these archetypes up against each other and some pins make contact, others don't. The ones that make contact are the similarities in their collective personalities and also shared experiences in life. The rest for most people become expendable and get sacrificed or worse, warped and bent into touching where they once would never have made an easy contact. The idea is that these two people are attempting to be everything for each other, as opposed to allowing each other to develop other relationships with people of similar character aspects within that personality precept. Developing healthy friendships outside the "couple front" relationship is to develop the individual person to grow in areas not confined to or in association with the "couple Front". In an open relationship individuals are allowed, even encouraged to seek out and promote other relationships that are difficult or impossible to cultivate within the primary relationship. Instead of cutting off the developmental process in each person as a necessary sacrifice on the alter of love, the individuals are experiencing unprecedented personal growth which adds to the Gestalt of the whole, as opposed to the sectioning off of personality aspects and characteristics to make the couple fit an undersized mold designed for less then two people. The "Closed relationship" incorporates jealousy, selfishness, static trust, and a type of placebo communication that under-cuts and erodes even the best of relationships...A detailed analysis of each of these destructive traits is beyond the scope of this article, and would add chapters of diatribe to an already lengthy work. Yet they need to be spoken aloud if only to try and shed some light on a dark subject, the closed relationship. In order to truly understand any open relationship quality it sometimes requires us to delve into what makes aspects of a closed relationship closed, so we can explore the aspects of what it takes to create an open, vibrant, expanding, growth oriented relationship. Something I find seriously lacking in many of these women's profiles as they fish for their "other half" in a pond full of Swingers...go figure!. So much can be said here, I can go in so many directions with this, and I find it somewhat hard to focus on any one path as my mind jumps around between broaching the evils of "Jealousy", to the well traveled road of "Utilitarianism" in marriages today. Sometimes I think it would be easier to just give everyone a Xanex and have them call me in the morning! But it just isn't that simple! Alas....I'm running out of steam and will have to finish this piece another day, fare well to all those poor women seeking their shining prince, may the heavens not fall too hard on their simple heads whilst they stand in the rain soaking wet with the disdain of their lives. Chuck, aka Hungsolid69  |
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