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Inside/Out WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE??? I give you a choice between real, saggy, stretch marked breasts, versus perky, firm (yet supple) breasts AND YOU CHOOSE THE REAL ONES?? Where is the superficiality? Where is the vanity? WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM? I'll tell you what it is...You're grown-ass adults with a firm grip on reality and the ability to look past the wrinkly, droopy surface to see the heart underneath. THAT right there is your "problem".  I really wanted to respond to every comment on my last post, but I realized that I'd just be repeating myself over and over again. And so this blog post was born... I'm having a breast lift. I'm adding just enough padding up top to round them out- not trying to get bigger necessarily, just fuller. You guys have only seen my breasts when they're wrangled into an underwire...what you DON'T see is that they make me miserable. Hubby couldn't care less, THAT GUY (yes, five year later he is still a HUGE part of my life) just wants me to be happy. And what would make me happy and confident would be to have breasts that didn't suffocate the heart I wear on my sleeve ever time I lay down. And while I'm at it, I'm getting a tummy tuck too. Now, I know that I don't need to justify anything to you guys- you don't judge me no matter what I do or don't do. But I'm compelled to explain my rationale, if for no other reason than to see it on "paper" myself. Many of you know the origins of the scars you've seen on my face. I've made mention of the incident many times over the course of the last five years. And though it took place almost 25 years ago, some INTERNAL and EMOTIONAL scars take longer to heal than the physical ones. I have busted my fat ass to overcome my demons. I have fought and screamed and cried and prayed and wished and lamented and... Now I'm done. Thanks in no small part to this godforsaken cesspool and the intelligent life that rises to the top (that would be you guys), I can finally see the victory of the longest battle of my life. And yes, you guys DID help me, probably more than you know. You took me from a somewhat naive 37 year old who was just starting to explore her newfound sexuality and you nurtured me. You supported me. You laughed and cried with me. The truth is that I could not have come this far without you. You offered me a safe haven to express myself and you guided me as I explored my exhibitionist tendencies and showed me that sex can be respectful and empowering. I watched women take control of their sexuality and embrace their inner passions and I learned from them. And believe me, it wasn't easy considering that my husband was...apathetic, at best. Do you have any idea what it's like to want to stretch your wings, only to be continually told that the timing isn't right? Rejection is a bitch, no matter what. But when it comes from someone you love, it's devastating. But you picked me up, dusted me off and assured me that I'm actually okay. And I will never, ever forget it. So here I am after 25 years...an empowered, intelligent, confident force to be reckoned with on the inside, yet I'm trapped in the body that I destroyed in an effort to hide myself from the world. Layers of fat, nicotine-stained lungs, and lord only knows what else...I wasn't very good to myself, was I? So I began a regimen of diet and exercise, I quit smoking and stopped eating my feelings like an ADULT should. And voila! I'm still gross, lol. Nah, I'm just messing with you. Kind of. I am still a bit overweight, but I FEEL good about my size now. What would make me feel BETTER is to streamline things. To make my OUTSIDE, match the way I feel INSIDE. And to do that, I started having microdermabrasion treatments to fade my scars, I began getting regular facials and having my grey hair colored to perk up my mood...little things like that. But it wasn't enough. These two procedures will be the last step for me. I'm addressing areas of my body that diet and exercise can't help. The rest of the blubber will take hard work, but it can be done without surgical intervention. December 18th is the day. I'm scared as fuck- it's major surgery. But Hubby is on my side, he's supportive and he's taken the following two weeks off from work to help me out at home. I've commandeered the services of one of the TOP cosmetic surgeon in the state of Wisconsin What more can I ask? Except that I kinda feel like I need your blessing. I need to know that my little Band of Misfits "gets it". I need to know that you still think I'm okay. I see the light at the end of the tunnel, Guys and Dolls. Question is, are you coming with me? When it comes to sex, I need a STRONG connection. Otherwise, the page just keeps buffering and takes FOREVER to load... |
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Yes - what she says When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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I honestly prefer natural....and I think they are beautiful. But in the end it is what makes you feel confident, that matters the most. Good luck in whatever choice you make. A story by Lucius8858
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If it will make you happier and even more confident and doesn't break the bank then go for it! I had my nose done when I was 19 and I've never regretted it.
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Hey Dear, sorry for not keeping up with your blog posts in a while. I LOVE the natural looking woman. If this IS what you want, go for it. If it improves you overall, but, I have accepted your flaws as a beautiful woman with GORGEOUS eyes to go with your GORGEOUS curves.......what more can a man ask for?
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We're on your side  I knew about your physical scars and I now know more about your emotional one's. I do love real big boobs but I can understand why many women find them to be a burden to them. We all deserve a 'lift' at some point in our lives. 
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I question your timing in having it done, but obviously it's your choice what you do with your body.
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OK, I don't believe in cosmetic surgery. If someone asks me, I'll always say don't do it (and the same goes for botox fillers or anything else like that). But if this is what you feel you have to do, of course I want you to have a successful surgery, a quick an uneventful recovery. I hope that in the long run, you get both the physical and emotional results you are looking for.
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I admire your looks, but I admire the person inside even more. Do what makes you happy, and post more pics afterward!
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Will follow you to the end of the earth. Embrace the suck
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Only if I get to see the results... up close and personal.  Thoughts from the Garden...
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Party in Gottaring's room! Hey, I get it - we all have our little scars, out little problem bits. If it will make you feel a bit happier to work a bit on the outside, why the heck not? And, yes, I get the rejection thing. It certainly is a bitch, and rather demeaning when the person who loves you just says, "No." So, take care of yourself, pamper yourself a bit, have this little thing done... and come back out here and show us the results! Yay!
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Oh I totally get it. If you're doing the other work to build your self confidence and can afford to do this part too, why not? Just keep it subtle  (I know you will, you're a woman of good taste)  
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I'm honored to belong to the people that have something wrong with them. As to your choices on getting some optional upgrades, I think that, as always you have it put together right. A lot of women decide that they want to improve their exterior appearance to make themselves feel better. A bit of looking lets you know that their exterior appearance is the least of their issues. You on the other hand are doing some improvements "To make my OUTSIDE, match the way I feel INSIDE". Bravo! You're doing it exactly right in my opinion. That's my two cents worth. Take it easy, guns are cold. 
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I am new to your blog but definitely instantly fascinated by your wit. On the first introduction into presentation of your mind, I find it so contradictory to see a woman of such obvious exceptional intelligence would ever struggle with her own identity. Your brains are surely not a product of recent development, so it is interesting to see your self-confidence was lagging behind. But I like your happy ending to your story. You provide sense of courage and achievement towards building confidence. We all need bit of that  I was one of the ones who chimed in on real over fake, but good for you. Perky always wins no matter what! Real boobs are great if small, they tend to remain beautiful for long long time. Bigger endowment, well, why not don anti-gravity boost at some point! Good luck, don't feel so afraid, you will feel fantastic and finally like a real woman who deserves love, most of all from her own self!
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Will there be pie and ice cream? Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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I agree with the others, you do whatever you want as long as it makes you happy. I think you are gorgeous the way you are
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I say do what you feel you have to do, no judgement here.
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If you're overweight what the hell does that make me? You are fine the way you are kiddo. But if it all makes you happy then go for it Don't compromise yourself! You are all you've got!
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Well hey...if it makes you feel better and you can afford it...why not? I think you are perfect just the way you are, but Improvements in your mind mean a lot to you, so do it! I'm still here...your fan forever...so don't fret and enjoy.
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I certainly understand and no explanation is ever necessary but thank you for your thoughts (as always)... It's like THAT GUY said... We all want you to be happy with YOU (inside as well as outside)! I applaud you for doing what you feel is important for your both your physical and mental balance, well being and happiness! And congrats for seeing the 'light' at the end of the proverbial tunnel and wishes for a great New Year (after the recovery)! Thinking of you on the 18th and hugs! 
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you need to do what makes you happy Hun Hope all goes well get better quick after your surgery
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Didn't see your prior post till now. I'm all for real boobs - a bit of sag is a lot nicer than a pair of rocks. IMO - be happy with what you have the pic you posted looks very good. Sexy is in the mind. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Well hell - what IS the Problem! I like UR's to stand up & salute.
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