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What You Desire and What You Require
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What You Desire and What You Require  This seemingly gratuitous pic actually 'ties' into my post, and not just because of that FANTASTIC play on words  .Hey- eyes down here, now! 'Back' to the subject at hand (somebody stop me!)... How many of you see the world in black and white? It's a bit hard to do on a site like this, isn't it? Many of us are here because we are lacking something in our lives, whether it's passion, sex, intimacy, a connection, or maybe it's just knowing that you aren't alone in your preference to be tied down and smacked like the dirty, dirty slut you are. I'm not judging, after all I'm here, too  .But when you started on this site, I'm sure you had an idea of what you were looking for when it came to finding a partner... We have our non-negotiables: a pulse, physical proximity, marital status, non-smoker, over 6ft tall, physically fit, with a 9 inch cock. No drugs, no diseases, no cats (I'm allergic). He will love walks on the beach and romantic picnic dinners in front of the fireplace. He has to appreciate museums, fine wine and rare steaks. A Packer fan, no Bears or Vikings allowed. He must be educated and have a good-paying job. Then we have the shit we could not care less about: , hobbies, taste in music/cars/books/movies, stance on the latex vs<b>. spandex </font></b>debate, whether he has traveled North or South of the Mason/Dixon line, childhood illnesses, overdue library books...you see where I'm going with this. So with our parameters in hand and a pic or two to show off the goods, we proceed to wade into the murky depths of the cesspool, hoping to uncover a diamond in the mire. And we wait. We send e-mails and flirts to people we think fit the bill. We perv profiles. We read blogs. And the only messages we get are from demented, pre-pubescent idiots who can't afford a free spell-check. Time to re-evaluate what we are looking for. And now we witness the metamorphosis... The "non-negotiables" turn into "tolerable vs. intolerable": A pulse? 70-90 bpm is asking too much. Physical proximity (add 30 miles in each direction), marital status ('separated' now equals 'divorced' ), non-smoker (or maybe only when he's drinking), over 6ft tall (I just won't wear heels), physically fit (beer guts are sexy), with a 9 inch cock (that's just over-reaching on my part, I have a shallow cervix anyway). No drugs, no diseases, no cats (as long as they aren't present when I'm around, I can live with them). He will love walks on the beach and romantic picnic dinners in front of the fireplace (I'd take a burger as long as we dine-in). He has to appreciate museums, fine wine and rare steaks (the Hall of Beers, seedless grapes and deli bologna count). A Packer fan, no Bears or Vikings allowed (ain't budging on this one). He must be educated and have a good-paying job (the world needs ditch-diggers too. He doesn't need a PhD to make me cum). And back into the cesspool we go... We continue to re-evaluate and recalibrate our expectations out of frustration and desperation. Pretty soon, that married Vikings fan with a heart murmur and a penchant for crack whores starts looking pretty good, huh? Luckily, I haven't had to resort to any of that (yet). But what about you? Go back to where you started, Dear Readers. Tell me what you thought you wanted- what you THOUGHT was set-in-stone. Has it changed? Have YOU changed to accomodate someone else's 'non-negotiable' requirement? Have you met someone who makes you rethink everything you previously believed you wanted? Where is your line in the sand? P.S. I hate to detract from the topic at hand, but this is some funny stuff: All organic and natural grown Advice today. Damn, Spideyj72...you made my day  .When it comes to sex, I need a STRONG connection. Otherwise, the page just keeps buffering and takes FOREVER to load... |
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this was highly entertaining thank you gottaring!
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gottaring replies on 12/20/2011 3:24 pm: ~~~~I like it here for the most part. I have garnered some truly wonderful friends/people; and of those very few close to heart. I ask not much; to be respected. I give as good as I get. I expect as much from myself as I do another. I alow myself the freedom to be creative. I share and tap the opportunities to delve into my own psyche and put it down. This is a great manifesto or mission statement for a blog and for a blog writer. You ask, you give, you expect, you allow and you SHARE. Put all of that together and you can't go wrong as an individual, whether on e blogs or in the real world. Thank you for adding to the discussion and for allowing me the chance to get to know you . Happy Holidays! Quite welcome--and thank you for letting me stop in on occasion to hang my hat, er panties. Oh shit, I haven't yet been nekkid in here. LOL... In the short time I have been coming by--I find your posts sincere and very thought provoking. And that is how it should be.
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gottaring replies on 12/19/2011 9:15 pm: Phew! When you commented and didnt say anything, you had me worried that I lost my touch! Never, dear lady. You will always spark me up. Huggy-kissy.
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I joined this site with one general thing in mind. To fuck. I was only concerned with the physical and to hell with the mental. After a year of bumping beauties I found that it was so much more enjoyable with the mental included. My physical standards are still the same. I'm kind of up in the air as to whether I'll find what I need here on this site. I can tell you that I'm still having a blast. "For a woman there is nothing more erotic than being understood." ~ Molly Haskell Read about Me Being Naughty o-o
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I first signed up here after I discovered my ex hub's profile and chats.Hehehee I even printedthem out then and sticked into his...wellBut,before sticking I had a total blind date with him,and when he hit the bar we were about the meet the very first time I was having a very very(some says bery bery lol)passionate kissing scene with gorgeous redhead Nicole. I am still laughing bad today that he got so upset and left the bar in a two seconds although I invited him to join us.After the divorce, I deleted that profile and signed up as I am now.Till today he is keep messaging me time to time here not knowing it is me,and I am completely ignoring.What a loser.Why I am here? I already have enough trouble lol and FWB in my life that I can barely handle,so I am here simply for fun. Oh yes,had some one night stands out of this site and some were fun some not,so keep tickling me.But I know what I want,as it says on my profile and that shit is still up to dated.
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12/20/2011 3:53 pm |
"Pretty soon, that married Vikings fan with a heart murmur and a penchant for crack whores starts looking pretty good, huh? Luckily, I haven't had to resort to any of that (yet)". I laughed so hard that the wine I was drinking took a nose exit....OUCH!!!!....but it was worth the laugh. Oh...and BTW....love the GB hat....have one just like that....that I received from a friend after a 4th quarter GB loss to the Vikes...back in the Favre years. The sex was great after the game...after my butt thawed.!! As far as expectations...at least from this site....decency and literacy would be good for starters!!!
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Still awaiting her to show, so, no pulse yet. Standards, well, MUST have a natural (little to NO make-up) beautiful face, a curvey figure, wear HEELS, long hair, ........that's enough for now. Anyways, UFF DA, my Dear! LOVELY, just LOVELY!
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12/20/2011 1:08 pm |
Mighty suggestive bow tails young lady Hot pic!  "I reject your version of reality & substitute my own" Offended Yet? Sign Here: [post 2929227] I mean seriously, DO IT!! Have you ever tried Sloggin' it? Blogger Slogger The best of some of the Canucks I love: [blog CanadaWeek]
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12/20/2011 11:41 am |
I'm sitting here looking at that nice picture and I'll be darned if I just blanked out and forgot what I was going to say...... butt Nice picture! Mrs Claus is sure looking good this year! Nice one babe! Thank you for sharing. ...Don't Take It Serious - It's Only Humor... ....Hey guess what...I don't give a sh!t anymore....
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Please reread one of my earliest blogs: My Ideal Woman if you39re out there contact me ASAP. I wrote it half in jest. Can we truly have it ALL in a relationship?  It would seem that more than a few women want everything... Mr. Perfect. Is there such a man? Thoughts from the Garden...
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Nice picture...again!! Actually when I first came to this site my standards were wide open. I was only restrictive in the idea of discretion. I figured I should be discrete and wanted the same. But five years later (actually almost 6 now) my "vision" has narrowed ALOT. Not that I have had THAT many experiences, but I definately know which ones I don't want to revisit. Still very high on the discretion part and more interested in size and proposrtion than before. Age has completely gone out the window, though I prefer someone over 35 just because there is less drama there. I am ambivilent on hair color but am always very thrilled by red hair. Personality has also become an issue. I prefer a woman who can think and reason as opposed to not. Intelligent conversations also have become preffered. You are right when you say things change...but it surprises me that I have become more picky...wierd.
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~~~~You wanna know how I came to be here? In 2005, bored and at the urging of a friend, (who told me a local had placed a pic or two...you see where this is going....voyeuristic and nosey.)...I signed up--had a look see. Settled in to a few rooms---got bored. Was amused. Irritated at the infantile behavior and plain rude of some. I came and went. And still do at times. Like a hooker--it's a revolving door for me. ~~~~I discovered the blogs--and a desire to write--something I had never done before. Erotica--other things. And I loved it. I had the rooms, met some awesome people and some NOT so awesome. I may be here even now--just curious, ready to firt--to write. I know I am not looking for a man...or a woman. I am happy with me. ~~~~I honestly had no plan. And I am the same now as I ever was; perhaps because I have no agenda. I take it (and all) at face value and enjoy when warranted. I don't judge others lest I be judged. And yet, I can spot a twat or dickhead a mile away. Even then, I am always nice. ~~~~I like it here for the most part. I have garnered some truly wonderful friends/people; and of those very few close to heart. I ask not much; to be respected. I give as good as I get. I expect as much from myself as I do another. I alow myself the freedom to be creative. I share and tap the opportunities to delve into my own psyche and put it down. ~~~~I can't say I have changed much---or look for less than I did when I first came here. I am here--cause I wanna be. And because I can be. ~~~~Intriguing question with interesting replies. Well done!!!
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You had me at shallow cervix. It's a good thing I never receive messages from any women. This allows me to not budge on any of my parameters. I can't budge if there's no budger to budgee me. I have gotten messages from no less than 4 men lately, but they weren't on my list to begin with, so they don't count.
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And BTW...SWEEEEEEET PIC!!!
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Now just drape a strand of xmas lights around yourself and you're good to go I have to admit I have different expectations of someone who might just be for a shag or two; vs. someone who is a prospect for ongoing/serious. Like many others have said, either way they have to be reasonably intelligent. I think where I have changed is in willingness to consider someone quite a bit younger for the 'shag or two' category (I'm just too conventional to ever imagine something serious with someone 20 years younger than me, and I don't think that's what THEY'RE looking for, either).   
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Well, I first came on looking to hook up; but since I began lurking in the dark and smokey corners, reading the blogs and listening to different thoughts on random subjects, the new take on things became the spice I got out of the site...Helped me to appreciate things from another's viewpoint.
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Really great post. I came in earlier to read and had to really think about your questions. I don't think I've ever lived in a black & white world, and I do feel much like FatherDon, that even within black and white there are miles of gray and even ecru. When I first joined the sight I really had no idea what I was getting into, and I really didn't have any kind of expectations. I was coming back into my "own" after a very long time of being anything else except who I was in the chase to please a man who I should have never worried about pleasing. It was sweet freedom and in truth I really didn't know what I wanted. The more I got to know myself...and that is a biggie,knowing ME, the more I realized that I really could set my standards and that I didn't have to compromise on what I really, really wanted. Knowing what could be compromised and what was an absolute made all the difference in the world. So...my absolutes? A genuine ability to laugh, to play and to see possibilities...in all things. I have found that when someone like that walks into my life, they usually possess the others things I appreciate in a man. I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn
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First I must say "ouch"! Yes, my standards have slipped in the last 3 years. The reality is that I'm not looking for husband material - I already have one that I'm pretty crazy about. But I continue to believe that Smart is sexy, smart and articulate is sexier, and smart, articulate and funny is the best aphrodisiac of all! I also can't be around smokers or dogs - I have respiratory problems and both are triggers. Although doggy style usually is just fine! You're right, though. This process (regardless of site) makes one examine what's really important in a playmate (or partner for those looking for a permanent relationship). I've relented on no-married, and didn't feel good about participating in deception. I've given in on smokers, and wheezed for days. But personal cleanliness and hygiene is critical. No smelly feet, no crotch rot, excellent dentition required. Sigh. Can you tell I've had some interesting encounters? Mustang
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Ahem, looks like you're cheating on me.
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ah ma petite to make you laugh is what i do around here. i even do it with my pants on so there. as far as lines in the sand go. i am rethinking the older lady part, not so much the younger though. i think that will be hard for me. and not hard like you are thinking your perverty packer fan. thanks for the pimping.
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I took years and years of training with a Shaolin master before I was allowed ot use puns in public and here you go using such dangerous things willy nilly. Puns kill, woman! Have a care! Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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12/19/2011 3:34 pm |
My life is one big gray area. I was never one for black and white, too limiting for my tastes. But two things will remain set in stone, no smokers (my husband died from lung cancer and I don't want to go through that again), and no addicts. Good post. Those are my principles, and if you don't like them, well I have others at my blog Crazy Dreams
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i require all teeth present and accounted for and in good repair... and i AIN'T budging on that! everything else is negotiable EXCEPT i don't butt fuck men either...so all you guys with missingf or dirty jacked up teeth who want it in the ass...here's your sign: NO!
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12/19/2011 3:14 pm |
My comment was too serious, too nice. Thanks gottaring, for putting a bow on my Christmas present. I Love the box.
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