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Shopping the Competition
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Shopping the Competition So...have you? Shopped the competition, that is... Ever taken a gander at other members of the same gender? You can tell me...I can keep a secret  .On the heels of my last post regarding the Top Fan contest, I thought it might behoove me to actually look at some profiles of the ladies who are wading around in my pool of probables. What I saw surprised me. 1. There are four or five women who are consistently both friends and top fans of the men I have my eye on. It's the same chicks each time...seems we have the same taste in men. 2. "Modesty" is a dying art when it comes to men AND women where photos are concerned. 3. I have a pretty vagina. 4. There seem to be a plethora of women who need to get laid as much as I do, lol. And many of them aren't shy about it. Where are all the uptight, flaky, drama queens that you men are always complaining about?? For real- the women I saw were ready, willing and able to meet. They were standing on a virtual street corner screaming, "Fuck me, please!" They were engaging and funny, clear in their requirements (which didn't seem all that restrictive- basic stuff like non-smokers, D/D free, etc.). Wtf are y'all men complaining about????? I have seen more vageen in the past two days than I care to admit, and sure-- some of it made me lose my lunch, but there are some ladies out there who appear perfectly acceptable. I would go so far as to say they make me a little nervous, lol. No wonder I can't get laid! Lovely smiles and slim, perfect bodies (both young and old)...sigh. I'm out of my league. But enough about me and my insecurities... Have YOU taken a look to see what you're up against? Any thoughts? Remember, I can keep a secret... When it comes to sex, I need a STRONG connection. Otherwise, the page just keeps buffering and takes FOREVER to load... |
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I don't think of the other women on this site as competition. I often do an 'advanced search' to see who / how many women in my area log on to the site. It helps to keep things in perspective, as we are very few in number. I'm naturally curious to see how women describe themselves or, if you will, "market" themselves, on the site. I will read the profiles or browse the profiles' photos. I may admire the profile or I may take it as a reminder of what *not* to do on my own profile. Being aware of how other women present themselves is very useful, especially when replying to incoming messages that have me guessing what I did to elicit that particular type of communication.
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Never worried about"competition" per se, since I'm not interested in dudes who're only interested in chasing after Asian women.
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I have seen numerous attractive women's profiles here, I still use caution because a song lyric sums it up well, "I'm a nightmare wrapped in a daydream". Also, it seems like all the cool people live at least 1,000 miles from my home in flyover country, so I have to content myself with virtual interaction here in the bloglands. And trust me, you have nothing to worry about! Take it easy, guns are cold. 
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Nah. I don't worry about the competition. I know the women in my area are having their fun and getting theirs. I don't really consider any of them competition. Truthfully, I don't even look at profiles of men unless one of interest to me comes across my inbox. That happens about once a month or so? I'm too damn busy for anything else. *shrugs* "For a woman there is nothing more erotic than being understood." ~ Molly Haskell Read about Me Being Naughty o-o
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I haven't for quite a while. Back when I was more into visiting the group chat rooms, I would check out the people I was chatting with (male and female) just out of curiosity. And many of those people, I ended up meeting in person at meet and greets held at local bars. Because of my experiences with seeing the profiles and then meeting people in person,, I'd say don't get worried about your supposedly slender competition. Almost all ladies know how to take a flattering picture Heck, you'd look at my picture and assume I'm reasonably in shape, right? It's three years old. I haven't bothered to update it since I'm not in the market to meet anyone here.   
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LOL I didn't till I went to Canada and admit I have a bit of a harmless bro crush on a mutual friends husband. I think it's harmless long as you aren't thinking what does dude have that I don't. hmmm I need to check out your va jay jay to see for my self. I think both want to get laid I think we just go about it very different ways, women say I want to get laid here is the application and this is an automatic turn down. Guys say I just wanna get off I don't want to treat you as anything more than a hole. Don't compromise yourself! You are all you've got!
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You'd think so wouldn't you? But the true test comes in the contact. I too have found a host of women, like you, who seem ready, willing and able to at least meet. But...and the BUT is very large (not literally but certainly figuratively) that's where the niceness ends. Sigh. All what you see is not and I do mean NOT what it seems. Now maybe its me...maybe I am less desirable than I thought...but I'd hazard a guess that even though they appear eager to at least meet, when push comes to shove the answer is usually no...sigh. If I'm ever in your area we could teat this out...I'll definitely contact you and see if you practice what you preach...I certainly would at least hope so...
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sorry I am still stuck at your pretty vagina. were you still saying something?
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I try not to... I already have enough self-esteem issues! Seriously, as an unhappily married, short, over-weight, underendowed white male in his 50's, I find I do not need to look at the competition. i read what women are looking for on this site, and realize that, unless some woman has a serious fetish for holiday-themed sex adventures, I'm not going to get anywhere. Many of the women's bios start off with something like "tall", or " hung", or "up to age 40", or "black", or "handsome" - I might as well stop reading. There are only so many things I can fix: I will never be tall, or classically handsome, or clean-shaven, or hung, or young again... at this point, I am unwilling to leave my wife, so, while I could fix that, I will not. I have lost weight, and, while I am almost down to my college weight (AMAZING!), I was never slender. Indeed, looking over my flirts and the folks who have hotlisted me, I seem to be more of a hit with the fellows. Frankly, I decided long ago that I wasn't going to try to hookup with someone - all of the heartache involved, getting shot down by someone who doesn't know you, then trying to sneak around without my wife finding out... besides, I'd much rather blog. And perv - I love the hotlist photos I get announcements about!
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Sorry... I lost all semblance of focus and concentration at #3... 
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I keep telling myself there's no point shopping long distance. Trouble is, I don't always listen  
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Just because the book has a nice cover, doesn't mean the story is worth reading..... just sayin'..... All you can see is the persona they show the world...if I were you I wouldn't be the slightest bit nervous  "A full blown basket of hash browns with a steaming cup of 'WTF?" on the side" Enter my Lair: spudsy1000
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As far as this (or any dating site goes) no I do not check out the competition at all. I don't see a reason to. However as much as I hate to admit it I do, do this in my personal life at my *wink* Meet up groups *wink* As much as I try not to do it, it happens, especially when I'm in a lonely mood. But it always seems to boil down to me asking myself what so and so has that I don't. Why does this guy have 3 girlfriends and presumably a sex life with each, while I haven't had sex in over 3 years? It always turns into a feed the insecurities session. Which is why I try to avoid it.
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Mornin', G.  Interesting results you found there. And, yes, we have to look at every aspect of the person, because we don't want a dumbass or someone who seems to be "off". I just looked here, and out of the top 200 guys 45-60 yrs old, according to last login date (all in the last 4 days!), there's maybe 6 that have the visual appeal that I do. Yeah, I'm being completely immodest, but I know I look damned good! Most of the other guys are fat, and of the ones who post cock pics, few come close to me. Hell, I'm hung heavier that most of the guys in the hardcore porn pics I look at!  But I don't have my cock pics on my open profile. Since I can't read profiles, I can't tell how eloquent they are, or if they know how to appeal to a Lady. I don't know how many emails these guys get, but I only receive a handful a month from local chicks. The only reason I can figure for this is that I'm 5'5", so that must be a dealbreaker for a lot of women?  Either that, or my intensity scares these local chicks away?  Going OT here, but I think I'll post something about this on my blog. I've always known these local women are a little strange, but I should at least be getting SOME initial interest from them. Seeya, baby. (kisses) Si Vis Pacem Para Bellum Audentes Fortuna Iuvat Politicians. Lampposts. Assembly Required.
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I don't check out other men because it doesn't do me any good. I am who I am and checking them out doesn't change that. Also, as women here have pointed out - some guys don't read profiles, so they might think I'm interested. I'm not. The other day a local guy hotlisted me, no profile view no interaction on blogs, just hotlist. Far as women screaming "Fuck me, please!". I suggest you try an experiment. Create a male profile and try sending them a message, a respectful message, from an average male that fits their preferences . The reply most likely will be . . . When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I did once and it confirmed the not a snowballs chance in hell.. Prertty sells Using more than all the road!
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Of course I've taken a peek... and there are younger, taller, fitter, and more well-endowed than me. And then there is the fact that there are only a limited few available women... Thoughts from the Garden...
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Being standard, I can't browse profiles and haven't even considered myself "on the market" until recently. I do however, check out men's ads on Craigslist from time to time, and can honestly say that I just do it to feel a little superior. That said ...BrwneyedBBW probably has it about right; that there are profiles from both sexes saying what they WANT isn't really much of a reflection on what actually happens when it all comes down. I think both sexes have a real disconnect in knowing the difference between what they think they WANT and what they will realistically put up with once they have it in sight.
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Oh I check regularly and always have. Attracting attention on any dating/introduction site is all about marketing oneself like the proverbial can of beans. I don't understand why more people don't do it. And, just because a woman (or a man) posts a come on complete with genitalia it doesn't mean that she (or he) is going to follow through on the follow through. First, a lot of people change what they're looking for or what they are open to and don't bother to change their profiles. Next, there are a hella lot of people on this site who are here for the thrill of the ego boost. They might talk a good game about meeting but are either too scared to meet or never intended to in the first place. This might be because.....it's a dude pretending to be a guy. Another thing that goes on is the old, "I'm going to chat with you until and unless I find someone I think I like better. So remember, profiles are just window dressing that has nothing to do with how people will behave.
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No I haven't. The only time I look at a woman's profile is when I read her blog. But I've seen plenty of pictures within the blogs. Because I'm taken and only here to blog, it has never occurred to me to read a woman's profile. Now reading the men's profiles, that's an entirely different subject altogether  Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!
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