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Getting Bolder While Getting Older
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I believe that experience and knowledge just make things better. Of course this only applies to people with the the ability (or capacity) to learn from their experiences. Not to mention having the maturity to know everyone isn't perfect. No one person or one cocktail of hormones can achieve this, it's a cumulative effect over time. To quote Augustus McCrae in "Lonesome Dove" 'The older the violin the sweeter the music.'. That's my two cents worth, guns are cold. Take it easy, guns are cold. 
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The X and I were both fairly naive in bed. I say that to be fair. A couple of years after he left, I was pursued by an older gentleman who helped me to loosen up and talk more and try more things. But he somehow managed to get me to believe that I was beautiful...finally at 50. Sadly, I eventually realized that he was an ass, but a gift in my life when I needed one. So, the biggest difference for me is what happened between my ears this past year. And to answer the question...I'm sure I was never bad, but I'm better now because of how I approach sex with more confidence in myself and in what I know I can do to please my partner.
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9/14/2012 3:41 pm |
Great post G. To be honest, I have always been a giver and with that comes - not many orgasms for me but a lot of technical experience with oral! I have not had a lot of partners but as of late, I can honestly say I'm coming into my own. It took me 44 years to be able to let go and enjoy myself, that combined with a pretty fantastic partner to take me over the edge... who happens to be in his early 30's. I think I found my sexy side and I'm never letting it go... well not until I hit the dementia stage! 
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Just to clarify... I completely agree with you. I didn't mean that an older body is a bad thing, and believe me, I've seen many women who are older than even myself with bodies that put most 18 year olds to shame. The point I meant to convey was that a woman with and an older mind and body is more in tune with what one or the other wants. That's why I said "amazing". Being better tuned in with ones mind and body, definitely makes for a more pleasurable experience. Oh, and for the record, it's not just men in their 50s who want you...
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As many others have said, I think that the knowledge and life experiences gained over time allow us to experience life, rather than just do it (sorry, Nike), translating into richer interactions. Or, it could just be a plethora of internet porn, I'm not really sure.
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You hit all the major reasons sex gets better with age. We tend to gain confidence, knowledge, expand our horizons, learn ourselves and others around us. Hopefully we get better and better at picking great partners until we find the puzzle piece perfectly fitted for us. Great post. Kisses, LA Kisses, LA   
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One hell of a post, GR!!!!  Thinking back on it, I believe you have hit the nail right on the head...having the CONFIDENCE and the COMMUNICATION make all the difference in the world. And see, you thought I only lusted for your pix!
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I'm more confident, can communicate what I like, and listen to what he likes. sex definitely more better now! "To Be Consumed" Blog : I want to be your drug of painful withdrawals.
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Hey GR, I'm just like you except Karl could bounce $100 and get change back I was married for almost 14 years and sex was ummmm lets just say I didn't marry him for the sex but when I left and found a friend or two that found that my slighty, starting to sag parts were sexy, I learned to open up and find out what true satisfaction means..So yes we are much more eager to learn what makes us tick.. Great post  If it was good, its great but if it was bad then you call that experience E-4-N
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LOL I will have too ask Cherimore if she will make a bling about that. I bet she will. LOL  This is not meant to offend any one in any way.     
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Why is sex better for me now? Maybe I'm just finding better partners.  Seriously though, part of it is that I better understand some things. Like kissing, when I lost my virginity at 20 it was the same night as my first kiss. I didn't know how to kiss. In the last few months I've been told that I was a "really good kisser" both by the person I've kissed and that she had told others that I was. I also understand oral sex better. Am I good at it? Not sure, but I know I'm better then I used to be. But more then anything. With how little sex I get to have. I make a point of cherishing every single encounter I get to have.
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I totally get this. I'm 44, and if I knew then what I know now...look out. I was married from age 22 to age 35. Been unmarried since, had a few relationships, quite a few FWBs. I learned what I like, and when I was finally with females who would communicate, learned what they liked. I don't have a magic move, or any secret, just that I listen, learn, and pay attention. Sex is better now, even if it is a lot less often.
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Okay, this is going to be strictly a one sided response... You were, have been, are now, and always will be gorgeous. Done. Mind and body as one, it's always an unbalanced attack. Younger body + younger mind = dumb as shit. Older body + older mind = amazing. Now if we could only mix the two without causing the universe to implode, we might have something there...
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Bounce a quarter off your ass and make change? Big deal. Now if I can bounce a $50 off your ass and make change, THAT would be pretty fucking amazing.  Part of me agrees with the sentiment of your post, but the part of me (specifically my low back) that has been REALLY bothering me for the last three weeks is saying fuck that - I'll take 28 and a back that doesn't lock up suddenly. Now if I can just get my back to cooperate, I'm totally down with your message. karlbloggerfeld - Dry-humping your legs since 2007.
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The old saying with age comes wisdom ...never fit a subject better . My experiences have shown me that as a woman gets older she becomes more comfortable with her body and expressing herself . That makes her so much desirable and fun in the bedroom . While men either learn from experiences and become better lovers . Or they never pay attention and only get worse in bed as they age . Thanking god that I learned early in life to always pay attention ...lol River I guess it's just the cowboy in me  
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The pivotal moment for me was when I became single again, at age 44. My experience had largely been with 1 guy (my highschool boyfriend who became my husband). Once left to my own devices, I really became alive, discovered my sexuality in a big way, and learned what worked and what didn't by self-pleasuring. Once I knew that - and hit the dating scene - there was really no holding back. Every day, I learn more about myself. It is partly due to age, confidence, changing mores and the availability of information, together with the freedom to discuss sex with new parters. I have done lots of research, both physically and mentally, and it is still only getting better and better. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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gottaring replies on 9/13/2012 12:51 pm: You're right. Studies show that women hit their sexual peak between 38 and 45 (give or take). Unfortunately, that's also around the time that our husbands are focused on their careers and we are focused on our kids, so things don't always happen the way we want That is true about woman. Men hit there sexual peek about 18 to 21. How fair is that?? It was I think just lust and did not take very long. Now it takes longer and I am just fine with that. What ever you do have a great day. This is not meant to offend any one in any way.
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you learn to appreciate and satisfy your partner first ..you enjoy the touching the kissing not to mention the taste of each other..and enjoy toys...by the way great smile
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The sex is better because I know myself better and have a partner that is more like me in likes and dislikes when it comes to sex! You can visit my blog here FreddiesFling!
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Because I miss it and want it! Sex, that is!!! Lol! Unfortunately wife does not nor has for years. Of course, over the years on here I have found sex for sex's sake just isn't very much fun! Damn!!! Lol!
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I think what changed for me was the fact that I am no longer embarrassed to discuss anything sexual. When I was young it just wasn't done. ~~Anais Nin~~
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Why IS sex so much better for you now that you're older? is it a function of changing hormones or was there a pivotal moment (or person) that motivated the change? Wow, good question because I was just talking to me shrink about this. Physically, I've enjoyed sex a lot since my first kiss (at age 15, I was a late bloomer that way). Looking back now, I realized that I spent the first part of my sexual life as something of a trophy; the GF who would try darn near anything. Then I thought that fantastic sex was the door to love, not the other way around. Then I got married and got lost in the baby dance. 'Nuff said there. So why is sex better for me today? Because of one important person: me. I know myself well enough to know what my hard limits are both sexually, emotionally and physically. I understand that sex can be fantabulous but that love begets better sex, not the other way around. I am very okay with being alone, I've learned to fill my life with things that give it definition and meaning and color. What does that have to do with sex? Because I'm good with myself, I can be freer when I fuck. Simple as that. I don't worry about the stretch marks or jiggles because I forgave myself for being not being perfect (well mostly). I also forgive others for not being perfect. I don't take shit personally. A "no" isn't about me not being good enough it's about what the other person wants in a lover/partner/ect. Not everyone is going to like me (and vice versa). Yeah, I'm human so I have those things that I'm self conscience about but in my 40s I get that so does everyone else so I may as well just feel the anxiety and dive into the pool anyway. I
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9/13/2012 9:05 am |
Always learning and the more you discover about yourself the better it will get.
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It's funny I talked about age and sex lately in my blog too. I weight more now then in my 20's but I'm so much more confident and hot. I always tell my nutritionist, my problem is that I find myself way too hot and sexy. Maybe if I felt bad about my body I would starve and lose weight fast. But I don't. I can't avoid but genuinely find myself hot. oops. 
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